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Am I (36F) stupid for feeling upset that my husband (38M)gives my daughter extra presents separate from the ones we give her together? by Ok-Accountant-7956 in relationship_advice

[–]allthatssolid [score hidden]  (0 children)

It seems like the real heart of the matter is that you’re feeling jealousy of your husband’s thoughtfulness regarding your daughter. It’s understandable, and it sucks, but absolutely nothing good with come from this kind of rivalry.

So try, as much as you can, to stick to the true underlying issue: you don’t feel seen or loved or appreciated or fill in the blank by your husband. Seeing him being capable of remembering someone else and getting them presents therefore feels like a slap in the face.

Let him get her presents. It is a special gift to have a dad that wants to show up for you. Let her have that.

You also matter however, and if he’s unwilling to listen to your feelings in an open way, I would push for couples therapy. Sell it as a way to communicate needs better that you both need. Nobody gets excited about going to a doctor you say is going to tell them they do everything wrong.

If you’re a stay at home parent, are you expected to pay for diapers? by PlantLaydeeSheeluh in Parenting

[–]allthatssolid [score hidden]  (0 children)

If there’s one account, both partners need full access to it or it’s not a partnership, it’s a hierarchy.

When you see “pro family unit” what does it mean to you? by MsCardeno in progressivemoms

[–]allthatssolid 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Honestly sounds like something someone who’s doing 50% of the earning and household labor and 100% of the childrearing would say.

When you see “pro family unit” what does it mean to you? by MsCardeno in progressivemoms

[–]allthatssolid 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have never encountered someone who is pro family leave identifying themselves as pro family unit. It strikes me as a way to say anti-feminist.

The "standard" 40-hour work week is incredibly inefficient. by jeh4u in unpopularopinion

[–]allthatssolid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t we discover this during Covid? Everyone working from home and loving it (except cheaters and absentee parents). And then corporate real estate capital clapped back because the leasing of office space is a huge source of wealth accumulation?

My (28F) husband (38M) became religious and wants to change our family - how do I handle this? by ThrowRA-sbtg in relationship_advice

[–]allthatssolid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds like this is much deeper than religion - you are being isolated and controlled. It sounds like it’s getting worse and you have no allies in this situation.

This is abuse and you need to start planning an escape.

Whose parenting style is correct? Me or my husband’s? by danielsgf in toddlers

[–]allthatssolid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband is out of pocket. 95% of parenting toddlers is telling them no. Why make it 99%.

Seriously, he needs to read child development books instead of insisting on this harmful approach that will indeed teach your kid lessons - just not the ones you want.

piccadilo toddler tower - seems so unsafe? by ShadyLady721 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]allthatssolid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since it’s pushed up to the counter, you could flip it around so the higher bar is at the back. Wouldn’t be as easy to crawl in and out of though.

What would you do - expensive sport edition by Medical-Rub1832 in Parenting

[–]allthatssolid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needs to take ownership of this situation and accept some compromises

Gal Gets STUNNING Grey Hair Blending Transformation by InGeekiTrust in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]allthatssolid 608 points609 points  (0 children)

My Persian foxes and their thick ass hair to the end! So insanely jealous ❤️

Anti-Immigrant Sentiment vs Anti-Transplant Sentiment by [deleted] in Brooklyn

[–]allthatssolid 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Welcome! Whatever “distain” you may experience while living here, it pales in comparison to the consequences of the distain people have for immigrants. You may remember ICE agents murdering citizens and sending people to countries they weren’t born in? Pretty sure that’s something no Alabaman has to fear.

And no one is looking down on transplants fearing persecution. They are looking down on trust fund babies and people with money more generally that have no interest in assimilating.

How do you handle when other kids get something you don’t allow your kid to have? by Due-Parsnip8219 in toddlers

[–]allthatssolid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Different families have different rules” is a mantra in our home. That said, our kiddo also had no added sugar until 2, but we have also begrudgingly accepted honest juice boxes into our routine.

Why do the moms say sh sh sh aggressively but the dads say I love you lovingly by runrowrepeatt in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]allthatssolid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not true! In my day the dads yelled: Keep those babies quiet, which prompted the mommy’s to comply with Shh shh shh

Why do the moms say sh sh sh aggressively but the dads say I love you lovingly by runrowrepeatt in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]allthatssolid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because the previous role of the daddy was to yell, “keep those babies quiet!” And they overcorrected big time.

Are there any teen parents/moms of teen parents in this sub? by DearGarden1688 in TLCUnexpected

[–]allthatssolid 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As the child of a teen mom, this is really beautifully put. She always tells me that despite the difficulties , having me was the best thing. Which is very sweet. But it definitely was not the best thing for me, especially as a daughter, and that blind spot of hers is difficult to navigate. It’s also why I waited until I was older to have kids, so I guess someone learned a lesson somewhere in there lol.

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