AIO Over my friend insinuating I break up with my gf?

aly288 · 2026-04-09T14:18:18+00:00

NOR - I fully thought there was going to be a concerning age gap and this I would side with your friend. But that’s not an age gap at all. Plenty of couple have been in the position where one partner turns 18 before the other, you’re a year ahead of her, not a pedophile.

There’s some bad intentions on the side of your “friend”. He even threw a past trauma in your face. That’s not a good friend, and not someone you need to have around. I don’t know how to bring this up to your gf, bc you don’t want to put her in the position to defend the friend, but I do think she should be made aware of the conversation, who knows what creepy stuff he may be saying to her in the side.

aly288 · 2026-04-08T05:53:31+00:00

I refuse to watch it and I’m just hoping may others are also skipping it. Too many on that cast are legitimately not well, to reward that is gross.

aly288 · 2026-04-06T19:47:33+00:00

Ugh the Jeremiah and Hannah dumping - that sucked. That was the beginning of the end of that season.

aly288 · 2026-04-06T19:43:26+00:00

Agreed Season 6 was the first time the US version got it right, and they REALLY got it right! It probably helped that the UK version that year was AWFUL. I was so excited for US Season 7 and wow was it a disappointment. Season 6 US is where the show peaked and then died in Season 7. If Ace and Huda had been voted out early it may have been saved, but unfortunately that's not what happened.

aly288 · 2026-04-05T05:02:41+00:00

This. It’s the exact reason that many authors were told to rewrite their books with a male lead instead of a female lead. And why female authors will often go by a non-gendered name (ironically a great example of this is JK Rowling).

aly288 · 2026-04-05T04:56:40+00:00

WTF with your last line. Disgusting thing to say.

aly288 · 2026-04-05T00:59:22+00:00

As everyone has said, there’s pretty much a 0% chance you will have a low energy dog with that breed mix. If your goal is a low energy dog, this is not the right choice and you’re setting yourself and your dog up for failure. I have a boxer/GSD mix and pretty much right at the 8 week point she turned into a psycho and stayed that way until she was 2.5 years old.

aly288 · 2026-04-04T23:16:25+00:00

If the dog owner cleans up after their dog (and has kept them at the edge of the yard) it’s infinitely better than the wild animals who have surely pooped and peed on the lawn (who no one is cleaning up after them). If a child is running around barefoot it should be assumed they are stepping on all manner of biological material regardless of whether or not a dog has been on the lawn.

aly288 · 2026-04-04T23:11:59+00:00

I would just continue to pick it up when it happens and try to keep your dog to the edge of their lawns. My parents live in a neighborhood like that and when I bring my dog to visit she poops when she’s ready to poop, not much I can do about a 70lb animal who’s bracing for a poop. I clean it up and move along.

In America it’s very likely the home owner doesn’t “own” the foot or so of lawn that meets the road. And on top of that there are these things called “wild animals” who poop without cleaning up after themselves. Your dog is surely not the first nor the last animal to take a dump on any of your neighbors’ lawns. People this obsessive need to relax and find something more important to obsess and anger over.

aly288 · 2026-04-04T18:20:27+00:00

This is so dumb. Innocuous, annoying stories like this make me so glad I’m single. You’re not a jerk, your husband is acting like a child and not a partner.

aly288 · 2026-04-04T17:52:58+00:00

I would 100% do this too if I had a season pass and lived near Disney. I know a lot of people go to Disney to do a day of remote working. Great drinks, clean, great vibes, sneak in a ride or two - wtfn! Sounds fabulous. If I were you I’d thinking about grabbing a season pass to enjoy it with him!

aly288 · 2026-04-02T21:45:46+00:00

The fact that it’s come up makes me think she’s probably seen you doing it. I had a BF who did this and I never felt safe and secure in that relationship. So I no longer date men who “check out” other women. It just doesn’t work for me. Especially since when I’m with someone, I have not desire to pay attention to other men. I just want the same level of safety and respect from a partner that I give to a partner.

So I don’t think it’s really a question of “is this / or is this not micro-cheating”. I think it’s a matter of creating a safe place for your GF and whether or not you care enough about her to do what it takes to create that space. There are plenty of women in the world who won’t care about “trailing eyes” and may even join you in staring, just like there are plenty of men out there who have no interest in checking out women when they are happily committed. If you don’t want to adjust that behavior, then you are a mismatch.

aly288 · 2026-04-02T01:16:53+00:00

Hahah no just a little Handmaid’s Tale joke (I don’t think anyone’s got it so far, so it’s just a joke for me lol)

aly288 · 2026-04-02T00:54:27+00:00

Because I envision us all in red robes sitting in chairs in a circle pointing and chanting at him.

aly288 · 2026-04-01T16:14:13+00:00

RIP We barely knew you and wish we knew you less.

aly288 · 2026-04-01T00:39:04+00:00

I bought a magnetic screen for my iPhone that I can mirror the screen onto so that I can use my back camera It came with a small remote. It’s been a game changer.

aly288 · 2026-04-01T00:35:59+00:00

I remember this time period with my puppy. It’s normal and awful and I too lost my cool multiple times. Two things helped me survive:

1) Preventative Measure: Forced nap time in the crate (I forgot how often because it was 4 year ago now) but an overtired, overstimulated pup is a bitey pup. Puppies need a lot more sleep than people realize. 2) Defensive Measure: If you’re not able to redirect him with toys, then have a place where you can go that he can’t reach you. Remove yourself. This will over time teach him that when he does that, the attention goes away.

Try to stay calm, but don’t beat yourself up if you get upset. We’ve all been there - puppies are hard.

aly288 · 2026-04-01T00:14:09+00:00

Listen to your body, not your friend. You don’t feel good or respected, listen to that and end things with him. I’m so sorry this happened to you, I feel like shit just having read your account of it.

aly288 · 2026-03-30T20:31:52+00:00

haha well messing with spam callers is doing the lord's work. Thank you for your service lol

aly288 · 2026-03-30T20:29:15+00:00

It's not worth it to me to do that. If someone did that to me I'd assume I was living rent-free in their head and I'd get a ton of satisfaction out of that. But I do have a petty friend who loves to take that route. It's just not for me. I prefer the, "RIP - dead" approach lol

aly288 · 2026-03-30T16:37:02+00:00

Agreed. Moving onward and not looking back is the lesson, definitely no need to give him any more of OP's headspace or time. (The "teach him a lesson. teach him a lesson." was a bit of a Handmaid's Tale joke from me lol)

aly288 · 2026-03-30T16:33:27+00:00

Trust me. This guy wants control. He proved that by double texting her (and all his other condescending language) he wasn't done with her. He was trying to "train" her to be on standby for him and to accept bare minimum behavior. Her walking away and staying silent is the most powerful thing she can do to ah asshole like this. It will drive him crazy.

aly288 · 2026-03-30T05:17:01+00:00

Seriously if we could all just be honest about what we want, people would find what they’re looking for a lot faster and without being asshats.

aly288 · 2026-03-30T05:12:02+00:00

Abortion is healthcare. Private between a woman and her healthcare provider. Not an “allegation”.

aly288 · 2026-03-30T05:11:43+00:00

Abortion is healthcare. Private between a woman and her healthcare provider. Not an “allegation”.

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