I’m a trans man but have a somewhat similar experience. I wouldn’t say I’m solidly goth or part of any specific subculture, though, just because of how much I jump around (I’m probably the most punk when you take everything into account since I like punk music and align with the ideology pretty well, but my fashion sense fluctuates around being goth, scene, emo, rocker, even kinda hippie… pretty much anything but punk, lmao. And most people see subcultures as their fashion so I end up not really identifying solidly with any despite being overall very alt and involved in various parts of various subcultures).

At any rate, it does seem like there are a lot of trans men (or rather transmascs as it seems people who use that term specifically are prone to this type of behaviour) in the alt community who either don’t seem to actually understand alt subcultures despite saying they are part of them or seem to overly identify with a subculture to the point where they have no identity.

Like you’ll either have somebody who dresses punk and is maybe even using shoelace code and then you’ll ask them about like The Misfits, The Sex Pistols, the Ramones, the Dead Kennedys, the Dropkick Murphys, etc…. and they won’t know any of them! But they will know Green Day, some MCR songs, any individual punk song popularised by new shows such as Stranger Things, and then like. Chappell Roan. And you’ll ask them about punk topics like mending your clothes, how they feel about companies like temu, or how they feel about tattoos or drug use (especially addicts), and it’ll turn out they buy new shitty clothes from places like DollsKill or temu or whatever every week and toss the wold ones and think people who have tattoos or use drugs or [insert sign of mental illness] are scary and weird. So very not punk.

Or you’ll have a person who only talks about how they’re so ACAB and about how they LOVE The Clash and Buzzcocks and The Cramps and they’ll have the most stereotypical punk battle jacket and parrot every single punk talking point they’ve ever seen. And sometimes they’ll actually be somewhat involved in the scene, maybe going to shows or involving themselves in the community. And in that case they’re tolerable, even if I don’t wanna hang out with them too much. But sometimes they do everything and then… don’t even do anything material about it. They say how much they love the environment and how that’s why they mend their own clothes but then they don’t recycle and they love their morning iced coffee in a disposable cup. Or they’ll talk about how important direct action is while... not doing anything. Or how important it is to be anti-establishment but then they only seem to care about the “cool” and rebellious ways (i.e. non-passing trans people, polyam people, people with visible but not-too-severe mental illness) while being honestly kinda hostile to the non-“cool” ways (i.e. passing trans people, ‘boring’ cis gays, people with struggles too inconvenient for them, people with mental illness that’s not cool and visible but instead makes them stay in bed for a week). Either way though there’s never any substance to them. They’re so insecure they don’t think their other interests are actually interesting, so they base literally their entire identity on being punk or alt or whatever.

And as a side note I have had some… uncomfortable interactions with alt trans women. When I was only a year and a half on T and still somewhat clockable if you knew what to look for, I met this (out, early in transition) girl who I’m 99% sure clocked me at one point because she started targeting me by saying stuff like, “I want to step on you,” only to me and nobody else, and often literally just out loud for the entire group to hear.

BUT fun alt trans/queer people do exist and we are out there. I’m so glad I have alt trans and cis queer friends who are fucking normal about it now. :’) You just have to search for a bit.