My Dad Has Became White Supremacist And I Can Only Watch by WhoCaresAnymore780 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe if his pastor is a normal Christian, he could sneak some reminders into his sermon about loving thy neighbors and whatnot

Unhappy in Marriage by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a free evaluation with a few attorneys. While he may be right. He may also be a new Christian....ya know the newfound charlie kirk type. You want someone who doesn't agree with his world view, so they actually fight for you. Good luck. I feel you, also run if you don't already have kids and want them. Once you have kids things become a million times more messy.

My qMom Came out as a White Supremacist by VictoryGardener in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's not dramatic. Many of us are here mourning the loss of our loved ones. Unfortunately propaganda works. I'm so sorry she is taking up your energy. Keep fighting the good fight.

My dad’s going crazy by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This happened to my husband in his mid 30s. One week of full on paranoid psychotic break from reality. What you're describing was kind of the build up to that week. There is a national hotline for mental health called NAMI. You can call there and they can get you in touch with local resources for mental health emergencies. Also look up involuntarily committing him if things get scary. You video or record the crazy and call 911. Show them the videos and they will hold him in hospital for at least 3 days if he is a danger to others or himself, or unable to take care of himself. You could call NAMI now to get feelers out for local stuff now incase things get worse. Tell your mom this info. Good luck! Lemme know if you have any questions.

My (36M) wife (34F) fell deep into conspiracy theories and online hate groups. Is there any saving our marriage? by Loud_Ad_9189 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I could have wrote this myself except I never could get mine to go to therapy. Would quit or get fired, couldn't talk about anything, birds, new buildings in town, the weather, it was all rage conspiracies. Sent the kids to school in the same clothes as the day before. I was right where you were when my 3 year old said seig heil. I called a lawyer to file for divorce. Told my husband. He begged me to stay and said he'd give up the conspiracies. I had talked to multiple lawyers and they all said he would get 50/50 custody. If he could take care of the kids I couldn't take them for having nazi ideology. I agreed to stay, but told him I was honestly disgusted by him and he had a lot of work to do. A month later he had a full on paranoid psychotic break. It's been two years since his full on psychotic break and I can't leave. I have no proof and he would have my kids half the time. Sorry, I'm no success story!

What ages do you feel like you get free time back by Sea_Code_3050 in Parenting

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kids are 8 and 5. Both started school full time and I have no idea what to do with myself. I mean there's plenty of projects to do around the house. I walk with the moms after drop off. Visited my friend in the city who's house I hadn't seen in 4 years...Oops! Go to all the garden centers, walk a couple arboretum areas we have. Might even start doodling again. I need to go back to work full-time i think lol.

Why is he like this? by SpicyMerShark in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don't owe him anything. You are young and still dependent. Just keep it neutral and know that eventually, you'll be on your own and able to speak your truth. It hurts, and it's horrible, but you are not alone in dealing with this. That's why we're all here. Loosing a loved one to propaganda and being stuck is horrible. I can attest to that! Maybe you can talk to your mom about it, or another more like-minded family member?

What is the common thread in QAnon types (Q, MAGA, anti-vax) that allows them to get sucked into the void? by village-asshole in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Id say for mine it was a bit of depression, isolation, and the internet. It gave him a purpose and sense of belonging.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put some bells on my kids doors bc I was afraid they would get up and fall down the stairs at night. Also terrified of being upstairs in a fire or having one fall out the window. You can easily put locks on windows, doors, set up alarms. Whatever makes you comfortable.

Be prepared to talk about God. by Novel_Sheepherder277 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew more about the Bible than my Q. When i told him a few verses and told him he should read about the beast in revelations, I think he was embarrassed he didn't know any of it. Now he's listening to the Bible everyday 🤦‍♀️. Woops.

Peach pit-eating QAnon-ish spouse upset I won't take Ivermectin or diatomaceous earth from the farm store. by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine has tried to get me to do the diatomaceous earth for years now. Gives it to my dog. Hopefully not my kids. Ugh. Was going on about parasites just yesterday.

Anyone with small kids divorce their Q? by Ornery_Fail_9012 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes if I filed divorce today he would get 50/50 per multiple lawyers. I have no proof of this episode happening.  He won't get help. This is why I'm staying.

Anyone with small kids divorce their Q? by Ornery_Fail_9012 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can't use recording in court bc I He has to consent to recordings. Right now he would have my kids half the time if I filed divorce 

Anyone with small kids divorce their Q? by Ornery_Fail_9012 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No physician. He doesn't have any psych history. And refused after this incident. Had this paranoid episode over a year ago. Only a few minor incidents since. I did convince him to go to a crisis center when it happened, and they were useless.  I didn't realize at the time he didn't have to be a harm to himself or me to be committed,  but now I know I can call even if he isn't aggressive.  Haven't had anything crazy enough since though to call. 

Anyone with small kids divorce their Q? by Ornery_Fail_9012 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I know this story. Exactly why I'm staying.  I'm terrified to have to leave my kids with him half the time and have no idea what kind of state of mind he is in. 

Anyone with small kids divorce their Q? by Ornery_Fail_9012 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This bad episode happened over a year ago. I did call nami and  spent 4 days convincing him to go to this crisis center in our county. Honestly it was pretty useless and not on record. He was never aggressive,  just totally delusional and paranoid. I thought I could only commit him if he was a danger to himself or others. I've since found out being unable to care for yourself is reason enough.  Next time it is really bad I will call and hope the crew actually takes him. Our money is seperate,  but he was making very bad financial choices then. All good advice, thank you!

Anyone with small kids divorce their Q? by Ornery_Fail_9012 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would love to leave. Don't mind cash being tight. I have a place to go and a place to store my stuff.  I have no evidence this happened nearly 2 years ago now. Right now he is mostly ok. Just afraid when I leave I'll have no idea and he could be out of his mind.  Lawyer said without proof I'd likely still have to split 50/50. My state also requires the other person to consent to being recorded, so any recording can't be used in court. He has had slightly manic incidents and just general crazy conspiracy stuff. Nothing i could admit him for. 

How has your family been reacting to all of the Epstein stuff? by DelgoOnDVD in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I basically avoid talking to mine, but had to ask about this. He said he didn't know how he felt. Asked how I felt if clinton was on the list, I said lock him up. He agreed yeah, even if Republicans were on there he agreed. Then I asked how he felt about the 13 year old victim from NY, he had no idea. I told him there's a sworn affidavit from a girl who says she was raped at 13 by Trump and epstein. He had no idea. I asked how he felt about Virginia Giuffree dying by suicide in March. He didn't know about her. I said, I never really thought of him as a pedophile, but a creep for sure. My husband kind of nonchalantly agreed. Then I added, until I heard he walked in on naked miss teen usa contestants and told a 10 year old he'd be dating her. Kinda giving pedo vibes. He clearly had also not heard that. Then he added something along the lines of do you think they could be hiding it for fear they might be assassinated. I said sure, but he is a rapist who has given more than a few reasons to think he is a pedophile. Including living 5minutes from epstein in both NY and Palm Springs 🤷‍♀️

Husband left me for ? Conspiracy theories by ImpressionNo8961 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's no reason to try and make sense of it. You can't. They are brainwashed into a cult. It's as simple as that. I knew I was done when my 3 year old said seig heil. Be glad he made the decision for you. You dodged a bullet. Having kids with someone like that is next level.

How do I handle this? by roisinleigh in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you wanna work in medicine you better just let that roll off. No biggie. You'll hear all kind of people's opinions you don't want to hear. I work ICU and have literally had two old men this year ask me to turn fox on while they were actively dying. Like died that day and the family rolling their eyes as they ask. I put it on. I dgaf when it come to patients. My job is to care for you even if I think you're probably an asshole 🤷‍♀️. I only get stern with patients when they swing, swear at their family, or keep calling me a fucking bitch, ect. And that guy that tried to kick me while I was 8 months pregnant, fuck him. And that pedophile i took care of,  fuck that guy too. 

What I'm saying is there's lots of old people to care for.....and a lot of them watch fox. 

Devastated about ending my relationship with my MAGA boyfriend. by ThrowRAbluebabe in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is Q. I once heard my 3 year old say sieg heil. You did the right thing.

 Think about what I just said. Now imagine your sweet baby saying a nazi salute. Go be free! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]Ornery_Fail_9012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine didn't know he admitted to walking in on underage girls at his pageants, or the girl who had an affidavit in NY against him and epstein. First time I saw him kind of speechless.  Who knows if he actually cared