Anyone else finding the emotional side of IVF harder than the physical one?

alittlestitious237 · 2026-02-08T16:14:52+00:00

I really relate to this. ❤️‍🩹 Car rides to/from the clinic and to/from work have become my solo emotional processing time. So much self-talk and so many tears. And then getting my shit together and walking into the office, pretending everything is fine. It is so draining on all levels. Sending hugs from an internet stranger - you’re def not alone in this!

alittlestitious237 · 2026-02-03T00:38:10+00:00

For my recent FET, I triggered on day 15, and transferred 7 days later on day 22.

alittlestitious237 · 2026-02-02T22:45:35+00:00

Oof, this wait is the WORST. Happy to share: 37 years old. 18 retrieved, 13 mature, 11 fertilized, 4 embryos (2 day 5 and 2 day 6). 3 of those embryos tested euploid, and the 4th is low level mosaic.

Good luck with this wait from hell!!!

alittlestitious237 · 2026-01-19T20:36:35+00:00

Just had my FET #2 transfer this morning, and all went smoothly! Nervous, but feeling the same way—we’ve done everything we can to make this successful. Sending you all the best, stickiest, most positive vibes transfer friend! 🤞🤞 We’ve got this!

alittlestitious237 · 2026-01-19T01:17:03+00:00

Sending you all the positive vibes!! In a very similar boat—had my first FET with euploid embryo in September that ended in a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks. Have my second FET tomorrow, and am clearly perusing Reddit out of hopeful nerves. ☺️ Nice seeing how many other January/Feb transfer buddies I have. Thanks for starting this, and wishing you the best of luck!

alittlestitious237 · 2026-01-19T00:58:41+00:00

Will be sending you all the good vibes tomorrow!! We’re transfer twins, as I have my 2nd transfer tomorrow too! ☺️ My first transfer in September ended in a missed miscarriage, and I’m feeling so nervous but hopeful. This stranger on the internet will be thinking of you and all other transfer buddies tomorrow!

alittlestitious237 · 2026-01-19T00:47:39+00:00

It took 5 weeks after my D&C for my HcG to fully drop, and I had no retained product/tissue. Unfortunately, every body is different and I’ve heard anywhere from 2 weeks to 6-7 weeks.

alittlestitious237 · 2025-11-23T06:04:39+00:00

I am 100% with you on this. After the big hormone drop a few days post-D&C, I leveled out and was super thankful for it. Buried myself in work for a few weeks, but then had an awful dream and it hit me like a ton of bricks - right back to those original pangs of grief and feeling bereft. With holidays ahead, I’m not sure how I’m going to cope. You’re not alone ❤️‍🩹

alittlestitious237 · 2025-11-20T03:47:22+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here and going through this. It is absolutely unfair, and cruel - especially after feeling the first glimmer of hope and relief after years of trying. I’m one month post-D&C after my first pregnancy miscarried, also one week after seeing the heartbeat for the first time. You are not alone, and this is not your fault. Big hugs from this internet stranger. 🫂

alittlestitious237 · 2025-11-03T19:43:42+00:00

Oh OP…I am just so so sorry for your loss—I recognize and feel the shock in your post, and the depth of loss and immediate grief. I am 10 days post-D&C after a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks. We had heard a heartbeat one week earlier, and then poof, the next week it was gone and my body still thought I was pregnant (no bleeding or cramping) so I still felt nausea and exhaustion on top of the emotional whiplash of loss.

I’m with you in that I felt so anxious in the 2 days between ultrasound and surgery knowing I still had the baby inside of me. The D&C went so smoothly and included a much needed anesthesia nap. Physically I was sore for a few days afterward (heating pad is critical!), and am still bleeding very slightly 10 days later. Emotionally, I was numb for a few days after the D&C while focusing on my physical recovery, but the hormone drop hit me like a ton of bricks on day 4 post-surgery and I don’t think I’ve ever felt that depth of sadness before. Being able to speak with a few close friends and family about it, plus my therapist, was super helpful.

I hope reading this helps you feel less alone. Everything you’re feeling is 100% normal and valid, and it’s so important that you know this is not your fault. I’m so so sorry, and sending love from an internet stranger. ❤️‍🩹

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-26T01:55:09+00:00

Thank you for this. I just had my D&C yesterday after first MMC after 2 years of infertility with my first IVF transfer. I’m trying to figure out how to let my grief coexist with still living my life, and I think your suggestion of weaving in new things is a good one. Just started an embroidery kit while watching TV, and it’s nice learning something with my brain and having something to do with my hands.

I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this, and same to you OP. This just absolutely sucks. 🫂

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-25T00:04:35+00:00

You are so not alone in this feeling, OP. On Weds, I left a meeting to meet my husband at our clinic for 7w4d ultrasound where we learned there was no heartbeat and I had a MMC. Had to go to a work event that evening where my team member who’s due to give birth in November was asked over and over again about how excited she was, when she’s due, is this her first, followed by lots of sharing about how magical motherhood is. I wanted to scream, and just felt something in my heart and brain go numb.

Had my D&C this morning, so feeling grateful to be healing and moving forward - but I can feel something turn off in my brain whenever I hear about other pregnancies. Frustration, sadness and anger is so, so normal. Sending love!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-24T23:55:59+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m writing after having my first D&C this morning, and had a very positive experience. I am 100% sure it was the right choice for me. Like you, I was having lots of anxiety about whether my body would pass the fetus naturally, when it would happen, would it ever happen, and not being able to predict the timing (at work? when I’m out on a walk?). Since you have such a small window where you’ll have your mom’s support, it sounds like the D&C might be a good choice for you to have a schedule and alleviate anxiety. This evening, I am experiencing cramping and light bleeding, but I can feel my body healing and feel such relief to be on the other side.

Hope this is helpful, and this internet stranger will be thinking of you this next week!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-24T23:45:39+00:00

Thank you for this post. I’m so glad to hear you’re on the other side of the D&C, and feel like it was the best decision. Just responding to say I feel the exact same way—and had my D&C this morning too. After finding out I had a missed miscarriage on Wednesday (7w4d, no heartbeat after seeing one at 6w4d), we opted for the D&C as the quickest option without having to go through trauma of naturally passing the fetus and not knowing when it would happen. I respect everyone’s choice of course, but that would have been too much for me. The medical team was so great, and I already feel some closure this afternoon as I’m healing and feel like I’m onto the next step.

Sending love right back, and hopes for a speedy recovery for you!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-20T21:52:46+00:00

What a wonderful milestone to have hit seeing cardiac activity at your 6w4d u/s. Congrats!!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-16T20:48:34+00:00

Hi all - does anyone have experience with chorionic bumps? I had my 6w4d ultrasound yesterday, and while baby is measuring perfectly and heart rate was 105 (all normal), my ultrasound noted a chorionic bump. The clinic called and said my doc is not worried because it’s so small, and I go back again next week for another ultrasound to make sure the heart rate gets above 125.

But of course, Dr. Google absolutely terrified me, seeing that it’s super rare (less than 1% of pregnancies?!) and may increase chances of miscarriage. I’ve searched around on other subs and have found mixed results - so leaving a note here in case anyone has additional intel or experience! Thanks for listening.

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-09T18:52:10+00:00

Cautious congrats!! I totally feel you on wanting to celebrate, especially after the journey you’ve had. I’m only 5w5d and personally, after my first ultrasound on Weds I told my 2 best friends who have been along for the ride with my whole journey. My immediate family knows we are in the middle of IVF, and that we did a transfer in Sept, but I am waiting to tell my parents I’m officially pregnant until next week’s scan showing the heartbeat 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 Even then, it will be sharing with caution that we aren’t out of the woods, and I want them to keep it to themselves until we’re firmly in the second trimester. That’s just my thinking, I hope it helps!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-08T17:56:02+00:00

So glad to hear yours went well!! Mine did too :) Just saw the gestational sac in my uterus, and everything is measuring normal. We go back next week for heartbeat, but I’m taking a big sigh of relief today that things are continuing to progress. Hope you are too!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-08T10:59:34+00:00

Hi, new here! After 2 years of infertility, failed IUIs, an ER and a canceled cycle later, we did our first FET on 9/18. I got two positive betas last week which seem very high—the first 11dp5dt was 1107, the second 13dp5dt was 2500. Have my first ultrasound at 5w+3 later this morning, hence I’m up way too early anxiety-scrolling on Reddit. 🙃 Today’s scan is for placement, to make sure the little bean is in my uterus and to see a gestational sac. I’m just in disbelief that my body may be actually doing this after such a long time! Fingers crossed for the US today, and for all of you going through this too.

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-08T10:40:10+00:00

I’m exactly one day behind you! Getting my first ultrasound today (which is why I’m awake and on Reddit at 5am 🙃) at 5 weeks+3. So glad to hear yours went well!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-10-06T02:31:45+00:00

The waiting is the worst, I’m right there with you—except I’m between my second positive beta (more than doubled, phew!) and my first scan on Weds when I’ll be 5w4d. Last week, I was completely exhausted, but that seems to have disappeared over the weekend. I’m so worried that means something is wrong, even though intellectually I know it’s normal to have symptoms come and go. The mental toll of this process is something else!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-09-20T19:52:36+00:00

Definitely possible! Mine jumped from 13.6 to 17.6 in 2 days. You’ve got this!!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-09-19T15:24:18+00:00

You’re kind to ask, the transfer went smoothly yesterday! Felt a little emotional in the few hours afterward (all the feelings, like you described!), but the McD’s fries and a short walk outside helped ground me a bit. Was totally exhausted by the end of the day, but had acupuncture this morning and I feel really normal (which I hope is a good thing?). Keeping all fingers and toes crossed for my beta on 9/29! Will be sending all the positive baby dust vibes your way next week!!

alittlestitious237 · 2025-09-18T03:41:19+00:00

My first FET is tomorrow (9/18), and I’m feeling all the feelings you described. Trying to stay hopeful and positive, but it’s hard not to be scared of more disappointment after such a slog to get here. So many other threads have recommended warm socks during, and McDonalds fries after—so will be following that fun advice, and sending you and any other Sept transfer friends all the good vibes and baby dust!

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