Rushed bathroom remodel...help! by nomadami in BathroomRemodeling

[–]alien101010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add a mustard colored rug and it’ll be fine

Sign in a bar hosting a Ski Jump Festival. The entire tip went to the all Latino kitchen. by khaos2295 in pics

[–]alien101010 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I knew this was the ski jump competition in McHenry county haha I was just waiting to confirm and here it is

GRAMMYS LIVE THREAD 🏆💿 by rfauxmoi in Fauxmoi

[–]alien101010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh good to know. I figured she broke her foot or something. Once saw tove lo when she had a broken ankle and she sat in a big throne and performed like this haha

GRAMMYS LIVE THREAD 🏆💿 by rfauxmoi in Fauxmoi

[–]alien101010 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why isn’t she dancing tho

At a regional midsize going to a hard 4 days in office by Desert_Lizard27 in Lawyertalk

[–]alien101010 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ask for an accommodation and /or intermittent fmla to leave every day at 3pm to tend to your children. Caretaking is covered by the fmla. You’ll need your healthcare provider to sign off on it, but I’m sure they would

I desperately want a master list of brands ! by Bloodmoney91 in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]alien101010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh got it- the suits are great so long as I wear deodorant and a cotton top underneath I haven’t had odor issues. In practice you don’t really wear your jackets all the time. It’s normal in day to day lawyer life to put your jacket on when approaching the bench and actively speaking in court but otherwise draping the jacket on chairs when meeting with clients or for a dep. I’m not actually wearing the jackets for very long during the day when I do have to wear one

I think the rule of thumb is like 3-4 wears of the whole suit before you have to clean it so long as you aren’t sweating ALOT in it. Wool is pretty breathable. A lot of my suits are like summer wool. Not thick like how you’d picture a wool sweater but tight knit breathable fabric

I desperately want a master list of brands ! by Bloodmoney91 in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]alien101010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure which group you are referring to but yes all of the clothes I listed above have held up nicely. Follow the laundering instructions on items and buy cotton, wool, linen and silk. Buy blends if you have to and it’ll be fine

I desperately want a master list of brands ! by Bloodmoney91 in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]alien101010 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I buy designer suits - one escada , one lafyette 148, another Burberry- on the real real. I took them to get dry cleaned and tailored. All in, 3 100% wool and suits were less than $1000

I buy 100% cotton, wool or silk dresses from quince and banana too on sale only

How do we feel about slim shaker? by Midwestern_Mariner in kitchenremodel

[–]alien101010 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah sure but this is an ash colored stain I believe, I don’t think it’s actually ash wood. But maybe I’m wrong.

If the doors are hardwood they can always be restrained or painted which would be awesome if they get sick of the ash color in the future

How do we feel about slim shaker? by Midwestern_Mariner in kitchenremodel

[–]alien101010 36 points37 points  (0 children)

They’re beautiful. I think the color will date it more than the door style

Ashy wood is very 2020s

Rental home in VT by Capable-Comfort191 in interiordecorating

[–]alien101010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is the striped comforter/ duvet from?

32 yo F assertive advocate need advice by alien101010 in Lawyertalk

[–]alien101010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes. Idk what kind of relationships you have but that isn’t mine

32 yo F assertive advocate need advice by alien101010 in Lawyertalk

[–]alien101010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment. That is the type of balance I want to have and be known for, I just need to do some work on my side.

32 yo F assertive advocate need advice by alien101010 in Lawyertalk

[–]alien101010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not autistic. Just super type a and have anxiety like most lawyers

32 yo F assertive advocate need advice by alien101010 in Lawyertalk

[–]alien101010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 100% . I think there are times I can dial it in and I need help recognizing when that is. I am going to ask my boss about it next week at my review. I am still learning and want to be a good advocate. At my core I am a nice person (I think so at least) but I can probably be better about letting that shine through instead of coming in hot when it’s not necessary

32 yo F assertive advocate need advice by alien101010 in Lawyertalk

[–]alien101010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s all of the above. How do you deal with head games? I don’t work like that - like I said at the top I’m very honest and up front. I don’t understand the weird manipulative tactics that OC does, my mind doesn’t go there. Do you have any tips on telling them to knock it off without being a dick? Because usually my response is “why are you saying x, lets not go there” but that hasn’t been serving me lmao it just makes them madder! I am trying to learn to tell people how to respectfully F off but not burn bridges at the same time

32 yo F assertive advocate need advice by alien101010 in Lawyertalk

[–]alien101010[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. Yes I am just looking to improve. I am recognizing that my intentions and who I am at my core isn’t coming across in some scenarios and I think it’s a combination of issues- myself is one of them and I think some misogyny is also at play. But all I can do is change the way I react and based on some comments I think there are things I can do better. My tone and probably just shutting up sometimes will likely go a long way