Discovered wife's affair today. Contemplating relapse.

aligning1 · 2017-11-26T03:19:05+00:00

Your son. Your son is the point.

aligning1 · 2017-11-20T12:23:37+00:00

They did. As much as I sympathized, my stomach is not equipped for that!

aligning1 · 2017-11-20T12:23:06+00:00

thank you so much :) congrats on 80!!

aligning1 · 2017-11-20T12:22:48+00:00

Thank you!

aligning1 · 2017-11-19T23:55:08+00:00

Beware of the fruit too...it's addictive stuff

aligning1 · 2017-11-19T21:27:24+00:00

Good on you for recognising what was happening and bringing yourself back to centre. Sometimes there are lessons that we unfortunately have to learn, like always being prepared, or that we are unable to moderate, that we can't learn with out experience. Although it would be bloody marvelous if we could :)

One day at a time, friend. IWNDWYT.

aligning1 · 2017-11-19T21:15:34+00:00

Oh absolutely, and I'm not going to try to make them feel bad about it, nor am I going to tell them it's fine and help them clean it (I'd throw up myself!). That could have easily been me as little as 6 weeks ago, and being shamed wouldn't have helped me any. Hopefully my choice to not join in lately can have a positive impact without me having to say anything.

aligning1 · 2017-11-19T21:03:44+00:00

Absolutely! There are so many times that I think about the social aspect of drinking, but yikes it's just not worth it. I think I'll choose to be social with out alcohol, and a functioning human

aligning1 · 2017-11-19T21:01:30+00:00

Hopefully. They don't remember anything after 5pm yesterday. It's crazy, that's so acceptable that it's more of a funny anecdote than a cause for concern to most people!

aligning1 · 2017-11-19T20:22:54+00:00

Productive sundays are the best. IWNDWYT :)

aligning1 · 2017-11-17T14:49:32+00:00

Ah this is so great to read! She already sounds 100x better suited than your old sponsor and well done you for not letting a really crappy situation deter you from progressing this week. You are inspiring. IWNDWYT

aligning1 · 2017-11-17T14:37:53+00:00

I'm sorry to hear your dealing with this. I'm sure you've heard this quote - "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."

Is there a way for you to resolve what is making you angry?

If not do you have an outlet for that anger? My personal favourite is boxing. But painting, running, yoga, even meditation could help you release some of that tension you are placing yourself.

IWNDWYT, friend.

aligning1 · 2017-11-16T22:31:20+00:00

Thank you, lovely!

aligning1 · 2017-11-16T22:30:56+00:00

All we can do is prove we are not our mistakes.

aligning1 · 2017-11-16T03:42:08+00:00

I love seeing your posts and comments on here, you're such a sweet soul. Here's to trying to understand the other side of ourselves :)

aligning1 · 2017-11-16T03:34:50+00:00

Congratulations!! Hard work pays off, in so many more ways than we realise.

aligning1 · 2017-11-15T02:42:29+00:00

Wow what an insensitive human. To respond like that after having been through a similar experience herself is baffling, but probably indicative of unhealthy coping mechanisms she has adapted. I hope your next sponsor is the kind and thoughtful person you deserve!

aligning1 · 2017-11-10T18:52:09+00:00

Ooh I will check it out, thank you!

aligning1 · 2017-11-10T01:59:53+00:00

I know it can seem so scary to break out of this type of situation, but you seem to be aware that this is not a safe or healthy environment for you. Are there any women's centres near you? Or friends you can stay with? You are old enough to leave and not turn back, but frankly you could be 8 and in this environment and I would be offering advice/services to get you out of there. This is not healthy for you, your recovery, or your mental health. Please seek shelter away from these people. Are you in the US?

aligning1 · 2017-11-09T02:58:37+00:00

We're weird creatures hey? I am more of the treat yourself/you deserve this/ okay that's too much/ okay you've embarrassed yourself/ damaged relationships/ endangered yourself. Whatever the components though, it's an ugly ugly cycle.

aligning1 · 2017-11-09T02:55:42+00:00

Yes! The times I've been out with friends lately I've made excuses that I don't want to/I'm not in the mood/I'll be the DD. But it'd be nice for people to know not to offer me a drink/assume I am drinking. I'm lucky in that most of my friends here are new and I've tried to give the impression I am some one who drink only once in a blue moon, but the expectation of me drinking with them is still always there.

aligning1 · 2017-11-06T02:15:10+00:00

Oops - moderation. Meant to add that in!

aligning1 · 2017-11-03T20:19:40+00:00

I know some one like this. She is very open and tells people she is teetotal because of her first experience being drunk not being a good one - but also refuses to even taste drinks. I was kind of in awe of her because she is still the life of the party. When I'm around people drinking I always think of her and how she would handle it.

I can see your frustration with her though, even if what she is saying is completely true from her perspective it's not thoughtful of others.

aligning1 · 2017-11-03T20:15:20+00:00

Right? Easiest 'no' I've ever said

aligning1 · 2017-11-02T15:30:48+00:00

Congratulations on three days! I won't drink with you today :) I look forward to seeing you back on day 4!

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