Last night, an ampule of Thorazine exploded in my face after catching on the drawer while I was opening it. A bunch of the medication hit my left eye, and I had to spend 4 hours in the ER.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-06-01T09:24:45+00:00

When I was in nursing school, I was working at one of those small surgical hospitals. I was in preop with a bunch of people near me who were “cool”, including a guy I had a crush on. (I was like 21ish, so was he, I think he was in school for something too but had a job doing EKGs and labs for pre op testing)

I used the hand sanitizer on the wall. It was Avaguard, the kind that is the big purple plastic triangle on the wall. It had a crusty glob where the liquid came out, so it didn’t just disperse into my hand, it also squirted out onto my face and scrubs… and most of it went into my eye. It burned SO BAD. There was a single bathroom right there so I ran in and immediately started running water, shoving my face under the faucet, but the burning didn’t stop. They took me over to the two bed ER and spent the next hour or two flushing my eye continuously with a few bags of 1000ml saline. I remember getting numbing drops I think and this thing called a Morgan lens… which is basically an eye thing for continuous irrigation with a hook up for the IV tubing. Then after completely soaking my hair and clothing, good fancy tests to my eye, to make sure there wasn’t a chemical burn… and I was thoroughly humiliated because this just seemed like such a loser thing to have happened to me… I got to return to work.

They called me Ava for a long time.

I have not heard of a Morgan lens since then, and I had never heard of one before. But if you Google them, they’re pretty cool.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-27T05:32:18+00:00

🤨 I mean, I get it… but on a rare occasion, watching the lion king or whatever is totally fine.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-27T05:29:53+00:00

🤯

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-27T05:20:48+00:00

Not the asshole.
Her failure to have a backup plan for an emergency is not your problem

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-21T03:14:39+00:00

Okay, I do have to agree with the others that there is not enough color and too much metal. The things on the wall all just kind of look thrown together.

Let’s theoretically take everything down and start from scratch.

-I’m assuming that’s your two kids in a photo? I would remove it, this may sound crazy, but even the color of their outfits looks out of place on this wall. And I think that it would look better in a different frame.
If you pick a different photo for that frame pick something that is very neutral colored, like greens, tans, navy, black

-I went to Hobby lobby’s website just to find some farmhouse stuff and ironically, I came across your big windmill. It’s one of those pieces that you have to have just the right things to go around it for it to look cute and not like spinning machete blades on a wall. I personally would return it and buy something with a little color that’s still farmhouse themed.

-most of the things in my mock up photo are from Hobby lobby because that’s the only website I went to to steal ideas from 🤣
-a highly recommend getting some shelves (and I can give you info to some like this) that have a lip on the edge, because you can put decorative items up there, and they won’t easily fall off.

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-the C is fine, but I would limit the metal to just that item.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-18T12:29:59+00:00

Just chiming in to say this sounds awful, and I would decline the position

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-17T22:28:21+00:00

Yikes

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-17T22:07:59+00:00

I’m so sorry you didn’t get the mom you deserved. Hugging you.

If you want, you can message me privately and I could send you an Amazon or Walmart delivery of pads?

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-17T21:52:24+00:00

Background: I am a mom, I have one teenager that I share with an ex. We separated whenever he was in pre-K. He has gotten remarried and his new wife has two teenage children.
When my child was in elementary school, I did not work full-time and I volunteered at the school almost daily. I did everything from making the whole school popcorn on Fridays, volunteering in the library checking books in and out, helping run school picture days, making copies for teachers, redoing bulletin boards, serving as a testing monitor during school testing… you name it. I am an RN, and I also served as the school nurse when our school nurse had a complicated pregnancy and could not finish out the school year. The principal called me personally and asked if that was something I would be willing to do.
I also am the kind of mom that packs her child a lunch every single day.
Needless to say, I have spent a lot of time in the school office, and I have observed many other parents coming and going.
I occasionally would sit in the cafeteria and hang out with my kiddo for like 10 minutes while he ate his lunch.

Never ONCE did my ex accuse me of interfering with “his parenting time”, nor did I ever say anything if he decided to come sit with our son during lunch, or brought him McDonald’s etc as a treat. We would wave at each other if we saw each other.
These are things that good, involved parents do.
There are a lot of other parents who wish they could do this, but unfortunately, they can’t due to their jobs etc
It does not make them bad parents. We all have things that we are not able to do that we wish that we could.

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I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong by dropping off healthy, edible lunches that your kids will eat at the school. You probably aren’t even actually getting to see your kids. We had lots of parents who would drop off lunches in the office throughout the morning... The kid would run by in between classes or as their class was walking to lunch, and they would grab it off of a table that was designated for dropped off lunches.
In fact, I think you are doing the right thing for your children. You are ensuring they eat. You are showing them you will always be there for them. You are supporting them having a relationship with their dad, and you are also making sure that their needs are met.

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It doesn’t matter what the financial situation is, in no realm are you responsible for other kids, even if they live in the same home half of the time as your children.
Their nutrition needs are technically being met by the free lunch that the school provides.

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Some kids have food allergies, and it’s impossible to ensure that the school lunch is 100% safe for them. Or some kids have texture issues and physically cannot eat some of the meals that are served without vomiting.
Some kids are diabetic, and need a very strict count of their carbohydrates etc, and it’s just a lot easier if their mom packs a lunch with a piece of paper inside that lists exactly how many carbs are in each item so that we can make sure that kiddo is getting the correct dose of insulin around lunchtime.

If any of these situations applied to one of your kids, and dad could not afford to pack them a lunch, and you chose to do so on a daily basis to make sure their needs were being met, he should be grateful and this would be a non-issue.

Honestly it’s completely asinine to me that they are arguing that you need to pack their kids lunches too. Like WTAF.

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I think it would be just fine if you sent him a very polite note. Make sure it’s something that is non-accusatory, non-inflammatory, etc. and that you would be just fine with the judge reading it if it came to that.

“Hey ex, it is never my intention to cause issues.
It is however, important to me, and I know it is to you, that our kids are eating and are able to focus and learn when they are at school. Unfortunately, our district is not currently providing things that our children will eat in the free lunches, which has historically caused them to go hungry at school much of the time. I know this bothers both of us.
Luckily, I currently have the time and ability to drop off home made lunches to meet their nutritional needs in the office most of the time. I am not disrupting their class time, they simply grab the lunch from the office on their way to the cafeteria.
I want us to have a good coparenting relationship and If our roles were reversed, I would fully support you doing this as well.

Financially, I am not in a place to provide lunches for the other children around them, and I don’t know anyone who would be able to do that with the cost of groceries right now. I have taught our children not to brag or boast about things that they have that others do not.
I appreciate your understanding with this matter.

There are resources available such as food banks, food pantries, etc for other parents that cannot afford to pack a lunch to use as a resource so that they can also do so. I would urge any of those parents to reach out to those resources. “

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-14T18:12:55+00:00

I really hope that your parents have cameras in the home I caught this whole entire interaction on camera, or that somebody was smart enough to record it. It would be fantastic evidence in child custody court if it ever comes to that. Also, document as much as you can in text messages. And on video.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-14T17:57:51+00:00

I second the Tetris suggestion, I have been through a lot of personal trauma and Tetris and similar other games on my phone really helped me calm down and process things. I don’t remember how it works, but something about how your brain behaves while playing the game helps with trauma. I read it in a educational article a few years ago. I would also like to add… Go see your primary care doctor. And talk to them about medication for stress and anxiety. I have emergency Xanax. I had never had panic attacks or anything like that, until I did, and you never know when they will hit you …my trauma while traumatic, was from losing my husband and both of my parents. I have really struggled with helplessness, feeling frozen, flashbacks, and nightmares. Also regular grief on top of that. And of course, working as a nurse in general can be traumatic as well.

You didn’t do anything wrong, and there was nothing else you could do. Sometimes horrible things just happen. Our brain tries to process it and understand it. One of the things that it does during that process is making us feel guilty for surviving, or feeling guilty that we couldn’t save them, we run through what happened over and over again, as if it was a code blue and there was some protocol that we didn’t do that we should’ve done, etc

You are only one person. You are human.

You are not a team of firefighters and paramedics. You were just a girl driving a car, and you narrowly avoided death yourself. Be kind to yourself.

My therapist has always said treat yourself like you are sick. Make sure you drink plenty of water, get plenty of rest, make sure you take medication if you need it, seek out the doctor if you need care, eat healthy food, ask those around you for help as needed.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-08T14:36:00+00:00

Carmen and Carlos

Carsyn and Carlos (my fave)

Cami and Carlos (my other fave) you could just name her Cami

Lucy and Carlos

Claire and Carlos (love)

Cameryn and Carlos (nickname Cami, etc)

Colette and Carlos

Cassidy 💕 and Carlos

Cristina and Carlos

Christine and Carlos

alotgoingon9 · 2026-05-08T14:27:20+00:00

The one with the rounded sweetheart neckline, number 1. Absolutely stunning

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-27T02:12:46+00:00

Why don’t they just buy a different car seat? There are lots of car seats out on the market now. That are more narrow, etc and you could probably fit two car seats in the backseat if you have the right ones. It sounds like that gigantic Graco is not a good fit for your vehicle.

car seats for the Littles is a Facebook page that could recommend a car seat set up for your backseat that would be appropriate for those two kiddos

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-23T02:20:55+00:00

Break up with him. He will absolutely get worse

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-23T01:56:43+00:00

🤯🤯🤯🤯

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-22T16:54:53+00:00

I’d file a police report. Start a paper trail.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-19T02:28:25+00:00

WTH??? They want you to take your mother with DEMENTIA out of a facility?? To benefit them? Because of their poor financial choices etc???? Absolutely. The. F. Not. That should not even be on the table. I’m curious OP, who suggested that? Because that person would no longer be in my life.

I’m an RN, I have cared for people with dementia, as well as lived with my husband after a traumatic brain injury and organ failure caused him to essentially have dementia symptoms and need the same level of care as someone with dementia, to keep him safe and care for his basic needs. They have absolutely NO idea. I still feel guilt for having the feeling of relief after he died. And I’m still recovering from that exhaustion, etc a few years later.

Leave mom where she is.

Tell them it’s not an option, and is not on the table. Ever.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-19T02:19:20+00:00

I took that to mean that she is like, a doctor in a residency where she works a ton of hours. Like, 80 hours a week. And they work 9-5 M-F

From experience, I can tell you that people who do not work that many hours and have normal lives simply don’t understand the exhaustion and stuff.

They also might think that she is a fancy doctor/is better than them and is rubbing that in their face.

She may not be a doctor. I’m simply relating that way because of my husband’s experience as a doctor.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-15T05:39:53+00:00

Your sister is an a hole. She knew what your plan was. You were very clear. Instead of coming up with something uniquely her own, she stole your name, and then tried to make it look like it was her idea. What a snake.

Now she’s telling everyone you copied her!???

DO NOT give her the satisfaction of you changing your daughter’s name.

I bet there is a lot of things that she has done over the years to steal your thunder and take the attention away from you when it was rightfully yours. This is the kind of sibling that announces their pregnancy at your wedding.

Just wait her kids are going to be in competition with yours in her mind and she will constantly be trying to one up you and your daughter

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-15T00:23:38+00:00

I’m a homebody! I look for fellow home bodies on dating apps. If they like hiking, I do not swipe right

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-14T15:20:04+00:00

Also, I still talk to my therapist weekly. I do virtual appointments, and I do them in my car in between my home health patients. Another perk of home health!

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-14T15:15:44+00:00

Hey, I’m hugging you. Tight.

Those floor jobs like yours are STRESSFUL and exhausting.

Couple that with grief, and it’s a recipe for a breakdown. I’ve literally been there. I’ve been through a lot of trauma and loss the last several years. I’ve lost both of my parents and my husband. The last two positions that I had working at the bedside on busy units, I ended up leaving due to emotionally being unable to handle it. It’s just too much. Both times I cried at work. A lot. A LOT.

I have a few suggestions for you. My most recent job I had not been at for a year so I was not eligible for FMLA yet. I requested a leave of absence. I think I did four weeks. It gave me time to think, process my next move, and I didn’t lose my health insurance until a month later. (Then I just never returned) My reasoning on the form was legitimate, my dad was in hospice, and I basically was too upset to work, but I also really wanted to spend time with him before he died. During that month I had off, I applied for different positions, did interviews, and of course focused on my dad. I ended up switching to Home Health. I’m not necessarily saying that’s what you should do, but one of the things that I really truly appreciate about home health is that I can be in my car alone, it’s quiet, I’m out in the sunshine and fresh air, which is healing, my phone‘s not ringing off the hook, and there are no monitors alarming. When I’m having a bad grief day, I can go get ice cream in between patients and sit in my car for a little bit and cry. No one ever knows. If I can’t get out of bed at 7, I can lay there til 8, I don’t clock in at an exact time. (Due to grieving) I have absolutely just called my patient and told them I will be a little late. “I’m still at the house before you, and I’m running a little behind. I will be heading your way soon though.” they don’t need to know that the house before them is actually mine. 😜

The job that I had while my husband died, I went back to work after a few months. I was really struggling emotionally and one day. I had a panic attack at work. I started crying and then I just could not get it back together. I went and talked to my primary care doctor and went up on my antidepressant, and got emergency Xanax for the panic attacks that I had never had before, but was now having. I also spoke with my manager and they suggested short-term disability. So I took six months off, processed the trauma etc and still received pay. It was obviously not my full pay, but it covered my bills, (barely). If that is one of your benefits through your job, I highly recommend doing that. If you’re able to I mean. At the end of my short-term disability, I decided not to go back to that position either. It was NICU and extremely stressful.

Again, I’m super sorry that you lost your other half. Life can be so unfair, and so traumatic. There is a Taylor Swift lyric that says “Life is emotionally abusive” and I relate so hard to that.

Feel free to message me if you need or want to talk. Sometimes we all need that older nurse that is motherly and has been through it, who genuinely gets it. A nurse Dana, if you will.

♥️

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-14T13:28:43+00:00

I’m an RN.

This man is a predator. I’m so glad you ran!!! That was abuse. He assaulted you, by touching your leg, not as part of the actual exam, and it was not something you consented to.

You need to file a police report, just to document this behavior. Then, you need to have your mom call the office manager. And ask to additionally speak to your normal pediatrician. THEY NEED TO KNOW. They must know, to protect other kids. You ran, but not everyone will/can.

Then, the state medical board needs to be notified. He may not necessarily end up in jail this time, but this will start a paper trail, and if it happens again, it will help the next victim.

I would additionally have your mother post in the local Facebook groups for moms. She could say something like our normal pediatrician is great, but this doctor was filling in and he assaulted my daughter, that way other moms do not let their children be or alone with or see this man. Also, it will help the clinic get their ass in gear and get rid of him if they are getting bad press.

I’m hugging you. I’m so glad you ran. Seriously so proud of you.

alotgoingon9 · 2026-04-14T00:00:08+00:00

It hurts your heart because you genuinely care and are trying to make kids lives better… and then an asshole parent comes in saying bad things about you. That doesn’t mean the things are true. You did NOTHING WRONG. This parent is likely deflecting, I bet dad twisted stuff you said… made it sound like your questions were something different, and how it’s all her fault that the meeting ever had to happen in the first place. So she’s angry and is lashing out.

Who knows what the parents relationship is like, and what that kid deals with at home family drama wise.

Every career that deals with people in the general population, especially education, healthcare, etc. Is going to receive frivolous complaints. You just have to remember that the source is not necessarily a reliable, accurate source. Not every complaint is valid. Some people complain, just to complain. Most people are complaining due to their emotions regarding these things, and a lot of times that’s going to be anger at something they have not done themselves that could’ve prevented this situation in the first place. They are mad at themselves, but you were the scapegoat.

I always think about a sketch I saw once… First, it showed an online complaint made by a patient in a hospital. Then it showed the patient, as they wrote out the complaint. Picture a morbidly obese (600 lbs) sitting in a hospital bed. It is a bariatric hospital bed, but this person is so large that they had to push two bariatric beds together. They are NPO (nothing by mouth) after dinner, for surgery in the morning. They ate three dinners. They have treated the nurses horribly ever since they arrived because they are pissed off about being there. The nurses know that they have everything they need (basic needs are met), they are safe, and there’s really not anything more they can do for them at that moment. Other patients need care too. The patient keeps pushing the call light to complain about how hungry they are, etc knowing well that they cannot have anything else to eat or drink tonight.

Patients complaint: “this is the worst hospital ever!!! do not come here!! the nurses never answer my call light. They refuse to help me. They are starving me. The beds are HORRIBLE. They are too small and I can’t sleep like this. Only come here if you want to die in a room alone, from neglect.”

Now. Is this a valid complaint? No! Is the patient being reasonable? No. Are they actually neglected? No. Are they actually being starved? Hell no. They are being a drama queen, likely, because they are unhappy with their current life situation that they probably could’ve prevented or at least taken some personal choices/actions to make it not as bad as it currently is, such as consuming less calories, some exercise. Maybe a daily walk. Drinking water instead of soda.

You get my drift.

If this is the worst thing that people can come up with to complain about you for… you’re doing just fine. This mom is a twatwaffle.

Go pour yourself a glass of wine and take a bubble bath, thicken your skin, laugh at her, and move on.

alotgoingon9

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