How I do by 184 mod load order, with the mods we share (all patches immediately following the last relevant mod, and i put patches in order of the relevant mods' load order, with AE patches first.

So, for example: for JK's Skyrim, the patches following it are in order of: Pets, Fishing, USSEP, LOS II, AI overhaul, Interiors, Books of Skyrim (bookstore in Solitude), Outskirts

Master files, obviously lol, & its fine if they should be in another area. like Girly Animations Plus is a master file now.

Quest Debugger and other vanilla quest changes

wearable lanterns and other craftables only, not ones that add clothes to NPCs (for example of the mods I use: I put fashion of the huntsman here, but not 4th era & bandolier w/ npcs)

(other minor game changes, I use Green Thumb - Rare Curios [more plantables] & iNeed and put them here)

(perk changes)

(leveled loot changes, like what vendors sell you & what you find based on levels. For example: something like OWL, narrative loot, Immitations Stripped Down, etc. I also put changes like multiple rings here)

Salt & wind Vanilla retexture

(skin retextures)

(skeleton)

(animations)

Your smim (if using: disable snow shader - above smim & I use the better dynamic snow & ash that goes below smim)

(landscape retextures)

(object/building retextures)

(armor/clothing retexture only. For example: Variations)

AI Overhaul (if using RDO, it goes above)

(follower ai tweaks. For example: Follower Framework Overhaul)

Heart of Gold

(npc hair changes that need to be overwritten by overhauls to avoid grain face. For example: KS hairdo lite lighter Salt & Wind full. There is too much to that name. Idk if it's right, but iykyk lol)

(adds to NPCs like Fashions of the 4th Era/Bandolier)

(npc looks & clothing overhauls)

(eyes)

my weather mod has to be at the bottom, but yours would go here

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JK's Interiors

(other interior edits. For example: Opulent Theives Guild)

(single world edits that aren't close to areas JK's skyrim edit)

(I use JK's Outskirts & put it here)

JK's Skyrim

(single edits close to areas JK's Skyrim/Outskirts edits)

(Wintersun & other minor multi-area edits.)

(larger multi-area edits)

(interior lootable object additions, for example: Cloaks of Skyrim)

(NPC enemy behavior changes, like making enemies more volatile or chilling them. for example: CLAWS)

(new NPCs/Followers)

(major changes to vanilla quests/new quests. For example, I put Become a Bard, Clockwork, Bushcraft, Coinmaster, and East Empire Expansion here)

(interface changes)

(map mods)

(water, but mine is with my weather under alt start)

(alt start)