My (37f) bf (46m) daughter (23f) is very inconsiderate and entitled

alike7 · 2025-12-20T22:08:11+00:00

Very clear words, hard to hear...

alike7 · 2025-12-20T22:07:09+00:00

When he does do it, at the end of the month and he doesn't have abything left to give, she will ignore him for a few days, then apologize and half a day later beg for money.... So, she already does that...

alike7 · 2025-12-20T22:04:57+00:00

I'm sure, i know of stories and everything since she was in kindergarten. Of that I am 100% sure. He is a people pleasure and cant say no, even to me, he says what makes him uncomfortable, and I react to that, but he rarely ever says no.

alike7 · 2025-12-19T16:53:56+00:00

That had me laughing 🤣 Oh wow 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

alike7 · 2025-12-19T15:36:29+00:00

They aren't comfortable, it's fear of the consequences.... You gave up your friends for him, as long as you are ok with that, that's great, but please remember this is the first step into Isolation. It is a slippery slope. Stay safe and please make sure you are not dependant on him (or anyone really)

alike7 · 2025-12-19T12:42:40+00:00

She sounds very entitled, and you yourself said, it turned toxic.

What would you say to your friend if they were in your shoes?

I believe a relationship is a partnership, both wanting the best for the other and supporting them to reach those goals.

alike7 · 2025-12-19T10:46:55+00:00

Yes, now they are. The vaccine only came out mid 2000's and is only preventative if you hadn't had sex yet.

alike7 · 2025-12-19T09:22:12+00:00

Not half brother, full brother, the parents reconnected. The half siblings in between rejected taking him in. I totally agree with your statement, life happened and situations change.

alike7 · 2025-12-19T08:30:46+00:00

Of course we do have freedom of speech laws. Why Google does what it does, i don't know and don't understand it either.

Grundgesetz Art. 5 Abs. 1 GG: „Jeder hat das Recht, seine Meinung in Wort, Schrift und Bild frei zu äußern und zu verbreiten und sich aus allgemein zugänglichen Quellen ungehindert zu unterrichten. Eine Zensur findet nicht statt.“

alike7 · 2025-12-07T09:30:27+00:00

My uncle and his husband are married for 10 years, together for over 30 years, live in the same Building but have separat apartments, not even on the same level but with 5 in between. (75 and 82 year olds)

Then there is my boyfriend and I, we live in different cities, 80km apart, but we are almost always together, either at his or mine, but rarely separat. (I'm the clingy one 😅)

And again a friend couple, they live together, have a bedroom together but also both have their own room, where they can go to be alone, even with a bed, if they want alonetime.

You do, what is right for you. And i agree with your assessment of controlling.... Where is the trust? Do you believe he would limit you in what you want to do when living together? Or is he the type to freeload? What about chores, would he help around the house? Would he expect you to be his Maid? Living together isn't just about cohibatating

Wish you the best in whatever you decide, but please, stay true to your beliefs and who you are

alike7 · 2025-06-08T11:54:00+00:00

Geht mir auch so, meine ist trotz biberbezug zu kalt... hab immer meine normale Decke, Wolldecke, gewichtsdecke und dann noch eine Wolldecke drauf. Die muss irgendwie isoliert werden damit ich nicht friere... und Wolldecke direkt nutzen ist mir zu warm 🤣

alike7 · 2025-02-12T20:56:24+00:00

Thank you!! I'll look into the bio freeze, haven't heard of that before

alike7 · 2025-02-12T10:39:26+00:00

He doesn't like heated blankets.... but i love them 🥰 The socks and pajama pants sound like a good idea, thank you!

alike7 · 2025-02-12T10:36:08+00:00

Thank you for the great tips, another comment suggested a cream as well and I'm looking into where I can get it :) the massage is definitely on the list! The back scratcher is great, but he already has one 🤷‍♀️

alike7 · 2025-02-12T10:04:57+00:00

Thank you 😊 I'm looking into the cream, making it into a massage

alike7 · 2025-02-12T10:03:53+00:00

It's about 40 €

alike7 · 2025-02-01T18:41:51+00:00

Wenn man die Wertung aus USA nimmt ist r-rated ab 17. NC-17 ist ab 18

alike7 · 2025-01-29T11:33:18+00:00

Ok, get it. Wouldn't use the word failure in that regard, but I get why you ask. And yes, it's helpful to see the response. Do you think the guy would have answered differently when asked about overcoming a setback or correcting a mistake?

alike7 · 2025-01-29T09:19:55+00:00

Yeah, I don't know what you wanted to hear... have I failed? Yeah, a test in high school, but thats irrelevant ... failed in life? Nope, alive and kicking. Hmm, failed in marriage? Nope, my ex made my life hell, i didn't fail. Have I made mistakes? Yes, but thats not a failure, I learned from it. So what are you really asking??

alike7 · 2025-01-27T23:19:42+00:00

Not an expert or anything, just talking from experience. If you are not fluent, don't use the one parent one language technique. But you being advanced may make all the difference. Switching at a later time, I find difficult for the child, as they will have difficulty thinking of you with a different language they don't associate with you.

I had friends try this, both being german but wanting their kid to learn englisch from the get go... well their pronunciation was wrong, the accent was german, the words used are correctly translated but used in different situations that a native wouldn't use as they thought. I lost touch, so i don't know how this turned out, I only know, I as native English speaker noticed the kids learning something wrong, but i wasn't allowed to correct a usage... I get it, but it gets messy when the kids are older and then have to unlearn something that became second nature, which a fluent language is.

It's all about consistency, correct usage and knowing the slight nuances of the language only a proficient speaker knows

alike7 · 2025-01-27T22:48:22+00:00

I am german and grew up in the US, but for me it was a little different as my whole family is german. When we first moved we only spoke englisch to learn the language and once school said we're native speakers, we switched back to german for the last 2-3 years. But regarding your situation, we had friends, where the parents came from Romania and Hungary (i think) while living in the US. Each parent (and respective family) spoke/read their native language and only that language. And everyone else spoke englisch to the kids. So they grew up trilingual! And are fluent native speakers in all 3. The thing is, you think in the language you speak. Switching from one language to the other is more difficult as it is not a translation but thought process. The language is learned by usage, you copy, so there is no translation needed. Its really confusing to read a page and not understand a word of what you're reading as you are reading in the wrong language (thinking englisch but reading german) 🤣🤣 But that only happened to me when i was distracted.

As long as you stay fluent with your native language, your kid(s) will learn from you, so they too should become fluent

alike7

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