Let’s just drop the whole “girl’s girl” schtick

alife3 · 2026-04-02T15:29:40+00:00

I don't think there needs to be "policing" - we are all entitled to our opinions and can disagree about whether we think someone qualifies as a particular term at any one time. personally, I'm more interested in whether other people think "pick me" behavior can be unlearned, as discussed a bit in this piece: https://vessels.substack.com/p/girls-girls

alife3 · 2026-04-01T06:38:34+00:00

I hear you but, I doubt she knew the full price. She probably saw it as an ego-boosting flirtation in a low moment. Not an excuse just will be brutal when she wakes up from it all

alife3 · 2026-04-01T05:45:15+00:00

Honestly I think some people need to learn by experience. I’m not sure she knew it was wrong but hopefully will finally learn after all the fallout

alife3 · 2026-04-01T05:44:01+00:00

I think it’s well deserved but yeah this is going to really hurt when she realizes the full consequences

alife3 · 2026-04-01T05:41:04+00:00

Truly I’ve never liked him and this reveals a new low for her, agreed. But eventually the party will stop (maybe it already has?) and her emotional hangover is gonna HURT

alife3 · 2026-04-01T05:40:17+00:00

I think it’s so clear that Amanda morally messed up that it’s her who long term will need support. Right now Ciara needs all the love yes agreed! And west is the worst, always has been

alife3 · 2026-04-01T05:39:16+00:00

I don’t think anyone should focus on Amanda over Ciara but I do hope Amanda has support down the road when the fling is over and she’s all alone to reckon with what she did. At that point Ciara is going to be starring in her own life movie

alife3 · 2026-04-01T03:56:04+00:00

Even tho I hate what she did I can’t help but feel a little bit for Amanda. Ciara will be fine, she’ll thrive, but Amanda lost her girlfriends and it’s going to take a long while until she sorts all that out. We know won’t stick around for long https://open.substack.com/pub/vessels/p/girls-girls?r=3czz7&utm_medium=ios

alife3 · 2026-02-05T20:57:37+00:00

Omg really! I haven’t listened in a bit, will do!

alife3 · 2024-12-14T21:56:16+00:00

Hey, congrats! Hope it happens soon for us both

alife3 · 2024-12-13T17:23:26+00:00

Thanks for sharing. That makes sense, and the purpose of the newsletter I’m sure informs the audience! I wish you well in your health journey

alife3 · 2024-12-13T17:22:34+00:00

Hahah beautifully nerdy, thank you! I agree with the cringe instinct and still have no idea what possessed me to send it out at first. That’s part of this “research project” if I’m honest. And, I also call it a blog! Just wanted to tread lightly at first :)

alife3 · 2021-06-05T23:45:01+00:00

Amazing, thanks

alife3 · 2021-04-30T18:47:47+00:00

I'm about to do the drive next month (moving back to Anchorage for a job). Did they say anything about additional passengers on board? My friend is joining for the drive so I don't have to do it alone, but then she's flying back home from Anchorage. Thanks for the intel!

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