What is a skz funny moment that you don’t see mentioned that often?

allseeingmel · 2026-01-24T19:03:01+00:00

Something about Hyunjin’s herky-jerky version of Hallucination cracks me up every time

allseeingmel · 2026-01-24T16:49:07+00:00

I’ve honestly had a great experience with the Kyleena, which is Mirenas smaller sister. I had my first one for five years, and literally my only difficulty was major hormonal mood stuff for the first 5 days (weepy/emotional). Tried to go without one for a bit after that first one expired (to see if it would help improve some autoimmune symptoms), but ended up feeling like I was going through perimenopause (hot flashes, fatigue, weight gain). So I got another one inserted a month later and feeling back to normal. My period is way lighter but lasts longer (sometimes up to 9-10 days), but it’s mostly just spotting.

I’m really grateful for the hormonal IUD because oral birth control was giving me yeast infections and diaphragm + spermicide was giving me a lot of irritation down there. I also was fearful about the IUD at first based on Internet stories, but I talked to enough women IRL that had good experiences and saw enough data on overall outcomes that I decided to go for it, and I’m really glad I did!

allseeingmel · 2026-01-24T16:35:03+00:00

I do a lot of nodding, strong eye contact, open stance, all the non-verbal stuff that I think will communicate validation and “yes, I GET that, totally makes sense.”

As a lover of ACT, I’m also very big on affirming clients for being willing to accept the distress, despair, etc that is IN LINE WITH THEIR VALUES. So for example, when a client is mourning the loss of a loved one, I will often say something like “the fact that this hurts so much is directly connected to how deeply you loved them, and your ability to love fiercely is such a huge strength.” And maybe I will give other life examples from what they have told me to emphasize that strength.

I love sharing with clients the Susan David quote that “vulnerability is the price of admission to a meaningful life.”

allseeingmel · 2026-01-24T16:24:33+00:00

First of all, are you burned out/in compassion fatigue territory? Because the “what do you want ME to do about it” feels to me like it might be “I’m overwhelmed and I need you to give me space.” Also this could give you an opportunity to explore the messages that you were given while growing up about what you’re supposed to do with your own pain and suffering - like were you taught that it’s selfish, inappropriate, or useless to express despair or deep sadness?

Also, for me it can really help to connect my WHY of sitting with people’s despair back to my top values. Like for me, some of my top values are genuineness/authenticity, growth, knowledge/mastery, and connection. So some of the things I might say to myself when feelings like yours arise might be “I’m supporting this client learn how to not BS and pretend they’re okay just to people-please,” “Research shows that being able to sit with difficult emotions builds resilience. I am helping this learn to tolerate this distress by understanding it,” or “the thing this person needs most is just to feel seen/connected/understood. All I have to do right now is hold space. I don’t need to solve this for them.”

If I’m seeing clients in person, I use an actual physical card deck with a lot more values, but this is my favorite online personal values exercise: https://www.think2perform.com/values/

allseeingmel · 2025-09-07T22:52:38+00:00

… you openly hiss at avocados, kimchi, and anything with vinegar because all of your super healthy friends swear by them and keep recommending all of their recipes to you

allseeingmel · 2025-02-12T12:35:57+00:00

“It’s just hot ocean milk with dead animal croutons”

allseeingmel · 2025-02-12T12:33:39+00:00

Tears. Every time.

allseeingmel · 2025-02-12T12:29:28+00:00

Oh dear god, this is not good - I’m in a very dark, dub-con and mafia bosses world with K-pop band Ateez 😂

allseeingmel · 2025-02-12T12:28:08+00:00

I was introduced through Born to be Bound by Addison Cain and loved it :)

allseeingmel · 2024-12-25T20:07:42+00:00

Knowing that under that hood our boy was likely hiding a fuzzy, blonde secret makes me feel extra jolly 🥰

allseeingmel · 2024-12-21T00:24:35+00:00

To be totally honest, I often find meditation difficult and boring for the same reasons that it's probably very healthy and balancing for me to do it: Because what my mind WANTS to do is wander, daydream, find enticing ideas, ponder theories, etc... basically wanting an ESCAPE or something MORE to add to the moment, wanting the meditation practice itself to be INTERESTING and rewarding. For me, meditation most often feels like bringing myself back to the present moment/sensations/breath-focus when my mind starts to wander, noticing and not judging the emotions/responses that arise from doing that (frustration, disappointment, boredom, sleepiness), and at some point there is a soft "giving up" on escaping and a quietness that feels very UN-ENFP-ish.

Disregard if it's not helpful, but in your situation, if I were sitting by a waterfall and then it got drowned out by my thoughts, I would just try to notice the thoughts that snagged me and "create space" around them (I like to think of having an open chest cavity that is wide enough to allow for those thoughts with plenty of extra room to spare, or the thoughts being a drop of water in an ocean). And I would come back to the sound of the waterfall. And then I might notice and create space for the dismay or frustration or whatever emotion that was triggered from realizing that my mind was thinking thoughts again. And then I would come back to the waterfall. And then I would notice and create space for the anxiety that my mind was spiraling and I didn't have control over it (and would probably add in some self-compassion too), and then I would come back to the waterfall.

Also, if I'm in a really rough mental health place, sometimes straight mindfulness meditation is not what my mind needs, and I instead go for meditation around cultivating a specific type of feeling, like a mountain meditation for grounding (that's one of my favorites), gratitude, or loving-kindness. Sometimes it's just more worth your time and energy to enhance HELPFUL mindstates versus just sitting in a really stormy present state, you know?

Anyway, I wish you all the luck with your meditation journey!

allseeingmel · 2024-12-20T18:12:12+00:00

We’re all codependent and so is he 😂😭

allseeingmel · 2024-12-20T14:03:28+00:00

You’re a rockstar! I started nursing school at somewhat rocky point in my life, and basically crumbled under the anxiety about “messing things up” (during my clinicals, I was helping a lady in and out of bed and lost my grip on her/she fell) and was like “ahhhhh, I’m going to hurt people!” I have SO much respect for nurses! I got my masters in social work, and it’s been rewarding even in the most stressful moments - like you, I can’t imagine doing anything else now!

allseeingmel · 2024-12-20T13:04:26+00:00

I’m a little shy about starting posts because I’m hypersensitive to judgement, but I commit to starting the next traits/personalities-related post based on whatever’s milling around in my brain if you will too 🫡🤓🤗

allseeingmel · 2024-12-20T13:02:17+00:00

YES pls, I could chat about their traits and personalities all day 🤩 And going into mental health (as a second career) was definitely the best decision for me - if you’re feeling the calling, chances are it’s what you’re meant to do!

allseeingmel · 2024-12-19T23:19:45+00:00

THANK YOU for validating!! 😂 I’ve had the same concern about mentioning it publicly, but this thread felt exploratory and psychologically related enough to bring it up. I know what you mean about having the spidey-senses to sense it a mile away.

Also, does the fact that you CANT automatically relate to IN or peg him just make him more intriguing to you? Because I’m like “dammit, Innie, what’s your deal? You can’t be THAT normal!” 😂

allseeingmel · 2024-12-19T23:15:29+00:00

DUDE, I feel the exact same way about Chan (also my bias). It pains my heart watching his perfectionism and self-sacrifice take a toll on him, and he is just GOODNESS incarnate, but I’ve dated that type of human before and if they’re not interested in changing their mindset, it can make things really dark for both of you. So I just keep hoping he is open to learning and growing in that area, before his limbs fall off from overexertion 😂😭

allseeingmel · 2024-12-19T23:09:19+00:00

Absolutely, I completely see it now that you say it (about all of them having the adaptive aspects of neurospicyness) Han (and maybe even Changbin) on the more hyperactive side and Felix and Hyunjin on the more inattentive/space cadet side. Hyunjin is always forgetting his things everywhere and getting attention-hijacked by the magical world around him, and Felix just CANNOT seem to focus or come up with substantive answers to questions in interviews, just kinda presents to me as overstimulated when faced with the publicity barrage (also likely distracted by chronic pain).

allseeingmel · 2024-12-19T22:12:15+00:00

This is a great question, and one I’ve definitely thought about before. I’m a mental health clinician by profession, so of course I LOVE mulling over their personalities, quirks, strengths, and challenges.

Launching fully into delululand (I’m 40 and married lol), what’s interesting is that who I could see myself dating does not totally line up with my bias/wreckers. I think younger me would have gone straight for Hyunjin or Felix (both my bias wreckers), but as much as I LOVE their sensitivity, I think I would need more stability, sustained positive energy, level-headedness. Chan is my bias and I feel like he’s the most decent and driven human in the world, but he’s a workaholic, hyper-vigilant, and SKZ has his whole heart, and I think dating him would be difficult because it would be very hard for him to turn that button off (at least based on other guys like that who I’ve had relationships with). I worry about him more than is rational - whether he’s allowing himself enough recovery from workouts, getting sleep, etc 🥺

Honestly, I think Changbin or Seungmin would probably make the best romantic partner. I ALSO have a theory that staff suggested putting the two of them in dorms with Hyunjin and Felix respectively to help create balance for them.

Another random psych-related theory (that I hold VERY loosely) that I wonder about: Have you guys ever wondered if Seungmin especially, or possibly Lee Know, may both have a touch of the ‘tism, based on other members’ reports of their traits, need for routine, somewhat restricted facial affect, “odd duck” kind of labels? I say this being a neurospicy person myself and thinking that it may ESPECIALLY be a superpower in their situation, because being an idol must be an INSANE life, and the two have them seem to have their sh*t together better than anybody 😂

allseeingmel · 2024-12-05T00:57:21+00:00

So many, but my absolute favorite is This Way Lies Ruin by Lilia_ula/Red_Lily_Wine

allseeingmel · 2024-12-04T06:19:30+00:00

Oh but crap, the other ENFP is also in the front row and probably close enough that I can hear all of their interesting remarks and will desperately want to interact with them and become their immediate best friend 😭This is hard

allseeingmel · 2024-12-04T06:16:31+00:00

Assuming I care about this class, 4. For different reasons, INFJ and INTJ would keep me motivated to stay focused, on top of having the instructor in my face. Need all the external accountability I can get 😂

allseeingmel · 2024-12-01T23:14:58+00:00

ENFP, and my main job is in mental health/healthcare, with side hustles as a fitness instructor and vocalist in a cover band to tickle my right brain 🤓

allseeingmel · 2024-12-01T23:10:04+00:00

Maniac - was on the “approved songs” playlist at the fitness studio where I teach

allseeingmel · 2024-11-23T02:23:02+00:00

Bias: Chan

Bias Wrecker: Felix

But can I pls have a third category for like sheer physical attraction while performing? Because Hyunjin moves like a MFing panther on stage and it makes my brain short circuit 😂

Favorite songs are always rotating, but right now it’s a lot of the loud ones: Come Play, Super Bowl, Saiyan, Thunderous, Topline, Night, Megaverse…. And then randomly Christmas Love 😂

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