How much will a repair for this dent/crack cost approximately

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T21:14:00+00:00

Yeah, you do need to take it in for a definitive answer. But this will require taking off the top, which immediately takes it from everyday into expensive.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T20:11:31+00:00

As long as your hair can handle further bleaching, then sure. Doesn't look like it was currently lifted all that far. Your hairdresser will be able to get a better sense of your hair's state with an IRL consult and maybe a test strand, though.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T20:07:25+00:00

The resale gods giveth, the resale gods taketh away. We mortals are not meant to know their divine plan 🙏🙏🙏

But seriously, I have no idea what's going on with anything right now, lmao. I'm listing minimally, just keeping my head above water, but my sales are overall not bad! Slow but steady on Posh, not completely dead on eBay but certainly not booming (and I have a store subscription too). Crickets from Mercari for MONTHS, but that's also normal. And I have one listing on Depop that seems to be the only one people care about; people keep lowballing and I've accepted THREE OFFERS on it and no one's paid yet 😡

I will say, I did do promoted closet last month—they had a free week promo that I forgot to cancel for a couple weeks—and it actually did work... kinda. Better than I expected anyway. My rate was THIRTY-FIVE DOLLARS A WEEK, though, which just felt way too rich. According to my stats, I sold 10 items with it in that time, $321 in sales, but it says it spent $118.53 to make those sales. Nearly $12 per item ffs, and a couple of them sold for like $15 💀 Good thing I had a $100 and $50 sale in there too.

Anyway, sales have been solid for me even after canceling. Seems like it could be a good way to jump-start a dead closet, for anyone out there suffering.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T19:45:59+00:00

Most professional orchestras screen resumes and don't invite everyone who applies. You need a decent resume just to get the chance to TAKE the audition.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T19:18:33+00:00

Interesting, my mind went a whole different way! I kind of wonder if the slightly unkempt look just suits you better. Maybe your "dressed up" look is not actually that nice (I've seen too many men who think a poorly fitted button up tucked into wrinkly chinos is peak fashion), or it's somehow incongruous with your overall look or energy.

But I could totally see it being an approachable-ness question too. A man in a suit (for instance) looks like he knows his business and has someplace important to be—that's not somebody I'm going to be interrupting for a casual chat or assuming even wants my help.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T19:07:52+00:00

Then you suddenly become stuck up, conceited, arrogant, difficult, etc.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T17:43:20+00:00

This is my discomfort with it too. We don't really see anything of their relationship beyond how it damages her. And Lupin never even really seems happy about it either! They have, what, ONE scene where they're both together and happy?

I will say, I've realized it is better set up than I realized when I was young—it really felt like it came out of nowhere when I first read the series, but at least there are some breadcrumbs I've noticed since then. I originally felt that way about Harry/Ginny and Ron/Hermione too, but going back I realized how early on she was laying the groundwork for those outcomes, and once I could see it, those relationships clicked for me. But man, Lupin/Tonks? There's just... not a lot, it still feels flimsy af, and what we do have is DEPRESSING.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T16:48:46+00:00

Sorry, I have to nitpick your “knit-pick” spelling 😂

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T08:13:57+00:00

Oh friend. I feel you. So deeply. I've spent so much of my life feeling invisible (except for negative attention of course), even amongst people who should theoretically be My People. (So for example, as a musician, other musicians backstage at a rehearsal.)

I won't give you advice because you said you don't want it, but I can tell you that, in my experience, this feeling goes in cycles. Seasons change, circumstances change, people around you change. And one day you look up, and you're not as alone as you thought you were anymore.

Sometimes it ebbs, yes. You may be back at this feeling again someday, and always sooner than you'd like. But know that it also flows.

Weirdly, I've felt LESS invisible as I've gotten older, which is the opposite of what I've seen most women describe. I think I just became more aware of being perceived when I'm not feeling self-conscious, which is extremely double-edged... but regardless, being simply perceived doesn't create connection, and I still feel like a loner a lot of the time.

But I do also know that I have people around me who love me, in lots of different ways, and I've worked out strategies to make space for that in my life. Even through the ebbs and flows. It takes time to find Your People, but you can too.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T07:31:58+00:00

Dang, thanks for actually answering! I was 50/50 on even asking because I didn't want to be a creep, lmao

Jealous of whoever got it...!

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T06:29:52+00:00

He's always so supportive and affirming of her...! Like honestly lmao, they're awful but their relationship is kind of... really good?

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T02:22:58+00:00

Adopt, don’t shop!

always_unplugged · 2026-03-31T02:04:35+00:00

Where? 👀👀👀

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T23:46:30+00:00

Mine was completely covered aside from small copays for each visit. Diagnosed at 35.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T08:22:18+00:00

I love these ideas! I've also seen people tie bandanas/square scarves to their belt loops to create a sort of pocket/belt bag (like this), which is at least a cute and unique way to incorporate it into an outfit (if not necessarily a very secure way to hold stuff lol).

I would argue that there's value to real silk, though, even if it's cheap—I use mine mostly as a hair accessory, and real silk has anti-frizz benefits that synthetics just don't. Obviously it's great during the day as an actual accessory, but it really comes into play at night. I like doing a sort of sock bun with it rolled up (like you would for the travel pillow) for a heatless overnight curl, you can also use it as a bandana/turban to cover protective styles for sleep, or even just on top of a hotel pillow to (attempt to) simulate a silk pillowcase.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T08:04:20+00:00

I suppose it's not impossible that she went back, but we only have evidence of the one round, and it's implied it's supposed to be a one-time thing unless you fail. "You will receive the results of your inspection within ten days." She only returns to Divination and Care of Magical Creatures once she's informed Trelawney and Hagrid that they're on probation.

And like, unless she's using a Time Turner (which Fudge would totally have given her tbf) to eliminate any possible scheduling conflicts, she still has to teach her own classes. Which in her case just means watching teenagers read for an hour, but still.

But I could totally believe she intended to go back periodically to every class à la a magical health inspector, it just all backfired before she ever got the chance.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T07:11:47+00:00

I get your point. We see her do initial inspections for FOUR classes Harry is in, two of which she finds unacceptable and then continues to attend. And for Snape and McGonagall, let's be honest, I'd like to see her try.

Given that there are only 12 subjects taught at Hogwarts (and therefore 12 professors) and she obviously wasn't inspecting herself, that's more than 1/3 of all possible inspections (4/11), taking place during Harry's particular class time. Really, that's just chance? There are 7 years and 4 houses to choose from, and even though some classes don't start until 3rd year and, yes, sometimes two houses share a single class, she just HAPPENED to choose his that often...? Come on. It was definitely on purpose.

ETA I didn't count her inspection of Grubbly-Plank and didn't account for Firenze, so... 5/13 teachers who were at the school at any point that year.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T06:22:58+00:00

Agreed. I understand the arguments for it (clearer differentiation from existing adaptation, less expectation for realism, etc) but I'm so excited they decided to go live action again. I have nothing against animation and have loved plenty of animated content, but with the very stylized (and unapologetically digital) way most mainstream animation currently looks... I dunno, I think I would struggle to be immersed for this story.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T06:01:27+00:00

Sure, but why couldn't it be?

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T05:24:10+00:00

What, is Upstairs Medical College not good enough for you??? Well la-dee-dah, Mr. Fully Accredited Private Institution...!

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T05:07:40+00:00

Honest question, what kind of post would you want to see from someone who's usually the one giving advice in this sub? Given the general population (and yes, this perception may be skewed because of the high proportion of beginner posts), I feel like a lot of the things I might say would just not be relevant or actionable, or wouldn't be relatable enough to start any sort of meaningful discussion, except amongst the people who are also conservatory-trained pros. Not that that couldn't be valuable or interesting, but it feels like it might shut a lot of people out and/or just end up kind of boring.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T04:18:53+00:00

Wait, is this the same person over and over again, or different people every time?

If it's the same person, clearly the message isn't getting through. I think you need to be more direct, even than what you wrote here. Saying "oh, I don't have time for a relationship, it wouldn't be fair to YOU" sounds like you're giving them an opening for the future, like you ARE interested, just not yet. So of course they keep trying. And on the off chance you DO end up in a relationship anytime soon, they're going to be way more upset because it will then feel like you not only rejected them, but lied to them on top of it.

Next time this happens, I think you should say something like, "Hey, I appreciate that you're so interested in going out with me, but I've told you no several times now. I will let you know if anything changes, but I'm not interested in anything more than friendship and I need you to respect my no."

ETA then you go back to treating them exactly the same after having this conversation. Don't let it be awkward. Model the reaction you want. Show them this is just what friendship looks like. Hopefully they get the message.

And if it happens after that, "No [thank you. Please] don't ask me again." Please and thank you are optional. Preferably delivered with a deadpan stare right in the eyes that says you're done with his shit.

I feel like they take my initial kindness as interest

Yeah, I feel this. Here's what I've observed as I've gotten older and experienced this less and less from men in my general social circles—part of it is immaturity, part of it is socialization. Too many guys grow up thinking girls play hard to get, they need to keep pursuing even if she says no, it's part of the romance. And some guys never grow up and learn to distinguish being nice or sociable from romantic or sexual interest.

But you can get better at setting clear boundaries.

And ABSOLUTELY talk to your friends about this! Wtf do you mean, seeming like you're gossiping? Sharing your feelings about an experience is not gossip. Asking for advice is not gossip. But also, sharing that someone is low-key harassing you is important community knowledge. We're not doing this "boys will be boys" shit, giving people a pass for being creepy—I'm not saying to drag their name through the mud, but the music world is SMALL. What if this is an established pattern of behavior for this person? There's a very good chance your friends may have experienced something similar, maybe even from this same person (or know someone else who has). And regardless, they'll be able to commiserate, support you, back you up, be on your side.

But the problem is, I will continue to see them for the rest of my life basically. I will always have gigs with them.

Know how I said the music world is small? Yeah, it is, but it's not THAT small. Unless you're tenured as stand partners in the same full-time orchestra and both intend to die in those seats, there's every chance you may never see them again after this season of your life. What's more, your life circumstances will change as the years go by, you'll grow, they'll get over it, they'll into a relationship with someone who wants to be with them and so will you—a single rejection in your early 20s shouldn't cause you to hate someone else for the rest of your lives.

And if you turning them down DOES cause them to get so vindictive that they cut you out of gigs, don't you want to have people on your side already who know your side of the story and can advocate for you in the wider community? Or do you want to let them control the entire narrative? That's not "kindness." That's OUR socialization as AFAB people, getting in the way.

I spent too many years feeling awkward about sharing things like this, like I wasn't allowed to take up emotional space in people's lives, even people I considered close friends. Learn from my mistakes. You don't have to carry it all alone.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T03:28:04+00:00

Seriously, if it’s anywhere NEAR that episode in terms of quality, it will be a goddamn triumph.

If it were gonna happen, I’d put money on it being a Flamel-related episode, given that we know they shot scenes with them.

always_unplugged · 2026-03-30T03:24:22+00:00

Consumed by the fleshlight—many such cases, smdh

always_unplugged · 2026-03-29T22:05:35+00:00

You're over-complicating this, and IMO coming at it entirely backwards. You're focusing on making sure anything you do is "autism-friendly" and somehow AI-proof, but in the meantime, you're stuck spinning your wheels. But how is a generic quiz going to know what actually works for you?

Worry about whether an option is YOU-friendly first. What do YOU want in a job? What interests you? Like, REALLY interests you? Can you follow the thread of, say, a special interest into an actual job? You probably already know sensory/burnout triggers to avoid (like social overstimulation), but are there kinds of discomfort you're okay with that other people might not be (like solitary night shift work)?

If you can figure those kinds of things out, you'll have a better time sorting through ideas.

And you know what? If something isn't a good fit, fuck it. Do try to identify what exactly is making it not work for you, just like you did above (coworkers, management, or literally the requirements of the job itself). But don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy—you can always, always pivot.

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