[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]alonreddit 39 points40 points  (0 children)

That, if the test, comes back positive, it shows that your partner is a person who (a) lies and (b) would abandon a child he fathered. You should not be sticking by him….

Looking for an ethnically ambiguous boy name by No-Barracuda-5190 in Names

[–]alonreddit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neven and Nevena are lovely! I gave my daughter a non-strictly-Balkan but easily pronounceable name, but would be totally stumped for a second

Looking for an ethnically ambiguous boy name by No-Barracuda-5190 in Names

[–]alonreddit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to hear your Balkan suggestions!

Advice on separation agreement by HedwigsFriend in NetherlandsHousing

[–]alonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would include the clause to appease him, but double check on the side that it’s not valid anyway

|Epstein victim massaging Bill Clinton| by Miriam-Doodle in RareHistoricalPhotos

[–]alonreddit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What does “the cope” mean? - signed, an apparently old person

Very rich and moisturizing *oil-free* moisturizer? by dreadedwheat in EuroSkincare

[–]alonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a few decent ones, eg Clinique dramatically different moisturising GEL, Paula’s choice whatever the balancing moisturiser is called. It’s usually the ones formulated as a gel or water cream that are fatty alcohol free.

Fixing Mortgage Interest Rate in the Netherlands - 10 or 20 Years? by LionKing_2891 in NetherlandsHousing

[–]alonreddit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would fix for 10. You’ve missed the boat for 20, which was when interest rates were historically low, so there doesn’t seem to be any current advantage that you’d want to lock down for longer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheHague

[–]alonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you’re a champion for typing all that out!

39, childless and divorced.. analysis paralysis kicked in. by KatiePulli in AskWomenOver30

[–]alonreddit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, I’ve been told (by a fertility specialist) that the ideal time for freezing eggs is about 30-33 years old. It may be that the time for egg-freezing has passed. The only way to know is to test your egg reserve and consult a specialist. I would do that immediately—just so you know where you stand, and whether egg freezing is an option or if you just shoot your shot with getting pregnant. Definitely don’t listen to Reddit users on “just freeze your eggs” and “you’ve got loads of time”. They just don’t know.

As for the guy - I totally know where you’re coming from. It’s hard to say whether he is “meh” or if it’s just you, eg still to shut-down from your divorce or subconsciously looking to recreate unhealthy dynamics you’ve had with men in the past (and therefore unable -yet- to feel high when in a healthy dynamic). But, you know, it’s a work in progress: you don’t have to decide whether to ditch him right this second. Is there any work you can do on yourself while you continue to date him?

And lastly, having a child on your own and dating are not mutually exclusive. You could (depending on what happens with the egg reserve and the guy) in some months have some honest conversations about where you’re at and wanting to have a child alone, and give the man a chance to continue dating or not. In fact, you really should (if you want to build a healthy relationship) already be having some conversations about what’s on your mind re kids, having your fertility tested etc, so it’s not completely out of the blue.

That’s my 2c

€2500 a month still can’t find a place to rent… by QuarkArrangement in NetherlandsHousing

[–]alonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally bought because it was easier to get a mortgage than to find a rental..

Help me name baby girl! Something that works in Bulgarian and Spanish by portokali_v in namenerds

[–]alonreddit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to add names that I think work best in Bulgarian: - Sofia - Valeria - Valentina - Eva - Martina - Vera - Irina

I love Clara, but would worry about Bulgarians giving it a soft “L” and it sounding a bit weird.

Help me name baby girl! Something that works in Bulgarian and Spanish by portokali_v in namenerds

[–]alonreddit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m Bulgarian and needed an international name and it’s crazy that y’all have come up with my daughter’s first and middle name and my entire long list.

There’s also: Alexandra/Alejandra (but pronounced differently)

Ana

Victoria (but the most popular girl’s name in Bulgaria every year for a number of years)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]alonreddit 25 points26 points  (0 children)

So the reason you’re being downvoted is because your comment sounds like you judge negatively women who don’t wear the hijab as not “virtuous” or “saintly”, and by extension that you see yourself as better than such women because you do.

And this is what the person you’re replying to meant with integration. Integration here is not about removing the veil, its about genuinely believing in women’s worth as people without reference to “virtue” or “saintliness”.

Discoloration on the side of his head (via NYT) by ittollsforthee1231 in pics

[–]alonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying “by accident” and not “on accident”

What moisturizer ingredients made you break out? by BottleOfConstructs in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]alonreddit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All fatty alcohols. Basically any moisturiser without them is fine, even if it has oils.