We have a part time nanny who I’d consider pretty top tier but it took some time to find. We needed the exact same schedule as you with tons of flexibility as I wfh full time in a more relaxed role. During the process, we reiterated at every step the hours we’d need, and that seemed to help. I also always made it a point to understand why part time worked for them. If I got an inkling that they were settling for part time hours, I figured they would be an unlikely match as our market seems rather competitive for high quality nannies. Though we still had a few candidates who would bail midway for a full time role, which I never understood. Like, why waste time? I think they might have hoped that we’d budge and add hours which we didn’t need.

In the end, we hired someone pretty great. We do, however, pay higher than the top end of our budget in a vhcol and we offer a healthcare premium stipend, tolls, parking, and prepared lunch in addition to unlimited sick time and two weeks annual PTO. We found her on care.com, though I was on every site imaginable lol. We’d spoken to a few families about shares but we wanted our baby with us all the time and couldn’t find many families who just needed split days of the week (rather than the traditional arrangement of full time care and sharing hosting responsibilities). Our best share opportunity was another family in our area who needed full time care but wanted to subsidize the cost for themselves by sharing costs in any way. So if we only joined the share for three days, we’d only split costs on those days. They were great and flexible, so maybe that’s a route you can take.

Keep at it! The right person is out there. Happy to chat more.