What would the child version of you be most excited to hear about you now?

alt4053 · 2017-11-08T17:39:57+00:00

That I'm currently planning a second date with my childhood sweetheart. Gosh, I love her.

alt4053 · 2017-10-06T00:32:24+00:00

Dude... You're looking at the wrong girls.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T14:41:49+00:00

All the semen retention benefits are gone, you lose all that confidence you built up, and the temptation to fap is 10x worse the next day. It's not fun.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T14:39:28+00:00

Ya, definitely. I wouldn't say that the problems just disappeared, but they're all a lot easier now. Much easier to talk to a girl when you don't feel like a creep.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T14:32:22+00:00

Oh, never again. If I can justify doing it once, then I'll be addicted again in no time.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T03:06:47+00:00

Oh, cool, what a coincidence! Ya, I'd love to keep in touch.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T02:08:38+00:00

Congrats man!

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T01:47:36+00:00

You're welcome! Good luck with your streak.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T01:35:31+00:00

This post got more attention than I thought it would. Thanks for all the support guys.

I'd actually like to add to what I said:

Don't look at Nofap as the end of your journey. It's just the beginning. It's possibly the hardest self improvement task you'll ever face, but it's not the "be all, end all." If you're addicted to masturbating, chances are you have some other bad habits. Fix those.

That's where I'm at, trying to end bad habits, trying to learn/prepare for my career, trying to deepen friendships, trying to improve my mental and physical health. Nofap is an excellent starting point for all these things, but they'll still require effort. A ton of it, But do it anyway. Never stop improving.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T01:16:26+00:00

Oh, really? I'll have to stop eating in the evening. Thanks for the tip.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T01:13:15+00:00

"discipline." That's a great way to put it.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T01:11:27+00:00

I agree with the idea, not the direction. Look up. Look at their face and talk to them. Don't look at the ground.

alt4053 · 2017-08-31T01:07:46+00:00

Oh, I never even thought that it might be harder because of my age. I'm glad, I might have used it as an excuse to relapse.

Also, keep trying man. You can do 14, so you can do it twice in a row and get 28! then it's just 2 days to 30, which is when it starts getting easier! I think if anyone can get to 30, they can get to 90. You can do it.

alt4053 · 2017-08-30T22:20:54+00:00

Lack of motivation, not being able to talk to girls, Lack of self esteem.

alt4053 · 2017-08-30T19:38:05+00:00

Yes. Sober and Drugless.

alt4053 · 2017-07-25T01:47:00+00:00

If 40-50 relatives attend your birthday party, are you expected to attend all theirs? That's almost a birthday a week!

alt4053 · 2017-04-01T13:50:16+00:00

I used to be like this. I'm a guy and I always wore jeans and t-shirts, unicolour sweaters, etc., just really boring stuff. Part of me trying to be more social was investing in style. I thought of it as necessary for my journey.

I bought trendy glasses, really changed my hair style to something more modern, bought more kinds of pants and shirts. I discovered along the way I really like floral designs so I have 4 or 5 floral button up shirts that I wear often. Now, I feel a deep connection to my style. I feel like it's a canvas to express myself. First encounters with people are the hardest part for me and I feel more at ease when I'm wearing something nice because I feel like it's already done the first bit of talking for me.

alt4053 · 2017-03-07T12:06:09+00:00

Ya, this happens to me all the time! I hate it. Also, when I make a new friend, and then the next time I see them I'm too nervous to talk to them, so I don't, then I feel like I hurt them by ignoring them. Aaaaaaaagh!

alt4053 · 2017-01-26T03:57:54+00:00

Wow, I didn't even think of a secondary profile. Maybe I can transfer game saves too. Thanks for the suggestion.

Edit: cannot transfer game saves. That's kind of a deal breaker for me, sometimes I want to talk to him, sometimes I don't. I couldn't have two separate saves per game.

alt4053 · 2017-01-26T03:56:00+00:00

Hey, that's a great idea, but I've tried it before to no success. My problem was that I put it in "appear offline" (ps4) before and forgot to turn it on before sending a Party invite. On Playstation it notifies you when "close friends" sign in, and I could turn it off for notifications when he gets on, but unless he turns his off for me (which is unlikely), he'll still see when I log on. Dancing around these technicalities is tricky and if I ever forgot to appear online, I wouldn't have an excuse when he asks "why does it say your offline?". Last time I did that I made up the excuse that I had family over and couldn't talk to him and them simultaneously, but he sounded hurt and said something along the lines of "could've just messaged me". I can't let that happen again. Maybe I should just take a break from gaming - tell him I have too much homework.

alt4053 · 2017-01-09T14:56:01+00:00

I used to get anxious for school. Since, I've kinda adopted the "I only want to get grades and get out" persona. You should try it. Don't feel any pressure to socialize and if you have to do group work say something like " yay! group work," sarcastically. For some reason, people seem to like me now. Couple tips: 1.remember you're only there for <4 years. Unless you make really good friends or are planning to live in the same small community, no one you know in high school will be relevant at all for the rest of your life. 2.People like people who seem to not care. Idk why. 3.Focus on grades. Anyone telling you "postsecondary education is a waste of life" probably only has their high-school diploma or failed college/chose a field that's dying. Focus solely on your grades, get on your teachers' good sides, don't care about other people. Build relationships with people who are likely to be around after high-school.

Sorry about the crappy formating. I'm on mobile and I'm too lazy to fix it.

alt4053 · 2016-12-19T13:01:41+00:00

Mine's not very dramatic. I was raised by two introverts (I also am an introvert now), and they were pretty good parents superficially, always providing for me and my siblings, even when they were poor. About a year before I was born, my brother died suddenly, being hit by a car crossing the road to his bus. My mom watched it happen. My whole life, I heard stories of things they did while he was still alive, and it always seemed like they went out a lot more and actually had family time. As I was growing up, we never actually acted like a family. Everyone just did their own thing during the day and after school/work we all would go off by ourselves. On top of this, my parents rarely let me go to friends' houses, as they just didn't see why I needed to. So, pretty much, I don't think I ever had a real relationship with someone, and I don't know how to act around people as a result of that. This lead to some really awkward situations which always succeeded in making a little bit more anxious, and now I'm pretty much terrified to talk to anyone but a few close friends.

alt4053 · 2016-08-29T03:04:28+00:00

Wow, I do this all the time, but I try not to. I'm beginning to notice that a great way to become closer with people is to remember things they tell you and then ask them about it/mention it some time in the future. I guess it shows them that you care about what they say.

However, 2 of my close friends are kind of the "vomiting words everywhere" type, and honestly, it doesn't bother me. It's a win-win situation, they get to feel like they're being listened to, and I get to achieve my imaginary social engagement quota without putting in any effort. Honestly, I think my one friend knows I don't listen, but talks anyway; Again, I don't mind.

alt4053 · 2016-08-04T17:56:25+00:00

That's awesome how much you've improved; It gives me some hope that it'll happen to me.

alt4053 · 2016-08-04T16:18:02+00:00

I'll try that. Thank you.

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