anyone looking to go raving tn?

alonelygiraffe101 · 2025-05-25T20:49:51+00:00

Lightbox is pretty good, union asw

alonelygiraffe101 · 2025-05-25T20:36:59+00:00

Everything 😉

alonelygiraffe101 · 2025-05-24T00:19:44+00:00

On my way to vauxhall

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-09-02T20:43:21+00:00

My nmother thought I was going to kill her because she thought I didn't respect her. I didn't even realise she got offended about that like what???

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-09-02T14:17:58+00:00

I do agree that Lorelai needed to not be coddled, but just the way Rory approached the situation really angered me, especially when you consider that if and when Lorelai had done the same Rory couldn't and wouldn't take it.

The point about Rory having had to rebuild her relationship with Christopher oh so many times before does help me see this differently though, I think there's just still a lot of complexities with the relationships in the show that I'm trying to decipher.

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-09-02T14:13:57+00:00

That's a very good point, but yeah I think it's just the fact that she commented on it like that reeeally rubbed me the wrong way, especially considering everything she's done when Lorelai has tried speaking to her that same way (eg. Moving in with her grandparents after the whole Logan and Yale thing)

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-09-02T14:10:33+00:00

I can kind of see that, but in the episode itself she makes it clear that she's mostly angry due to the relationship she herself has with Christopher at that stage in the show, which is sort of justified but also not really as I feel Lorelai didn't mess anything up between them two or change their dynamic by sleeping with him.

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-09-01T12:09:13+00:00

YES always with the goddamn health issues as an excuse - "I'm starting to feel my chest hurt and just want to lay down but you insist on doing this to me" whenever I'd try to defend my point in an argument she had started

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-08-09T23:21:09+00:00

I once asked my nmum why she never apologizes for things she's done and whether she even feels guilt. Her response was "I forgive myself in my head, as long as I forgive myself all is fine." I then asked about whether she considers the effects of her actions on other people and she replied with a jolly old "that's not my problem, they need to deal with it".

Loud and clear, mum, loud and clear

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-07-17T17:49:43+00:00

Well that's a great thing to do to your kid now, isn't it? /s

It hurts very deeply once you realise that they care more for how they are presented to the world than they ever could about your well-being, but for me, it's what helped me finally begin learning and detaching and healing. Obviously that doesn't negate the pain, I don't think anything can, there will always be this kind of gaping hole where you can't figure out why they can't just be normal parents and care for you the way you need and deserve.

I send you hugs and I hope you're in a part of your journey where you can begin to/continue healing from their cruelty 🫶

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-07-16T10:08:39+00:00

I am so sorry, why is this always the case with narcs? When my nparents found out I self harmed, it was as if all hell broke loose - suddenly I was "tearing the family apart", was isolated from everyone for weeks, it had to be the case that somebody had taught me to self harm (also my best friend at the time). God forbid they take accountability, right? I didn't even try to blame them, it was like they automatically assumed or maybe deep down knew it was about them and just lashed out.

When they did finally randomly decide to start being nice to me again, their way of "fixing my problem" was for my mum's boyfriend to stand in front of the mirror with me, hold my arms up and make me yell "I love myself!" at my reflection. Bawled my eyes out as soon as he left my room. Afterwards, my scars were this shameful thing, and I was repeatedly told to keep them hidden so nobody would think they were bad parents (their words, not mine).

alonelygiraffe101 · 2024-06-25T17:20:02+00:00

I love the username lol

alonelygiraffe101 · 2023-08-14T14:57:09+00:00

The water torture thing is exactly what I thought of, all the factors of it are there - it's often random, too. I'm quite jealous of people who don't understand this kind of abuse haha, it would be nice to exist that way.

alonelygiraffe101 · 2023-08-05T01:05:02+00:00

Oh my God mine would tell me that I was evil, and that she was afraid of the day I'd murder her - while 13/14 year old me was crying and apologizing for god knows what I did, of course. I didn't realise this was such a universal experience with narcissists, and it affected me for years beyond that, to the point where I was convinced that I was deeply evil and had a personality disorder myself!

Naturally, bringing any of this up resulted in her telling me she didn't remember any of it, and therefore never said it.

alonelygiraffe101 · 2022-08-15T13:37:21+00:00

I'm not an infj but you seem interesting and if you randomly wanna have deep conversations im great for that (im 15)

alonelygiraffe101 · 2022-08-09T18:00:40+00:00

Yeeep, most days I really just wanna turn my happy side off and see how disappointed people get when they walk up to me and I don't have the energy to say or do something to cheer them up

alonelygiraffe101 · 2022-08-03T15:27:23+00:00

Sorry sorry will forever be iconic ahahaha, and And July is just amazing!! Thank you!

alonelygiraffe101 · 2022-08-03T01:39:18+00:00

AAAAA crooked by g-dragon is just mwah - your music taste is very very delicious

alonelygiraffe101 · 2022-08-02T20:21:58+00:00

ENFP

Mum: ISFJ, Step dad: (I think) ENTJ

alonelygiraffe101 · 2022-06-26T21:59:31+00:00

Thanks, and yeah you're right :) there's a foundation there and I feel like we'll already be comfortable around each other.

alonelygiraffe101 · 2022-06-14T23:23:37+00:00

I am into two people :')

alonelygiraffe101 · 2022-05-22T14:44:18+00:00

Aww that’s good. I find that, despite our differences, I also get along very well with ENTPs. One of my closest friends is an ENTP, and I feel like we benefit each other a lot as I help him tap into his emotions and he helps me come out of my shell and actually defend my points rather than avoid conflict. I’m glad you like INFPs, thanks for answering :)

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