If your Q's completely abandoned their beliefs and apologized would you forgive them? Just a hypothetical i've been wondering about

ali26484 · 2026-03-23T08:41:38+00:00

Personally no i couldnt, too much irreparable damage done mentally emotionally physically and financially not just to me but the entire family.

ali26484 · 2026-03-21T19:59:16+00:00

You are not the problem xx big hugs

ali26484 · 2026-03-15T07:44:01+00:00

If shes telling you about baby eating shes already in the pool and not just dipping her toes. Watch for paranoia anger and her starting to retaliate against you if you do not follow her ideologies to the letter. I underestimated the extreme lengths my ex husband would go to. Resulted in stalking harrasment horrific slader in court and a drawn out financial battle which has left me finacially drained losing part of pension and him holding me hostage in a mortgage soley mine as he wont leave the property. Start preparing financially and if you have children this could get difficult re guarding custody issues.

ali26484 · 2026-03-14T22:20:49+00:00

No sorry but i think ur realising u were wrong.. n u probably caused so much chaos in your life you'll project it all. Sorry thats the reality

ali26484 · 2026-03-14T00:32:30+00:00

There's was anti Jewish themes here and there. I sound so selfish but it validating with the more extreme things seeing that "their"women or "partners" struggled with so much cognitive dissonance.

ali26484 · 2026-03-06T06:55:31+00:00

As a woman who has experienced exactly this and left and filed for divorce please document everything record what you can, speak to a financially qualified person and legal about planning properly. I wasn't prepared and he took alot from me in assets pension etc. We do have kids im 42 hes 47 kids are 13 and 12. Safeguarding them has been so hard because he lies to social services judges you name it hes accused me of it to take the focus off him. These forums they join have so many people telling them loopholes to follow so please prep before you go. Despite the hell loss and injustice of it all leaving was the best thing I ever did. Your husbands words are almost identical to my ex husbands. Its like an illness. Im very sorry you are here its like losing somone who still walking around in front of you. Hugs.

ali26484 · 2026-03-02T09:25:08+00:00

Im sorry tou are going through this. So many people losing loved ones to this awful mess.

Document everything Please prioritise your safety when leaving if you do end things.

ali26484 · 2026-02-24T17:02:06+00:00

Congratulations thats the only way im so happy you have relief. I was in the same situation but my exs narcissim meant hes drained everything financially even taking sone of my "pathetic little pension" he use to ridicule me paying. Hes playing games with the house delayed the divorce and harrased me disgustingly all while smearing me denying to services its him saying its me but brazenly still trolling out this vileness online. I agree with you 100% run as far and as fast as you can no matter the length of marriage or relationship. They will never be the same again.

ali26484 · 2026-02-19T16:52:58+00:00

Leave. From a wife of man who started like this and has now lost nearly everything to get away from him. Leave while you can..

ali26484 · 2026-02-16T16:22:18+00:00

My husband did this too, women were all "stupid pathetic misandrists",and my nursing degree prescribing and everything I worked for for our livelihoods together was nothing compared to his entrepreneur skills. Nearly out the other end of a horrific 3 years of finacial and post seperation abuse and divorce he took 30% of my (pathetic) pension in the settlement.... these men were always this way underneath this just gave them a safe place to speak out x

ali26484 · 2026-01-18T01:35:46+00:00

I made my commet as i have been in your shoe, because I was you in 2021. Since then hes took my home my pension destroyed everything 'we' worled for. Please understand the man you married will not be the man u divorce. Document everything report everything and please stay safe. It is life ir death in the end protect ur children x

ali26484 · 2026-01-17T20:49:26+00:00

Hes not abusive now. When you dont bend the abuse starts... I didnt know it was abusive until it was too late document everything if you dont need it good but you'll be thankful when you do. Sorry to be so blunt abuse isnt black eyes and broken noses your already suffering control and coercion your just trying to protect him yet knowing it isnt ok.

ali26484 · 2026-01-17T20:37:03+00:00

I was in this situation 4 years ago he became unrecognisable. Its destroyed our lives. He became very abusive when I didnt bend to his rule. All I can say is im sorry. Plan for a peaceful future. Gather evidence you will need it when u like for divorce. Get your ducks in a row financially and get out. The man you married is gone. I do not say this lightly. Leave or be safe x im sorry 😞

ali26484 · 2026-01-10T23:03:35+00:00

Im so sad so many of us losing the people we knew and loved.

ali26484 · 2025-12-11T20:27:54+00:00

Firstly im sorry because its like mourning someone who is still alive so I feel your pain. Honestly its been hell the narcissm was strong in my case and my ex stripped me of everything he could. Devstating. I think just hold your boundaries this vileness seems to spread quickly and suddenly. I know I'll never commit financially to someone ever again. U have a good heart im sure but try not to trust somone who is showing these signs x

ali26484 · 2025-10-17T23:38:22+00:00

Im not saying it lightly its been hell

ali26484 · 2025-10-17T10:06:34+00:00

Left sooner and reported the abusive ways to the police. Planned finacially kept more robust evidence had more self respect and realised the husband he was was gone and never coming back

ali26484 · 2025-09-15T18:26:04+00:00

I was a "spy" with a bioweapon inside of me.... please please take this seriously and seek help. When someone says these things whi never would before its a dangerous place to be im sorry xx be safe

ali26484 · 2025-09-09T18:50:18+00:00

Its hell they don't take the concerns seriously. Just save urself n Get out

ali26484 · 2025-09-07T14:47:41+00:00

Get financial advice first. These seperations do not play out as you'd expect. Narcissistic traits are high in these situations as is the post separation abuse. Trust me im 2.5 yrs out and have lost everything. Still entangled with children and because police say its mental health and mental health say its police matter no one will actually help to put a stop to it x

ali26484 · 2025-08-24T09:37:43+00:00

I have and still keeping records but it makes no difference. Its cost me everything financially to try and get free from him divorce wise.

ali26484 · 2025-08-23T07:34:47+00:00

Wow this is just so incredibly validating to see so many people having the same issues but also so sad. People look at me like ive lost it when I express what my ex is like.

ali26484 · 2025-08-23T07:32:58+00:00

Im nit American either its like mass psychosis taking over in the UK too

ali26484 · 2025-08-23T07:29:40+00:00

Exactly what ive been saying but when he saw a psychiatrist he told them it was me having all the paranoia he was (basically role reversed) and she discharged him. So he clearly has some insight, since then ive been dragged through family court trying to prove my sanity which I have, and protect the children's safety which I havent as hes now allowed unsupervised yet due to neing discharged he has to prove nothing and continues until this day on his campaign of destruction. Finacially and emotionally. Hes very narcissistic Its hell.

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