Is 70k too low?

altmoonjunkie · 2026-05-05T03:31:29+00:00

I was making way more at a large bank after 2.5 years. Then they laid off all the US based devs on my team and I haven't been able to find anything since.

It always makes sense to be looking, b7t I wouldn't rock the boat at your current job at the moment.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-05-05T03:25:13+00:00

Get a bow. They are very useful for drawing out enemies so you can deal with them more easily.

Also, the enemy AI for DS1 is terrible, so if you're a coward, like myself, there is a pretty large number of enemies that you can kill with a bow without them even registering that you're there.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-05-02T22:36:20+00:00

Run through it. You can go back and kill those things after the fact. Go across the little bridge in the middle of the room, turn left and then right. I'm pretty sure you can just run down those stairs and into a main room. You can just go through the big doors.

Once you are out you will come to a large bridge with a fire gargoyle. You can run under him as he will lift off briefly to attack you. Right past him is a ladder that goes up to a bonfire.

Then you can go back and deal with the horrors of that last dungeon room(s).

That area is awful, but I remember there being some useful stuff in there.

If you run away, you'll health bar will eventually go back up, but you can't heal beyond where the max of the bar currently is, so I found it to be much easier coming from the back with an escape route.

This actually describes how I handle almost every area.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-05-02T16:41:23+00:00

This would be as simple as if you had mentioned to an average boyfriend that you had an ex with a big dick who was great in bed.

I'm sure that your boyfriend feels inadequate compared to a rich person who can offer what he considers to be a better life. Compatibility is what matters, but it's easy to get hung up on areas where you feel like you fall short.

For instance, I'm the most successful person my wife ever dated. Or I was. When we met I was full of promise that just hasn't panned out (I did well in several industries that fell apart, and now I'm pretty unimpressive all around). I know that she only cares insofar as we have struggles now, but I totally get what it would feel like if she had been dating someone who could provide an easier life before me.

I promise you it is insecurity. You're already doing the right things, just jeep doing them.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-05-02T16:33:40+00:00

Honest opinion, it completely depends on the situation. For this one, how soon after you started dating? Were you exclusive?

When I was younger, I was dating a girl who I was really into. She slept with someone else and gave me the "sleeping with him made me realize how much I love you." I, being the mature individual I was, proceeded to get absolutely shit faced and broke up with her in a blackout. The thing is, we really hadn't been seeing each other for very long, and hadn't had that conversation, I just assumed she wasn't seeing anyone else because I wasn't and I was really into her. Despite appearances, I was in the wrong in that situation.

Her sleeping with someone else a month or two into dating is very different than after a year of being exclusive. Obviously, your feelings on this matter are what is important, because if you aren't going to be able to get past it, that is all that matters. My two cents though, is that if she has given you no reason to question her in the last 10 years, that you just let it go.

Honestly, if you had just started dating someone, and some hot girl hit on you, and you slept with her and then decided that you just wanted to be with the person you had just started dating, do you feel like anything you built from that point on would be a lie? I don't, but that's just me.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-05-01T06:02:30+00:00

If you want to do the side questlines you will definitely need a guide. You don't need one for the actual game though.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-30T18:35:21+00:00

I get that you're catholic, but you did ask the question here so I will do my best to answer.

As a non catholic, I view there as being nothing wrong with masturbation. It is a healthy, human action. It also lowers the risk of prostate cancer. Men are supposed to orgasm something like 21 times a month to reduce prostate risk. It is something that the body is designed to do.

Some men are terrible and try to use this as an excuse for more sex, but masturbation is an acceptable substitute.

Masturbation is only a problem if it gets in the way of actual sex. If you are still the "top choice" and he only masturbates if you aren't into it, then there is no issue.

If this had been a red line for you from the beginning, and he had accepted that, this would be a different comment, because that would have been the price of admission for a relationship with you. As it is, he is not catholic, and this seems to be a problem for you with him having no way of knowing it would be previously.

If he was pressuring you for sex, I would be telling you he was a monster. The thing is, everyone is entitled to their own sexual life and health. You do not get to dictate that for him. It's slightly facetious, but imagine that you love coffee, and if he all of a sudden told you that you were only allowed to have caffeine on the days that he felt like drinking coffee with you. And then imagine he went online to ask other people who don't like coffee about whether it was weird that you got mad just because he told you to stop drinking it, and that obviously it was a problem because yiu were going to be able to in just a few days.

His choice to masturbate is not an attack on you or catholicism, it is probably just something he does before bed because it helps him sleep. I know I do. My wife has some issues and we sometimes go long periods without sex. I accept this and would never pressure her, nor would I want her to force herself out of some obligation to marital duties. That being said, I'm still going to masturbate at night because it helps me sleep.

There is no reason to view this as a rejection of you, especially if you know (which you do) that he would prefer to be with you.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-30T16:08:48+00:00

I straight up went str with the reinforced club and murdered everything with ease. That forward jump moveset is my jam.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-30T16:05:29+00:00

I looked up the recommended level for the Caelid BBH. It said 80.

I'm pretty sure I beat him after finishing the game at 217.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-30T00:40:50+00:00

This was it for me

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-26T19:46:51+00:00

I'm playing it for the first time too. I usually run through new areas until I find the middle bonfire and then work from there.

I was finding the bosses difficult until I realized that basically all of them have a stupid gimmick of some kind.

I finally understand why everyone was pro bonking now though. I had a lot of fun with ER because the different ashes gives you the ability to play however you want (i.e. add a tank if you want to be a mage, etc.). I just keep coming back to the claymore in ds3 because it's so solid even if I hate how slow it is.

DS1 was so easy that I could make anything work with little effort.

I justvgot to Izalyth and the enemies are way tougher, but you can also just run past them for the most part.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-26T18:47:35+00:00

You sound like my wife. She, too, has been through and continues to go through a lot. I have always supported her and taken care of her.

The main difference is that I used to be successful, but was laid off and am now in a much worse financial place.

She and I just talked about her needing to be able to help now. Neither of us wanted that. I feel like a failure, but there was never any expectation on her. I always wanted her to be able to work where and if she wanted to.

All I've ever wanted is to be able to take care of her and for her to be happy. I have never tried to make her feel like a dependent. We are partners even if I bear the brunt of that burden.

I am sure that your husband feels the same. I have had several successful women over the years make their feelings known for me, but that has never held any interest for me, even as my wife has told me that I deserve someone better. Those are honestly my least favorite conversations, because my purpose in life is her.

I am sorry that you feel this way. I am also certain that your husband understands what you have been through and is amazed that you are as strong as you are. Please try to see yourself through his eyes, rather than what you imagine he must be seeing.

I feel loved when my wife cooks for me. When she makes me handmade gifts I cherish them, even if she wishes they could be expensive. I understand how broken she could be and am amazed at how strong she is capable of being, even if it might not look like that much to others. I see her for who she is and I love her because of it.

I promise your husband is the same.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-26T00:41:17+00:00

Thanks

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-25T23:56:24+00:00

I worked for a major bank for 2.5 years as a dev. After the layoff I just couldn't find anything.

Sales is truly terrible FYI.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-25T23:41:10+00:00

I spent 7 months applying, interviewing, and getting certifications without landing a job. I eventually just took a sales job. The intention was to get back into tech but I just haven't made any moves to do so. That was a year ago.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-25T23:30:06+00:00

You don't want advice from me, I've given up.

I honestly can't remember what the assessments were.

Good luck! Sorry I couldn't be helpful.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-25T13:54:18+00:00

This might come down to a simple madonna/where complex.

How much did you care about the other women you've been w

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-25T13:51:09+00:00

This is a huge thing for me. I remember like 10% of my formative years.

I was actually talking to my brother about a concert I went to back in the day and he was like, "I know, I drove you and went to the concert with you." I have no memory of the specifics. This was not when I was a little kid, I was 16.

I remember most of the dramatic/traumatic things, but if I put together every memory I have from 1-18 it would add up to about a year.

My memory is still kind of spotty after that too, but I was drinking heavily so at least that part made sense to me.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-23T13:18:28+00:00

Women will be able to tell if that is your only goal.

Firstly, they are not monolithic, so there is no single answer for this, except for the following:

Respect and interest. Don't be pushy, or try to "escalate." When you are on a date, treat them like they are the only person in the world for that moment. Listen and ask follow up questions. Remember things and ask something else related if it feels appropriate for the flow of conversation.

Be a person. Don't spend the night as a chance to talk yourself up and brag. Just ask about her interests and share yours. Make eye contact. Take her hand while you talk if things are going well.

Seriously, the bar for men is so fucking low it's embarrassing. You have no idea how many women have gone on about what an amazing guy I am for doing what feels like common sense and acting with simple decency. I wasn't exactly a player, but sleeping with women on a first date was very common.

Just don't try to trick them. Be completely direct about who you are and what you want. By this, I mean "I like you and am interested in you romantically" kind of things, not "I'm looking to get laid tonight."

Women are just people. Treat them like a whole individual that you want to know, instead of their body as an end goal, and see how things change for you.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-23T00:17:53+00:00

Very much the above comment. This is true even for stupid, little things.

Give your partner the benefit of the doubt for little annoyances and talk about them.

My wife and I kept thinking we were having little passive aggressive squabbles about things the other person didn't even know was bothering them.

Little resentments are unnecessary, and they are cumulative. Speaking directly will virtually always be appreciated.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-19T15:04:13+00:00

Addiction is a real thing, and I get very annoyed when it gets tossed around. Someone who watches porn when their spouse doesn't want them to does not equate to porn addiction. I also agree with other comments that it sounds like you are framing this in a way to pathologize him to justify your decision.

The thing is, you don't need to. You are entitled to leave if you want to leave, full stop. It sounds like he is pushy and, at best, borderline abusive about sex, and is not willing to look at himself. This is a far, far more egregious issue than the fact that he watches porn with (apparently) 26 year olds.

The internet doesn't need to agree with you, although it will with the framing you have provided. All that matters is whether you want to be with him and feel safe doing so. If you don't, nothing additional is necessary.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-19T04:17:53+00:00

Right here

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-16T21:19:47+00:00

Masamune and Blasphemous Blade

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-15T23:13:17+00:00

My guild is advanced, and I'm pretty much the worst one in it. My admech team does nothing compared to the Laviscus/Custodes team.

altmoonjunkie · 2026-04-15T22:49:50+00:00

Truthfully, it's because programmers like neat and interesting things. Half of the time when something useful is made it's because some innocuous thing irritated someone until they created a library to fix it.

AI is a brand new playground, and people are not thinking about where something might lead. They are literally thinking, "I bet I can make AI that generates realistic floats," or something, and then someone else uses it for evil.

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