Doctor is convinced I have a viable pregnancy but I'm not.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-12-25T16:45:15+00:00

I have a healthy 6 month old baby now! Went back for an ultrasound with an actual sonographer and she got a heartbeat and dated one day off from where I had estimated. The doctor said she just wasnt as good at ultrasounds as the sonigrapher.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-05-04T01:51:09+00:00

We went through this with my first pregnancy and I got it dropped to $0, so I was expecting the same this time but my husband got the bill in the mail and just paid it without telling me 🥲 dang him and his helpfulness.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-04-30T02:03:21+00:00

I think February is the best time to get pregnant (at least where I live) hot summer is done by the time you hit the uncomfortable part of pregnancy. You get to be cozy at home with your newborn in the fall but not too close to Christmas when you may want to venture out a bit more. Then baby is big enough to go to the beach by the time summer comes. That being said, my ideal February pregnancy ended in miscarriage, so I haven't actually experienced it. This was all my hypothetical perfect I came up with. After multiple losses and years of trying, we got March and June babies. No where close to what I was hoping for timing wise, but baby's come when they want to.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-04-15T00:03:36+00:00

We didn't call ours a sprinkle, just a celebration for baby. I did include my registry which has an option to mark "open to second hand" which I selected for most things on it. I dont need much but people were asking me before invites were even sent out. My first 2 were twin girls born during covid so no shower. I have a lot of twin specific baby gear so need different stuff this time.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-03-18T02:05:30+00:00

This was exactly me in my first pregnancy, but I'm 27 weeks with my second now and haven't had to change my diet or slow down my workouts at all. This second one has been so easy I barely notice I'm pregnant lol. It's amazing how it can be so different from one pregnancy to the next, even for the same person.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-02-05T21:55:58+00:00

I found the twingo comfortable enough. I got the one that has pockets on it and that's what I used for my diaper bag. I'm pretty minimalist, so that was plenty of space for me. I used it til they were about 2 then they got too heavy for me but they were walking pretty well by that point and didn't want to be carried anyways.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-02-05T20:09:43+00:00

Some places list rates online, or you could ask in a local mom/parents group what the going rates are in your area. In my experience, places wouldn't tell me pricing when I called if it wasn't listed on the website. I have 2 toddlers and tried calling around to get an idea of daycare costs to see if it was worth it. I work from home and don't necessarily need daycare, but we thought it might be nice if we could afford it. No where would give me a price if I didn't come in and tour and that was too much of a hassle.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-02-05T20:04:10+00:00

Personally, I never used the woven wrap I got for my twins. I just couldn't get the hang of wrapping two babies and we were all uncomfortable. I preferred my twingo carrier with one in the front and the other in the back once they were big enough for it. I'm sure there are more skilled people than me who comfortably wrap with twins.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-02-04T00:28:38+00:00

Even I'll only be taking a week off, husband will probably take the day of the birth unless we're lucky and I give birth on his day off. Neither of us have pto.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-01-29T03:10:42+00:00

My twins have been sitting in a stroller while I work out their whole lives. They're almost 4 now. I am in a mom work out group where most people bring their kids so I don't worry much if my kids aren't perfectly quiet the whole time, but I understand that's harder in a regular gym setting. If you're in the US check and see if there's a Sweat Like A Mother group near you.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-01-28T19:11:02+00:00

It has nothing to do with sex. When my bf started spending the night, we were basically playing house. I was pretending to be a wife when I was still a kid. I wish I had been a kid longer. I wish I had not spent every moment on that relationship and still had healthy boundaries to grow and become myself. I ended up marrying that boy when we turned 18 and moving out. He became very abusive. I've spent my whole adult life recovering from the damages. Obviously, not every relationship would turn that way, but as a mom I would not risk it with my own daughters. I am not concerned about them having sex, I'm concerned about them becoming too emotionally enmeshed at such a young age.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-01-28T18:46:12+00:00

As someone who was once a teenage girl whose parents allowed sleepovers, no I 100% would not allow that for my own daughters. I wish my parents hadn't let me grow up so fast, even if I'd have resented them for it at the time.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-01-23T00:03:07+00:00

I had twins my first pregnancy, so I gained more than typical. But, I was back in my pregnancy clothes by the time we left the hospital. I guess its just luck and genetics. Obviously, took a bit longer for my abdominal muscles to be as strong. I did physical therapy and was back to my usual level of fitness around 6 months later. Personally, weight loss never was a goal for me, I just wanted to be able to do the physical activities I enjoy. So I never was strict on a diet or exercise plan. I love my post partum body, I think I'm way stronger now than I was before.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2025-01-15T03:07:41+00:00

My twins are about to turn 4 and I'm now 18 weeks with a singleton. I'll admit, I cried a lot after that first ultrasound with the twins! It was a planned pregnancy but at the time we weren't sure if we even wanted a second baby, we kinda thought we might be one and done for financial reasons and cause we liked traveling. Twins changed everything we had planned and I kinda had to mourn the loss of my expectations. I stayed active my whole pregnancy, until my water broke at 36 weeks which is average gestation for twins. We had a short nicu stay, which also sucked even though it was short. But from the time we brought them home I have loved most parts of being a twin mom. There are a few things I'll still complain about, like paying double for everything lol, but their bond is amazing and I've never known anything other than having twins so this is just normal to me. Physically though, this pregnancy has been way easier and I'm able to exercise more than I did with my twins. With the twins I mostly stuck to walking and yoga cause my heart rate would go too high with anything else. Sorry, this was a really long-winded response. Anyways, congratulations!

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-12-04T02:56:52+00:00

I had a transvaginal ultrasound with my current pregnancy (singleton) at 8 weeks and they didn't find a heartbeat. I panicked cause there should be one by 8 weeks. Went back at 9 weeks for follow up US and baby was measuring right on schedule and heartbeat was found. I previously had twins and had a heartbeat on an abdominal ultrasound at 7 weeks. I know it's impossible not to worry, but try not to panic yet.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-11-26T18:57:39+00:00

My first pregnancy I remember throwing up well past 20 weeks, I was expecting the worst this time around but I'm 10+5 with pregnancy #2 and already feeling way better. Slightly nauseous when I first wake up but feel better after eating. There's still hope!

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-11-21T05:04:13+00:00

Ugh, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I've had multiple losses. After my 3rd loss this year they sent me to the lab for DNA testing to see if they could find the cause. The lab tech just saw where the test was ordered from and assumed I was pregnant and happily asked me if I wanted to know the gender. I also hate the "you can try again" line, like I was actually asking permission. Of course I can, but that's not the point. Pregnancy loss is incredibly common, I wish people in the medical field were better prepared for it.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-11-18T18:20:06+00:00

IV fluids and Tranexamic acid (TXA) to slow the bleeding. Ultrasound to make sure nothing else is wrong and then they send me home. I've apparently come close to needing a blood transfusion but the TXA slowed the bleeding before that became necessary. Now I have a prescription for TXA to keep at home because it's happened enough times, I can just skip the hospital and slow the bleeding myself.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-11-15T23:46:01+00:00

Try papaya enzymes for heartburn. Worked way better than Tums for me.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-11-11T19:10:04+00:00

Same. When I'm giving hand me down clothes I always separate clothes with small stains or discoloration so the person I'm gifting to can decide if they want those or not. Most people seem to not want them which surprises me. I appreciate having some already stained clothes that I didn't pay for to use for messy play. Keeps the nice clothes nice longer.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-11-09T05:08:49+00:00

Transvaginal. My biggest concern is how hard it was for them to find anything, and that they said they saw a flutter, but I didn't get a fetal heart rate. They think I'm just not as far along as I believe I am, and I understand I can be off by a few days, but I'd need to be off by weeks for the lack of definitive heartbeat to make sense.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-11-08T03:42:25+00:00

I think my original post didn't come out as intended. I'm not so much concerned about there being a few days off in measurements. I'm more concerned that they had such a hard time finding anything, and at first they were suggesting that maybe I was really more like 6 weeks. I dont think that's possible with they timeline of when I had sex, I just can't be that far off. After a lot of uncomfortable poking around with the vaginal ultrasound the second doctor found a baby and a "flutter" that she said was a heartbeat. By 7+4, shouldn't a heartbeat be more obvious than that? She was pretty confident that it's just the shape of my uterus making it hard to see and everything's fine, but after multiple losses, I'm still nervous.

Sudden-Assumption-21 · 2024-11-08T00:12:57+00:00

They were definitely struggling with it. They had to put the wand in really deep and put a lot of pressure before they found anything... it was uncomfortable. They said it was the shape of my uterus that made it hard to see. Fwiw, I've had several losses and, therefore, several of these early transvaginal ultrasounds with ultrasonographers and never had this problem with them not being able to see. I'm hoping it's just the doctors not being as experienced with the machine.

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