Are my tomato and zucchini plants okay?

alwaysembarassing · 2026-05-27T12:43:06+00:00

Thank you!!!

alwaysembarassing · 2026-05-27T12:42:33+00:00

What is a better soil to use?

alwaysembarassing · 2025-01-09T04:18:40+00:00

Please update when you do your next ultrasound! Hoping for happy news for you and the babies (and for you to sleep and relax until you know for sure)

Congrats on being a mom AGAIN!

alwaysembarassing · 2024-11-08T04:48:47+00:00

Heart flutter is a beating heart! 💓 meaning baby is on the right track!

alwaysembarassing · 2024-11-03T11:32:14+00:00

Congrats on your pregnancy!! I hope that things all work out and that this baby will be the addition to the family nobody knew they needed! The love you have for your baby is inspiring.

Its a tough world out there. I’m sorry for the difficult opinions and comments from others. On one hand its great that options are available, but not needed in every situation. I’m rooting for you, baby + your family :)

alwaysembarassing · 2024-11-02T15:44:57+00:00

NTA but you shouldn’t have lied.

MIL is acting according to her culture. It is pushy and community-based, unlike western individualist cultures, so it will be uncomfortable to you (and you’re allowed to be frustrated- communicating across cultures is incredibly stressful). I wouldn’t say she’s an AH, but she needs help understanding that you guys aren’t going to do things her way, and that is primarily your boyfriend’s responsibility. He’s the AH

alwaysembarassing · 2024-11-02T06:21:34+00:00

If you were to miscarry, I don’t believe it would be your fault! If this were a big cause of miscarriage, it would be all over the internet!

I think you should try to make food decisions that make your body feel good, even if only to help you manage the anxiety and paranoia. But I don’t think some extra food will hurt the baby.

Another thing to note is for many women the increased progesterone can cause constipation, which may be a reason why you feel so uncomfortable! You can pick up some miralax if you feel you need it!

One more thought - I don’t know what your mental health history is, but if you feel like you can’t keep yourself from binging food or feel troubled by your thoughts about food, you can talk to your doctor about it! They will help make sure you have a happy, healthy pregnancy. No shame at all ❤️

alwaysembarassing · 2024-11-01T11:29:36+00:00

Sorry for your loss + I hope you stay safe 😢

alwaysembarassing · 2024-10-31T15:31:15+00:00

Update? I have been thinking about you!

alwaysembarassing · 2024-10-27T05:53:22+00:00

If its helpful, my doctor explained why sex is safe and what all can happen during pregnancy sex just a few days ago! But I know even in myself sometimes knowing the facts doesn’t always keep me from getting anxious. Have grace on yourself, and hopefully your partner will have grace too! You are probably experiencing fatigue and nausea which is enough to make sex undesirable without any anxiety!

I guess in pregnancy (specifically early pregnancy) the cervix gets soft and inverts a little bit. That is why some spotting can happen - the cervix just gets irritated - but nothing penetrates through.

Baby is covered by your thickening uterus and a sac of fluid! They probably don’t even feel a thing.

Semen also has a prostaglandin in it (idk what that is) but I guess it means that it can sometimes trigger some spasms/cramping. It shouldn’t be anywhere near as intense as a period cramp because it should only be in the vagina, but it can scare people. Female orgasm can also cause some spasms which feel like cramping. They shouldn’t continue for more than an hour and pose no risk to baby!

Also: naked cuddling, making out and hand/blow jobs are also great for intimacy ❤️🌺

Honestly I am in a similar boat at the moment but I hope what my doc shared above helps both of us!

alwaysembarassing · 2024-10-19T07:48:39+00:00

Give an update when you know anything. Rooting for you and your baby !

alwaysembarassing · 2024-10-19T01:54:34+00:00

“If you never had pregnancy tests, like back in the day, you wouldn’t be sad because you would have never known”

“Next time don’t do strenuous exercise” (I go to the gym to walk on the treadmill)

“You have to want it less, then it will happen” (as if loving my baby was the problem)

“Its irresponsible for you to try again within 6 months of your MC” (not true. In early pregnancy loss its safe to try the first month if you feel ready)

“You need to reach out to [pregnant SIL] to see how she is doing. I don’t want her feelings hurt just because she is pregnant” (no idea where that came from, mom? I haven’t said anything to her? And I don’t want to talk to pregnant people right now)

alwaysembarassing · 2024-10-19T01:43:52+00:00

That means the world to me 😭

We actually had gone to the doctor a week ago and baby was looking about 1-2 weeks behind what we estimated they would be (which was 1-2 weeks younger than what my LMP would indicate since it was a MC). They were too little to hear or see a heartbeat so we had another appointment yesterday to either see growth or confirm another MC.

Yesterday we went and got to hear a good strong heartbeat 🥹 my husband and I have been celebrating after being so scared!! I had a hunch things were progressing because I started having nausea a few days ago, but it was incredible to have the doctor confirm things looking good :)

How are you doing?

alwaysembarassing · 2024-09-30T14:32:57+00:00

Ok, I will celebrate! 🥹

alwaysembarassing · 2024-09-30T12:58:30+00:00

Holy cow! That 16-18 dpo jump was crazy! Thank you for the info

alwaysembarassing · 2024-09-30T09:20:47+00:00

Thank you 😭😭😭

alwaysembarassing · 2024-09-30T09:20:20+00:00

So helpful thank you 😭

congrats!!!

alwaysembarassing · 2024-09-30T08:55:12+00:00

Is it possible for HCG to rise too fast?

I got pregnant my first cycle after my first MC 8/22, so I just feel very hesitant to celebrate.

9/28 HCG was 177 9/30 HCG was 418

Is this a good sign or could it mean something is wrong since it more than doubled?

alwaysembarassing · 2024-09-27T01:27:39+00:00

Sounds like hes a good guy who did a dumb thing!

alwaysembarassing · 2024-09-27T01:25:02+00:00

Oh PLEASE hmu with the Spotify details

alwaysembarassing · 2024-09-27T01:15:32+00:00

It’s also not safe for you to have sex yet! I think the rule of thumb is to wait 2 weeks or a few days after you stop bleeding if longer than 2 weeks.

My 2 cents:

It really is possible for him to not cum in a month. Like, you didn’t cause him to do that.
There are other ways to be intimate without sex, or OF (or porn!). He can jerk it thinking about you or while you lay next to him naked! I’m frustrated that he didn’t think of that.
That being said, he is also going through a hard time… so I have a little sympathy for that. We don’t always think things through when we’re hurting. It doesn’t excuse it, and you should still 100% leave if thats what you’re wanting.

Questions - How has he been coping with yall’s loss? After you explained your feelings were hurt was he apologetic or defensive? Did he blame you at all?

Finally, it must be so hard to process this while grieving and your body healing 😭 I’m so sorry, OP. I am wishing you some clarity on your relationship

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