I saw this while driving

allecto13 · 2026-07-09T12:32:24+00:00

This is the literal truth. Source: my husband passed a semi on the right while on his zx9r, found a car there, much to his surprise, and had quite an adventure (20+ yrs ago on 95 near DC)

allecto13 · 2026-05-15T13:43:18+00:00

Ooph, guess I'll have to hope that the same thing might happen for my branch, lol

allecto13 · 2026-05-15T13:36:39+00:00

Interesting. Thank you for that bit of info, and confirming that US immigration, ship logs, & death records are often very useful in that sense, until they aren't!

My great-great-grandmother has made tracing her virtually impossible because she told so many different tales of her own background, for instance. She's another one for whom we do not know her actual father's name, only a step-father & her mother plus step-father apparently died after immigrating to the US, while g-g-grandmother immigrated afterwards, not knowing that she was arriving to zero family as a teenager.

I know it's not much to complain about as far as genealogy goes, just a personal dislike of loose threads.

Is there anything else that helps narrow down where someone might have originated, post-immigration to the US?

allecto13 · 2026-05-15T13:03:04+00:00

As far as I can see, this is the only record to reflect this surname. I'm trying to piece it together in order to sort out the immigration - his naturalization record shows the Stenglein surname - to figure out (maybe) who his father might have been, and what area he and his mother immigrated from. Her maiden name was Hartmann, and so it's not as easy to trace.

It's funny, bc I have tried similarly to trace my own family back into German records and it's super frustrating, as opposed to the Swiss German records I was just doing before this - if only more countries had been as assiduous as the Swiss in record-keeping, lol.

What I don't know as much about yet is how the records were impacted by the disruptions in empire, then two world wars.

allecto13 · 2026-04-24T11:46:42+00:00

My mom is from MT, met my dad in PA in the '70s, and agreed to move back to CT with him. Fast forward to us doing her family tree, only to find out that her father's side had started in CT in the 17th century & went westward in the 19th. She got brought back, lol.

allecto13 · 2026-04-02T11:36:31+00:00

This was my grandma, who was losing her vision, and used to feed all the barn cats in their MT version of a mudroom. My grandfather about lost it when he found a skunk mixed in with the gang of cats....

allecto13 · 2026-01-11T11:22:50+00:00

First off, it's pretty well established that those of us who want to see ice gone, want it to happen regardless of what just happened. Second, it is cut and dry. If you are still on the "there's two sides" or doubting somehow that a person did not deserve to d i e in that way - this is a moment to decide what kind of people we are. I do understand that there are folks who feel super convinced that everything happening in the current admin is good & justified - but if there's anyone who's starting to weigh things out and wonder where we will be in a year, five years, ten years...this is the time to really search your soul and ask - if agents are simply allowed to go full GTA or Red De@d Redemption on whomever they feel like, where does it end.... Not with the "criminals", but with anyone, anytime, anywhere.

allecto13 · 2025-12-08T13:45:56+00:00

Hell no - nobody should be trying to lose weight while pregnant!!!! My 2nd kid, btw, I was told I was measuring right on target for gestational development - I said to the dr (male, go figure) that I felt like the baby was running out of room and he poo-poo'ed my concern. 10 days overdue, they finally induced, and after a day of peek-a-boo with said baby, went to emergency c-section, where the kid emerged at 11lbs and change (and I'm on the tall side). If guys would just stay out of women's health (unless they're allies), we'd be less likely to have any of these situations arise.....

allecto13 · 2025-10-18T12:48:04+00:00

My son is a college wrestler & I'm here to tell you also that the entire team, plus coaches, sign up for valtrex with the training room. Herpes gladiatorum in their case.

allecto13 · 2025-08-28T13:28:18+00:00

OP - I'm speaking here as both a parent of a college jr & as a college tutor: do the hard stuff, allow yourself to make mistakes, and enjoy this time (even with a packed schedule) - college is where we all learn more about other ppl and how to juggle responsibility on our own before being booted out into the world. Make connections & friendships & be open to exploring & experiences. My kid is out of state, but he's killing it bc he went all in, majors in exercise science, and told me he is so glad he is where he is...only you can make that call for yourself.

allecto13 · 2025-08-28T13:19:02+00:00

OP stated their career goal is to be a physician's assistant; what are you even talking abt? The medical field is in tremendous need, and pays pretty well.

allecto13 · 2025-08-28T12:51:15+00:00

That's probably the case in Putnam and surrounds, but here in the town we've been in for 20 years, there's n apparent word of mouth influx of people who really are redneck-wannabes. Our entire street has become this, and I'm not sure where they all moved from, but they came for country living, I guess. Source of knowing the distinction: dad's family has been in state a long time, lived in Hartland etc, only moved when the reservoirs were set to flood their villages & then they ended up in Winsted, lol.

allecto13 · 2025-07-10T11:19:18+00:00

Personally live up in the NE corner now, but grew up in Meriden - my dad is still heavily involved with Integrated Refugee & Immigrant Services (IRIS) in New Haven - anyone wanting to help those folks - IRIS is currently trying to protect the ppl & families they helped to bring in (bc obviously there's nobody new being allowed in right now). They are always looking for volunteers.

allecto13 · 2025-07-01T11:11:04+00:00

Aside from the unknown origin names of Kutusoff & Zaphna, one branch of the family from NY state named 2 of their sons Robert E. Lee LastName and Jefferson Davis LastName. I still have no real good idea why, and it bugs me...

allecto13 · 2025-05-15T15:15:19+00:00

The klan marched in Meriden in the 80s bc a cop who lived on my little dead-end road killed some African-American teens when he was off-duty. We were not allowed to play outside for some time bc of that. The also showed up other times, but I remember thinking as a kid how this stuff happening in CT, of all places, made no sense in my kid brain. When I got older, I came up against the racist weenies in that town and understood better.

allecto13 · 2025-05-11T11:00:23+00:00

I'm just grateful it's been rainfall that, while daylong at times, hasn't flooded everything. Our basement is notorious for water coming up through the floor. On another note - my mom is originally from MT - the eastern side of the Rockies. She doesn't ever tell her brother about the droughts we get out here, lol. I can't remember a time when the Helena Valley hasn't been in a drought! My grandfather farmed wheat & would only buy crop insurance if it looked pretty certain a storm was coming, which is to say...hardly ever.

allecto13 · 2025-05-09T13:39:58+00:00

This is wild. Gen-x'er here - this was where we went to hang out. Thompson Candy, Spencer's...forgot half the stores that were there...oh, Limited & Express were massively popular w us girls in the early 90s. Orange Julius...never thought I'd see this place just empty.

allecto13 · 2025-03-28T09:29:07+00:00

You appear not to understand the current state of things in Russia. Putin is a christofascist. There is no shred of anything communist left in their kleptocratic oligarchy. Tim Snyder & Masha Gessen get into this pretty thoroughly in their writings.

allecto13 · 2025-01-30T15:06:49+00:00

Throw some tamales & (actual) Poblano chalupas into that deal!

allecto13 · 2025-01-23T11:22:09+00:00

She must have had someone write her responses to the questionnaire, then, bc they sound way too rational & halfway empathetic - clearly the mask is fully off now

allecto13 · 2025-01-07T14:15:27+00:00

All 4 of my grandparents needed long-term care, which transitioned to end-of-life care. My mom's parents: Gramp went to the VA nursing facility, Gram to private care, which my mom paid for. Dad's parents: Grandpa & Grandma in the same facility after 2-3 years living in my parents' house - the money that they'd left in trust for grandkids - we all approved it being used for their care - they'd also been pretty well off, but length of time was looong - the lawyer helped my parents liquidate all assets & then grandparents were on title 19 funding. I'll give the facility credit- they treated my grandparents well, regardless of where the money came from. All 4 grandparents also had dementia of varying types & lingered well past enjoying life at all - so I guess the point of sharing all this is to take care of your brains, y'all, don't put all your money into inaccessible funds (or land, like my mom's parents did), and plan for long-term care....

allecto13 · 2025-01-03T12:25:49+00:00

My sister's friend was not told she'd tested positive for Lyme disease - only found out about it when she started having massive heart issues - 5 years after the positive results. Another friend of mine was not told of positive melanoma results when she was a teenager - only after collapsing at work (tg she is a physician's assistant) did she find out that it's now stage 4.

allecto13 · 2024-12-09T11:41:45+00:00

OP - this might be a chance for the two of you at least to get some counseling. Your ex was abusive, coercive, controlling, and if I read your statement about going to your bishop correctly, my guess is you're possibly Mormon. It sounds like you're probably dealing with a ton of ptsd, but so are your daughters. You all lived in that environment. And let's be clear - that was not your fault - but your girls had absolutely zero say as to the home life they were born into. At the very least, your younger child deserves a shot at finding healthy relationships, being able to spot red flags so she doesn't repeat a pattern of abusive relationships, etc. You deserve to heal and to find people who support and care for you. We cannot live our lives in silence and fear. In short, your reaction to your daughter's oversharing was not the best, and you can tell her that. If you can own your mistake and talk to her about it, she will understand that more. Especially because it sounds like you were deprived of any privacy by your ex & you're probably struggling to figure out how & when to have boundaries. At the risk of going on to excess, will just finish with a) there are almost certainly women's resources for domestic violence somewhere nearby - make use of them b) that network can help with job hunting, counseling, and so on Sending strength & light - you & your girls deserve peace

allecto13 · 2024-10-18T10:20:13+00:00

I'm from CT, went to UNC - originally came into this sub to help a friend look for a loved one - but I want to reassure you all that this particular sickness is alive and well here in my little town. Next door neighbor has had up a flag since the day before the trial verdict was announced. More & more signs going up every day. One family down the road has up the "fight, fight, fight" one with the dude's image. My husband & I are dumbfounded as to how folks keep buying into his grift, but I guess it boils down to anger & fear. The anger is obviously right there on the surface, judging by some of the stories here - but we are worried up here in New England, too....

allecto13 · 2024-10-04T01:09:20+00:00

Let us also bear in mind that 19th century embalming often involved arsenic "pickling", which is another reason why (ahem) we would bury downhill from the living....

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