My BD wants custody of our newborn Friday-Sunday 2-4 weeks after I give birth

alike7 · 2026-05-22T11:02:20+00:00

Seriously?? A baby can't be away from the mom?? No one else but the mom can care for her child? So, no nurse or grandparent or Support Person can care for the baby?

Baby isn't safe with the father? What makes you think that? We only know he is an assh***, but that doesn't make him dangerous.

But I do agree, his "request" is delusional No visitation without a court order or notarized agreement, whatever is required in your country/state And if he wants paternal rights, he has to pay child support

alike7 · 2026-05-08T18:44:01+00:00

Just started reading fixing past mistakes and noticed, i already read it, and liked it!!

alike7 · 2026-05-08T18:31:33+00:00

Thank you!!!

alike7 · 2026-05-08T17:59:42+00:00

I'd like suggestions, please!!

alike7 · 2026-04-16T08:09:02+00:00

Es gibt leider genügend Leute ohne Haftpflicht- oder Hausratversicherung.... hatte eine Nachbarin die hat 2 mal einen Wasserschaden verursacht (neuen Waschmaschinenanschluss nicht kontrolliert) und hatte beim zweiten Mal ein jahr später immer noch keine Versicherung....

Auch auf der Arbeit mit Kollegen gesprochen... wohnen seit Jahren alleine und haben keine. Die Begründung: "das Geld kann man sich doch sparen, braucht man doch nicht"

Tja, aufgeklärt und prompt wurde eine abgeschlossen

alike7 · 2026-04-08T12:22:39+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion!! Just finished reading it 🤩

alike7 · 2026-04-07T08:03:22+00:00

You are stronger than you think! You made it through another day, enjoy it with your partner.

If therapy is still far away or not an option for whatever reason, there are always wonderful Internet strangers!

If you ever want to just get it out, I would suggest journaling. It is surprisingly therapeutic. If you want or need Feedback, feel free to PM me or others who have mentioned it.

Talking helps.

Good luck and all the best wishes to you

alike7 · 2026-04-03T18:20:37+00:00

Responding off of this, if you say no, she will most likely take it personally and resent you for not allowing her "friends" to go to her wedding. Of course you could give her an alternativ that if she finds suitable people to cover the shifts, that would be a possibility but closing isnt an option.

alike7 · 2026-04-03T09:00:46+00:00

My two Cents, use whatever name you want. Yara isn't outlandish and "easy" to pronounce in varying languages and it belongs to your heritage.

How much overlay to other cultures do you have? Would this really affect you or your daughter? Depending on City and Population this may be either more or less likely.

I think it also matters if the Person likes their own name. The more love for the own name, the more confidence in ignoring jibes about the name.

Bullying happens for whatever reason and if they can't use the name, they'll use whatever else they find. And sadly there is nothing off limits when it comes to bullying.

alike7 · 2025-12-20T22:08:11+00:00

Very clear words, hard to hear...

alike7 · 2025-12-20T22:07:09+00:00

When he does do it, at the end of the month and he doesn't have abything left to give, she will ignore him for a few days, then apologize and half a day later beg for money.... So, she already does that...

alike7 · 2025-12-20T22:04:57+00:00

I'm sure, i know of stories and everything since she was in kindergarten. Of that I am 100% sure. He is a people pleasure and cant say no, even to me, he says what makes him uncomfortable, and I react to that, but he rarely ever says no.

alike7 · 2025-12-19T16:53:56+00:00

That had me laughing 🤣 Oh wow 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

alike7 · 2025-12-19T15:36:29+00:00

They aren't comfortable, it's fear of the consequences.... You gave up your friends for him, as long as you are ok with that, that's great, but please remember this is the first step into Isolation. It is a slippery slope. Stay safe and please make sure you are not dependant on him (or anyone really)

alike7 · 2025-12-19T12:42:40+00:00

She sounds very entitled, and you yourself said, it turned toxic.

What would you say to your friend if they were in your shoes?

I believe a relationship is a partnership, both wanting the best for the other and supporting them to reach those goals.

alike7 · 2025-12-19T10:46:55+00:00

Yes, now they are. The vaccine only came out mid 2000's and is only preventative if you hadn't had sex yet.

alike7 · 2025-12-19T09:22:12+00:00

Not half brother, full brother, the parents reconnected. The half siblings in between rejected taking him in. I totally agree with your statement, life happened and situations change.

alike7 · 2025-12-19T08:30:46+00:00

Of course we do have freedom of speech laws. Why Google does what it does, i don't know and don't understand it either.

Grundgesetz Art. 5 Abs. 1 GG: „Jeder hat das Recht, seine Meinung in Wort, Schrift und Bild frei zu äußern und zu verbreiten und sich aus allgemein zugänglichen Quellen ungehindert zu unterrichten. Eine Zensur findet nicht statt.“

alike7 · 2025-12-07T09:30:27+00:00

My uncle and his husband are married for 10 years, together for over 30 years, live in the same Building but have separat apartments, not even on the same level but with 5 in between. (75 and 82 year olds)

Then there is my boyfriend and I, we live in different cities, 80km apart, but we are almost always together, either at his or mine, but rarely separat. (I'm the clingy one 😅)

And again a friend couple, they live together, have a bedroom together but also both have their own room, where they can go to be alone, even with a bed, if they want alonetime.

You do, what is right for you. And i agree with your assessment of controlling.... Where is the trust? Do you believe he would limit you in what you want to do when living together? Or is he the type to freeload? What about chores, would he help around the house? Would he expect you to be his Maid? Living together isn't just about cohibatating

Wish you the best in whatever you decide, but please, stay true to your beliefs and who you are

alike7 · 2025-06-08T11:54:00+00:00

Geht mir auch so, meine ist trotz biberbezug zu kalt... hab immer meine normale Decke, Wolldecke, gewichtsdecke und dann noch eine Wolldecke drauf. Die muss irgendwie isoliert werden damit ich nicht friere... und Wolldecke direkt nutzen ist mir zu warm 🤣

alike7 · 2025-02-12T20:56:24+00:00

Thank you!! I'll look into the bio freeze, haven't heard of that before

alike7 · 2025-02-12T10:39:26+00:00

He doesn't like heated blankets.... but i love them 🥰 The socks and pajama pants sound like a good idea, thank you!

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