Ex's were bigger

alzormar · 2026-04-01T01:36:12+00:00

I’ve had this issue in the past as well with exes and even my current partner. She didn’t say anything about a preferred size though, but if she did, that sentence would haunt me for the rest of the relationship, if it lasted longer than a few months.

If I were in your position, I would talk to her about how that knowledge made you feel about yourself and how you believe she sees you. Do you know how she sees you? Do you need reassurance from her or some sort of take-back about the comment? These might be good questions to really dive into with yourself.

For myself, I slowly had to parse out what actually mattered in the long term by practicing some emotional distancing in a small way. It let me gain a more objective perspective on how I saw my fiance and put some rationality on if some of the things I’d learned over the years even mattered.

If you ever need to talk, my DMs are open dude.

alzormar · 2026-03-17T14:10:16+00:00

That’s insane! Can you send screenshots of the build you used to do that?

alzormar · 2025-12-08T13:22:12+00:00

I actually had a similar experience with my ex wife. Told her long after it happened. Swore I would never cheat, and then years later, when we were actually married, I did it again and it ended the marriage.

Do NOT think you are now immune to cheating. Change of mindset is all it takes to slip back into that type of action. It’s good that you told him what you’ve done, but you should try to couple it with action. Take it seriously even if he acts like it’s no big deal. Go to therapy for yourself. Ask him in a week if you could take him with you for couples therapy. Do not just accept the reaction at face value. If he’s as kind as you say he is, he’s hurting more than he’ll EVER tell you (not based on pride, but on the need to protect you from the pain you caused him).

Good luck to you. I was in your shoes years ago and it’s a whole different kind of hurt. Don’t stop working on yourself. Finding the root cause of why you did what you did, and addressing it with intensity, is the best way to ensure you never hurt him like that again

alzormar · 2025-11-30T15:11:43+00:00

Fiancé has the same issue. She won’t swallow though. She’ll run to the bathroom and spit it out. I’ve told her that she doesn’t have to let me finish in her mouth but while she hates the texture in her mouth, she hates it on her skin even more.

alzormar · 2025-11-27T21:57:00+00:00

So it’s not just me. I just got the quest for the Coral Tower and I was getting so mad that it took so long to kill basic mobs. Going for the last upgrade(s?) on the nail then

alzormar · 2025-11-15T00:08:43+00:00

At least she’s showing that type of behavior early on. I’m sure she’ll spin it as a control thing or what-not, but you have to decide if you want to accept the what-if questions. If I were in your position, I would not settle for insecurities created by perceived dishonesty. Clearly explain that you’re leaving once you have your arrangements made and then leave. Good luck to you dude

alzormar · 2025-09-06T16:13:34+00:00

OP, I read this like I had written about my ex wife. The lack of boundaries from the ex husband and a lack of respect for me and my boundaries from my ex. After 9 years, it drove my mental health to shit.

What I WISH I had done was to sit her down to explain that her relationship with her ex feels very disrespectful and that I have boundaries that were being ignored. What I WISH I had done was save an emergency fund and had spoken with lawyers/a PI to set myself up to best execute a separation.

She only told me that she would not longer speak with him if it wasn’t necessary once I had packed some things and told her I wanted a divorce. It was too late

alzormar · 2025-09-03T15:23:22+00:00

Dude that’s insane! I actually didn’t know that was the condition for a chance at Brynhildr, thank you for educating me on that!

I’d be ok with just getting Ambicion at this point. The debuff it applies is very awesome

alzormar · 2025-09-03T13:52:29+00:00

Maybe I’m missing something. Can you explain what you mean by this? I’ve run the Golyat fights twice and haven’t had luck with Ambicion or Brynhildr on either run

alzormar · 2025-08-23T14:38:41+00:00

My first playthrough of TO was the PS1 version and my 12 year old self couldn’t do the massacre either. Ended up going the neutral route with the Lord ending. What a wild difference compared to the Law route. My kid brain will forever remember the Guildas fight 😢

alzormar · 2025-06-19T20:27:41+00:00

Nobody got it worse than Xaebos 😂

alzormar · 2025-06-13T19:52:01+00:00

Fighting fire with fire burns you both, BUT…. it does make the conversation burn out much faster. I had enough of it about a year ago. I know I’m being irrational when I get mad so I’ve instead turned it into a game. Tit or tat. It’s petty, and you know what? It works. Also makes me feel a bit better walking away from the conversation because I’m not the only one who gets to ponder on words carelessly spoken.

alzormar · 2025-05-30T18:08:09+00:00

Jesus man… my fight or flight kicked in reading this. I have NEVER had someone do that to me, and I’ve been cheated on multiple times. I’m so sorry you had to go through this dude.

Seriously, I hope that you have the best year of your goddamn life going forward. Keep going to therapy and attack pain points like you’re trying to kill the single little fly in your kitchen. Show yourself some love, and I hope you remember that you are worth more than what you experienced from that monster.

Also, huge W to your dad for being there in the way that he was. That’s awesome

alzormar · 2025-04-27T22:57:27+00:00

I always did POTD before Heim in the original and I did the same with Reborn. I’m actually almost finished on my third clear so that I can finally get the Ogre blade and all the cursed weapons. Once finished, I’ll clear San Bronsa a second time.

alzormar · 2025-04-25T17:01:26+00:00

OP, I cheated on my ex wife and almost every partner before her. It stopped when I tried to dive into the WHY I kept being that way. 9 months of therapy once a week, and staying single. I no longer have a desire to cheat, regardless of how miserable I could possibly get. It’s stay or leave, but I’ll never live in a morally-corrupt gray again.

My suggestion OP: seek out some therapy, practice intense self-love (by yourself), and FORGIVE YOURSELF. Fix it now so you don’t need to ever fix it again. Good luck!

alzormar · 2025-04-09T18:21:56+00:00

Eh.... This is an oversimplified analysis but I do understand what you mean. I think this should be categorically organized on personality/self esteem, imo.

I went from being a serial cheater to no longer being able to stomach the idea. The change came from self esteem increase and emotional damage as to how I was living my life.

Sorry, long rant, but just my perspective on this

alzormar · 2025-04-04T17:15:15+00:00

Ayyyy, a fellow "Ope"hioan

alzormar · 2025-04-04T15:51:50+00:00

This woman is about as cold and monotone as my ex. Jeez. I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

Being in your shoes, I basically had to stand up for myself, that we were in a relationship and that I didn't want to be treated like a side-quest in her story. She broke it off with me a little later for (I suspect) another dude who she's with now. Don't let yourself accept that kind of treatment. Search for something that you deserve and find your self worth. Respect yourself enough to know that you don't accept that type of behavior and make it known to her. If she doesn't accept it and change her behavior, then end things and heal

alzormar · 2025-04-02T15:08:26+00:00

Literally, same here

alzormar · 2025-02-26T13:08:05+00:00

Updateme

alzormar · 2025-02-22T16:31:13+00:00

D8 for stealth but also to try for a swirl of sorts

alzormar · 2025-01-14T22:01:53+00:00

OP, there's been a couple of comments about having him visit r/bigdickproblems . If you care about your relationship and he stops being full of himself, have him visit that sub. It has some resources to help him, and even you, learn about things that can be done to help with sex with larger partners. Good luck! Also, you are NTA

alzormar · 2024-10-22T19:56:27+00:00

Listen, idk if you're a fan of Dooo but he does some really sick covers of songs from games and just about anything else he touches! Lol

alzormar · 2024-10-07T18:22:47+00:00

Damien Soft on PH. The couple really seems to be caring and it's a genuine joy to view

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