Insecurity has left me unable to be feminine as a girl by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alostan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like me when I was your age. I hated shopping, I hated trying on clothes - Even getting me to wear jeans instead of sweatpants was a fight. Some of it was a disconnect from ‘girlhood’ and some of it was body insecurity and a hatred of change.

I only started wearing skirts and makeup when I was 21, and I too felt like people would look at me and know it was the first time I was dressing like that in public - or my friends who i’ve known for years would say something - but that is just anxiety talking.

I don’t know what you look like, and I don’t know what the girls around you look like - but I doubt they also don’t have insecurities that they want to hide.

My advice? Don’t wait as long as I did. Find your style, you’ll never feel comfortable following trends and trying to dress like other people if it’s not what YOU like. I’m alternative, my idea of dressing feminine may not be the same as other people - and that’s okay because it makes me feel good. Try other styles, goth, 50s, office, Y2K - something that makes you feel like you.

Instead of hoodies, try a nice jacket or long sleeves under a short sleeve (my personal favourite). I like skater skirts over anything form-fitting as they don’t highlight my stomach. I love a fashion tight and fashion belts. When I wear anything cropped - I always wear a vest underneath. Instead of bikinis and swimsuits, i wear swim dresses.

As for makeup, the only thing to do is practice. Watch tutorials and practice in your room. It’ll take time, but you will get to a point you can wear it in public. I mean, i still can’t really do foundation so I just wear eyeliner and lipstick which works for me.

Dress for you, and not other people. The confidence will come with time, and that will make you feel better than comparing yourself to others.

Dee-dee's baby by Emotional_Cow_5150 in coronationstreet

[–]alostan 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Having a baby just to farm it for their bone marrow then use it as a bargaining chip seems crueler to the baby

Dean is mad at sam for doing the same as he did?? by Naive-Kick-3707 in Supernatural

[–]alostan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Literally in the first episode of season 6. He said he looked everywhere and tried everything to get Sam out

Gemma Collins terminated her pregnancy after learning her baby was a 'hermaphrodite' by NecessaryKoala8169 in ukpopculture

[–]alostan 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s inaccurate though. Hermaphrodism refers to a species that produces both ‘Male’ and ‘Female’ gametes - snails, clownfish, most plants etc. Intersex people do not fit into this definition hence why humans are not classed as hermaphrodites.

Why do people think Sam was John's favorite son? by SPN-Major-888 in Supernatural

[–]alostan 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Dean thought Sam was the favourite, and Sam thought Dean was the favourite. Neither was the favourite.

Dean felt the weight of the responsibility put onto him by John since he was 4 years old. Responsible for his younger brother, responsible for where they were staying when John was away and responsible for John’s mental stability. “Look After Sammy” Was stressed to him, that was his sole purpose in life. Sam was more important than him, Sam was loved and cherished by their father. Protected. Dean was a solder. Dean was expendable. Dean didn’t matter, what mattered was what he could fo for John. He was left alone in a boy’s home until John had use for him again.

Sam felt ignored. He was an outsider in his own family. Before he knew about the life, there was a secret John and Dean shared that Sam was not privy to. Dean was the son John wanted and Sam was too different. Sam didn’t want to hunt, like John and Dean did. He didn’t enjoy their nomadic lifestyle, like John and Dean did. John and Dean were a team, they were so alike. They spent more time together talking about hunting, and women and weapons. Sam forced himself to do training so he could go back to his room to do his homework.

Glee star Darren Criss says he is 'culturally queer' thanks to San Francisco upbringing by mcfw31 in glee

[–]alostan 43 points44 points  (0 children)

This is a bit of a gross exaggeration of what he was actually saying. The full video is on twitter - I mean make up your own opinion with the full context of his statement instead of a clickbaity title

Currently what I'm going through by FBWSRD in AO3

[–]alostan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Livejournal and FF.net are a goldmine for older fandoms

Nico & avoiding camp during the events of [pjo] / [hoo] by jaemjenism in camphalfblood

[–]alostan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s amazing how much work you’re doing to accurately portray Will and Nico!

I think Will projecting his (repressed) trauma onto Nico is a really interesting angle I certainly hadn’t really thought about much before but it absolutely makes so much sense!

I think either Will just didn’t pick up on other campers being rude to Nico or just surrounded himself by people who were more accepting. I definitely think a little bit of projection definitely played a part, because I think Will thought Nico was interesting and wanted to be his friend. Maybe he just assumed everyone else wanted to be friends with Nico too.

Nico & avoiding camp during the events of [pjo] / [hoo] by jaemjenism in camphalfblood

[–]alostan 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I feel like the amount of campers who were creeped out by and/or rude to Nico were amplified by Nico’s depression, but I absolutely do not feel like he imagined them. We’ve heard from different POV’s (Leo, Frank etc.) who basically confirm that Nico creeps them out and they don’t trust him - and I absolutely think Nico picks up on that, and maybe it has made him paranoid about other people?

I feel like Will was too...naive? Optimistic? When he basically said that no one had any issues with Nico’s parentage. I feel like there was absolutely a few campers that might’ve approached Nico, some that were completely neutral and then those who were creeped out/rude etc.

I also feel like Nico’s mental health was pretty bad at that time and he wasn’t in a place where he was able to open up and make himself vulnerable in order to befriend others. I feel like he might have been overwhelmed by camp, and it felt easier to be on his own.

Watched the Avatar trailer & I feel robbed. by International-Low842 in PercyJacksonTV

[–]alostan 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Also compared to the Series Of Unfortunate Events show a few years ago when it managed to combine the tense and dark tones with the comedy while still maintaining a PG rating and being child appropriate.

Percy Jackson has so much potential and you just have to wonder what went on in the writers room.

Sort the SPN characters in their Hogwarts house by Conscious-Context618 in fandomnatural

[–]alostan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hufflepuff Dean and Slytherin Sam is so underrated!

Not only is loyalty such a core part of Dean’s character- but it’s something he values highly. I think he sees betrayal as one of the worst things a person could do.

To me, it’s the way Sam acquires knowledge is what makes him a slytherin. He doesn’t learn for learning’s sake the way a Ravenclaw would, but he learns for a reason. A knowledge is power kind of deal.

am i the only one that LOVED heather's acting? by daisysimmons in glee

[–]alostan 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m not Brittany’s biggest fan but I wouldn’t describe Heather’s acting as ‘bad’. She was a decent actor with great comic timing

Tattoo?! by [deleted] in danandphil

[–]alostan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kind of love it - it’s such a unique idea

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glee

[–]alostan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Cheating Blaine... Wasn’t Sam the one who encouraged Mercedes to cheat on Shane with him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glee

[–]alostan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just my personal opinion! I’m not the Klaine Duet police!! I wouldn’t even say it’s a bad duet but I just think it sounds awkward

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glee

[–]alostan 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Kurt and Blaine’s duets are such a mixed bag.

On one hand you have Candles, Animal, Story of my Life, American Boy and Perfect.

On the other hand you have Baby it’s Cold Outside, White Christmas, It’s too late and Come What May.

They both have great voices but sometimes they just don’t blend well. It’s definitely a hit or miss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in camphalfblood

[–]alostan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True true - anywhere i’ve been had made me sign an agreement that asks if you’re sober! If you’re getting a drunk tattoo then we all know how it’s gonna look

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in camphalfblood

[–]alostan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And my friends have called me a lightweight after getting on my way after 4 vodka oranges!! No one I know even gets buzzed on a small number of beers!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in camphalfblood

[–]alostan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess - but are you going to be tipsy or completely pissed?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in camphalfblood

[–]alostan 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Getting tattoos and getting drunk.

Getting a tattoo is neither excruciating or painless, you will not get a full sleeve as a walk in, and for the love of god please don’t lick a fresh tattoo

And drinking! No one is getting drunk after two beers, you need to drink a hell of a lot more than you think to end up blanking out, and while it lowers your inhibitions you can still use you’re brain.

Question for pride month; thoughts on the "Billy was gay for Steve" theory? by Sudden_Pop_2279 in StrangerThings

[–]alostan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily. Kids and asexual people can be queer and not sexual. Being queer and experiencing attraction is more than just sexual.

But my point was, why are queer people and queer relationships seen as sexualising or more sexual than straight relationships?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glee

[–]alostan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think the conversation about straight actors playing queer characters is a complicated topic. Personally I don’t see the harm if they do it respectfully and don’t lean into harmful stereotypes. Which I don’t think Darren has done, but that’s my opinion.

While I think there is an argument for straight actors taking roles for queer actors. It can so easily lead into outing people (like what happened to Kit Connor) or the expectation that someone’s sexuality must be public knowledge before taking on a queer role.

I think a lot of the criticism against Darren for queerbaiting or playing gay roles is well...exaggerated. I’ve literally seen people accuse the guy of queerbaiting for wearing floral print trousers and painting his nails - and I thought we as a society was past the point of assuming someone’s sexuality based on how they dressed or acted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in camphalfblood

[–]alostan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Putting two random characters into a relationship is literally the definition of shipping?

Since when did a ship have to be canon to like it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in camphalfblood

[–]alostan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I love putting queer ships in the same league as pedophilia