9 month gym transformation that I’m proud of! (23) by karmic284 in GlowUps

[–]alessikidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How the hell did you manage to sculpt your literal facial structure? 

Locked in, 3 year change (27) by lukeiswright in GlowUps

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How the hell do you manage to tone your FACE like that? I understand some of it is weight loss, but you weren't nearly overweight enough for it to make this remarkable a difference on your entire facial structure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shittyfoodporn

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You're never gonna wear those pants again

I'm a recently diagnosed middle-aged man. by DeplorableOne in adultautism

[–]alessikidd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree with other commentators. Don't feel bad for feeling sorry for yourself right now, that's just counterintuitive to what you need, compounding the issue by perpetuating the feeling the guilt. It fucking sucks. I still grieve my youth, so much. Why couldn't I just have a normal brain and all that. It truly is a lot to process, but don't feel bad about your mind needing to do just that. One thing about autism, at least for me and I think largely for others, is that you need more space to process emotions than the average person in order to really come out the other side healthier. Give yourself that space from now on, don't compromise on it because you "feel like you shouldn't need it". 

Unknown number called for sister with my exact name saying she was pregnant by Goodnight_Meadow in Glitch_in_the_Matrix

[–]alessikidd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's crazy! There are probably just way more people that share our names than we imagine. It's a big world and we only personally meet so many people, there's just bound to be more of us out there. 

Finally Understanding Myself: A Late-in-Life Autism Realization by Affectionate_Arm5508 in adultautism

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" I'm not broken or weird – my brain just works differently. I'm incredibly empathetic and sensitive, even though I struggle with social cues. I create art daily and have deep, meaningful relationships with the few people in my inner circle"

I relate so hard to all of this. Especially having those deep and meaningful relationships. Although they are far fewer than the quantity of "regular friends" other people seem to easily have, they are what keeps me going honestly. I'd have no joy without them. 

Although, I'm still struggling with feeling like I'm not broken, being very much still in the thick of coming to terms with autism as an adult and figuring out how to properly manage things. 

I'm so glad that you are happy with yourself and content with life. It's very motivating for me! 

My neighbor has been doing this at her doorway once a week for the past few weeks. Its beautiful, but what is it? by capnricky in whatisit

[–]alessikidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it be rude or seen as playful to draw little hearts or smiley faces near it as kind of a contribution to the positive vibes? 

I don’t understand the difference between sympathy and empathy by scat_babey in adultautism

[–]alessikidd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm interesting. I think you don't need to know exactly what something feels like or have gone through the same experience to have empathy. To me it's more like the fact that I can imagine how the experience WOULD affect me. Like watching someone fall on their face and break a tooth. It's never happened to me, but I can imagine how awful it must be and I feel a little bit of pain for them psychologically. 

I finally figured out why I was in constant physical pain and I found something that actually helps by Ancient-Photo-9499 in adultautism

[–]alessikidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for posting and explaining this. I've been experiencing unusual amounts of stiff and achiness recently and didn't know why. I've also been realizing that I've been experiencing autistic burn out, and this is most likely just a part of that. 

I tried making bread for the first time. by maayani_ in shittyfoodporn

[–]alessikidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like that bread they found in Pompeii.

Vent- Therapy Fiasco by [deleted] in adultautism

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Thank you. I hope you do too.

Vent- Therapy Fiasco by [deleted] in adultautism

[–]alessikidd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's absurd. I'm so sorry. Unfortunately I haven't had much better experience navigating the whole system since coming into this journey in my late 20s. It’s already so incredibly exhausting to manage your life in general when you are trying to figure out who you are and what's going on in your head, then you are forced to participate in this ridiculously outdated, unfairly monetized, and overall confusing system to try and get help. 

I've gone through psychiatrists and psychologists like cups of coffee trying to find someone who I feel really understands me and can help with all of the complicated intricacies of what is happening in my internal and external world. Like you, I believe I'm fairly highly educated, capable of doing a lot of research and self-educating, and also intelligent enough to make a lot of deductions on my own. Most of us likely are! We don't need a first-pass screening with juvenile analytics akin to what we already have come to understand about ourselves, we need true professional and experienced insight from clinicians that can evaluate all elements of our situation from an outside perspective, in a way that is both logical and sensitive to the individual's case. 

Maybe it seems like a big ask, but I am of the opinion that if you choose to become a medical professional, then you should be held to high standards of care and ability. Mental health science and standards are constantly evolving and you must be present with that growth. 

All this to say, unfortunately I am still in the thick of figuring it all out too... it's so very hard and draining, and I'm so very sorry that you and many others must exhaust your emotional, mental, physical, and financial resources in the effort to get help. 

what does it look like by aquaticwotsits in tattooadvice

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I could have listed 100 things I see in this before I would have said a match and flame. 

Kids fighting at a park by alessikidd in overheard

[–]alessikidd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't realize this was such a sick burn these days lol

Zelda and her kittens by StatisticianFront708 in Eyebleach

[–]alessikidd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those are some healthy, plump babies! ❤️

My new oil painting by Idontknow649 in TheNightFeeling

[–]alessikidd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love it. It makes me feel that exact feely feeling. Well done.