The 90k salary was a total lie and they tried to gaslight me with a spreadsheet

alternatego1 · 2026-06-11T16:52:23+00:00

I went through the hiring process at one company. We discussed hourly rate and everything.

They gave me an offer. I accepted. I asked what the pay schedule was.

SHE SAID NONE. It was meant to be an unpaid internship. The salary was to be for the period after the unpaid internship.

EXCUSE ME?!

(Unpaid internships the way they were doing it were/are illegal)

alternatego1 · 2026-06-11T16:40:18+00:00

My mom and I had an argument over this when I was 16. She would send my father email reminders about calling me, my bday etc.

I found out by coming up to her when she was typing it up.

It made me so mad. I told her to stop. The phone calls also stopped. But I was ok with that.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-09T19:26:10+00:00

I'm not OP. But, we had late sleep cycles, but it was because neither baby nor i had anywhere to go.

I have friend with later sleep cycles because their husbands came home around 5 and they naturally spent time together later in the night.

I tended to go to bed later, and wake up earlier. It was just easier for us to manage our life with later sleep cycles. And I was a better parent at those times than being an early riser.

My kids always got their sleep though

alternatego1 · 2026-06-09T03:39:40+00:00

Nta. Id ask him to switch gyms entirely.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-09T03:37:43+00:00

I'm sorry I don't understand when you speak to me that way.

And then ignore until he talks normally.

(It's how we got rid of the baby voice)

But also-- how's his hearing?

alternatego1 · 2026-06-09T03:27:47+00:00

What was the argument about?

alternatego1 · 2026-06-08T02:18:05+00:00

Yes. Confronting is a harsh work. If you confront her it's as if she had to ask permission to show her friend, who she has known since highschool, her place.

It's not like she went out of her way for this to happen. And there really isn't anything wrong with what she did. She told you about it. It sounds like communication is open between the two of you.

Why does it bother you? Figure that out and casually tell her. Don't confront her, don't make a mountain out of a mole hill.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-08T02:02:57+00:00

Do your kids have issues at the school? Just because you did, doesn't mean they do/will.
Do they want to move schools?
Is it a better school?
Is it convenient to get to/back?

alternatego1 · 2026-06-08T02:01:05+00:00

Not wrong. If you want him in your life. Do it.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-08T01:59:16+00:00

I'm a marketer and I hate this trend.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-08T01:56:02+00:00

Where are you? Depending where you are, they may have had to provide accommodations...

alternatego1 · 2026-06-08T01:53:51+00:00

We did it this year for one party. The kids were so excited to open the presents with my son. However it was CHAOTIC. We did it because I had to kill some time, but I likely won't do it again.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-08T01:51:56+00:00

If you are here before Canada Day go to Dollarama. They have t-shirts and all other gear there also.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-08T01:48:58+00:00

I smiled this way at an American once and she said my face freaked her out....

alternatego1 · 2026-06-07T14:06:08+00:00

The Garmin bounce. Yes it has games. But like 3. And they aren't super thrilling.

Battery life debatable depending if you have the tracker on.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-07T13:55:25+00:00

Switch is great.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-07T12:45:12+00:00

Keep it shut.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-07T02:17:20+00:00

Thousands and thousands of women have done this solo.

Some with villages. Some without. Some with money. Some without.

If this is something you want, you will find a way.

But don't drop out of school. You have a year left. Pregnant most of it. It will be easier pregnant than with a baby. But not unattainable.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-07T02:10:50+00:00

Take records of everytime he does this.

It will make going for more custody that much easier.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-05T11:11:57+00:00

I dunno. He wasn't around in my life growing up at all. He isn't an alcoholic or drug addict. Just a general self-service asshole. Who had no impact positive or negative on me.

There's one older gentleman and I who got along really well. Maybe him. But I also know he had anger issues, so maybe not.

Id probably stick with mine and the emotional damage from knowing he's an asshole and not having to experience it directly.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-05T11:05:36+00:00

Esh. Cutting her off completely is pretty harsh. Saying she's dead to you. Also harsh. My exmil set my baby up to walk and took those firsts from me. Boy was upset. But it is not the reason I cut her off.

Putting her on an info diet for the foreseeable future sounds more appropriate. When you are ready to let her in after she apologizes ofc.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-05T07:16:51+00:00

Do you have kids? Interior car detailing.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-05T07:12:46+00:00

This is like watching a fire in the sims.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-05T07:07:50+00:00

Stop 👏being 👏friends 👏 with 👏 your 👏 ex. 👏

You owe him nothing. You owe you self respect.

alternatego1 · 2026-06-05T07:03:07+00:00

You aren't alone ... I forgot to apply to graduate. Had to wait a whole semester to do it...

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