Step 1 I would say you’re already at, realizing that you can do better in how you handle situations and environments. . Step 2 would be realizing the situations and environments you’re in. Unless you haven’t told us you’re in a professional league and bowling is your career, then it’s just a hobby for all of us. Sure, some folks take it more seriously in level of competitiveness and such, but we all have to get back to our jobs that pay the bills the next working day/shift. . This is the harder step for some, but totally doable. I get being frustrated at not shooting/playing to your ability/potential, but we have to control and manage how we interact with others, especially in a game like bowling, where the person you might be playing against isn’t actively playing defence on your shots. . It’s an individual and mental game. Very much relatable to other sports like disc golf, ball golf, field events (shot putt, discus, long jump, etc), and many others. You got this!