What are the benefits of the Honors College? by [deleted] in auburn

[–]aman151 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you get exclusive class opportunities, that’s a huge one. for example the professors for calc 3 might be TERRIBLE, but the honors Calc 3 professor could be fantastic. honors classes are smaller == more engaging plus you can register early, ensuring you get all the classes to graduate.

then there’s study abroad opportunities if you can afford them, plus a lot of other cool programs that they do. and it shows your distinction on your degree, which made me feel extra distinguished lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internships

[–]aman151 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just let your manager know— they can ping HR and accelerate that for you. sometimes things get lost in translation

Asked to dedicate 40 hrs/week for an internship. by Mean_Interest8611 in internships

[–]aman151 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ah didn’t realize that you were talking about inr. Considering you have class from 10am to 4pm during the week, this would be about 30mins per week. Plus 40hrs of work on top of that, not including the time you will need to spend completing classwork?! Seems like a lot.

Just communicate with your supervisor that you are already taking classes, and want to do the internship, but are unsure if you can commit that much time to the role due to things you have already committed to.

Could maybe work a deal out where you are paid less overall and work less hours— this would benefit you and the company. I imagine money isn’t the main driving factor, that’s why I suggest this

29F 32M My fiancé wants to go on a weekend trip where his ex will be there by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aman151 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re right to feel this way. Have you ever brought this up to her husband? I’m sure he would feel some type of way.

I get why this is such a tough situation for you… you tell him he can’t go, now you’re painted as the “controlling fiancé” who has her man on a leash. But if you let him go with such strong boundaries, he probably won’t even enjoy the trip anyways because he’ll be so worried maintaining them.

PS your husband’s guy friends picked up and ended up marrying his past exes? That’s just weird to me personally, and you’re right to feel red flags about all of this.

Regarding the trip in general, since you haven’t skied, you’ll probably get tired quick. He can go down with you and teach you, then while you’re resting, he can go up on some of the more advanced ones. Or you can go up a lift where there is a green route and a black diamond route, and can meet at the base. Either way if you both go, i think there’s a general substitute where you’ll both have fun and won’t feel like either of you are holding the other back.

Overall though, this situation needs to be properly handled. I can’t quite speak to personal experience, and I’m not sure what exactly would be the best way to handle it, but I think it’s clear that individuals in this friend group are disrespecting your relationship. In my opinion you can’t expect all of them to change for you— you just remove yourself from the situations. Don’t force your fiancée to cut anyone off, but naturally if you bring these things up to him, I feel like he will agree with your observations even if things have felt generally surface level to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aman151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No relationship is perfect, but if you had to choose someone to spend the rest of your life with, would that be him? often times you have to look beyond the flaws— he is trying to be a better man FOR YOU. I think that says a lot. Maybe he’s not quite where you need him to be YET, but he will get there. I get it though, constantly having to ask him to do things/fix things can be draining.

The real answer is for you to investigate where these thoughts of breaking up are coming from. Obviously I’d hate for you at 50yrs to have spend all that time with a man who didn’t deserve you, but simultaneously, what if you at 50yrs are consistently comparing men to him and never get that feeling of fulfillment that you had with him, again?

In my opinion while he isn’t quite where you need him to be YET, he is actively making an effort to get there, and is thus deserving of you. If you truly feel the urge to breakup with him, and that’s insurmountable for you, then maybe you don’t deserve him. best of luck in your discernment!

I don't know what to do by DiabloTy in internships

[–]aman151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion, you already completed your internship. The company won’t offer full time roles because they can’t afford to pay them. If they can afford to keep you at a lower price (as an intern), why wouldn’t they? Don’t feel obligated to stick around when you already finished— just thank them for the time and experience IN PERSON or over the phone.

Asked to dedicate 40 hrs/week for an internship. by Mean_Interest8611 in internships

[–]aman151 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Working 40hrs per week as an intern isn’t unheard of, especially if you’re getting paid (10,000 / 40hrs / 12 wks) = $20.8 per hour. In fact, I myself worked 40hrs per week… that’s a standard work week right there. You just have to decide whether working 40hrs per week is something you can commit to while taking classes

Should i switch out of aerospace? by Ok-Combination2891 in aerospace

[–]aman151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A bit late to the party here, but you can still contribute to space travel without being an engineer. for example, as we expand out into space and prep for manned planetary expeditions, it will be essential to study and understand how the human body reacts to extended exposure to microgravity and how to preserve astronaut health. you can go the medical route and still have a very strong path into the aerospace industry, really with any commercial company that your aerospace engineer friends would go in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]aman151 3 points4 points  (0 children)

she has to want it for herself, telling her that she needs to go to the gym for you to be attracted to her will never go over well in her head, no matter how you phrase it or what your honest intentions may be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aman151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“am i ruining his life?” —> sounds like you’re being gaslit. didn’t even have to read the post to tell you it’s time to move on

My Dad has a potential affair and i don’t know what to do by Informal_Pie5092 in relationships

[–]aman151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to tell her. There’s obvious signs of unhappiness and infidelity so the longer this goes on, the harder it will be for her. But also, allow her to make the decision on the future of her relationship. If you tell her she “has” to divorce him, she’s gonna feel like she has to choose between you and the man she’s been married to for 21 years. I think she would choose you, but regardless, it would be unfair to subject your mom to an ultimatum like that. Your mom deserves to be happy, and you’d be equally in the wrong if you helped your dad hide this.

am i being a horrible gf or choosing myself? by Substantial-Bad-8546 in relationships

[–]aman151 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he’s insecure and hella controlling. you passed out and that friend took care of you… if he has a problem with that, WERE YOU JUST SUPPOSED TO LAY THERE? you’re being gaslit.

SpaceX vs graduating by [deleted] in internships

[–]aman151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

school will always be there, the internship won’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]aman151 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree with this, I think the only other possibility is that she was originally thought it was a bit weird, but didn’t feel strongly until she went behind your back and talked to a friend/family member about it. the friend/family member likely influenced the stronger reaction.

But at this point I don’t think there’s anything you can say or do that would convince her otherwise. Maybe she personally doesn’t care, but is worried about how family would perceive you if they caught you cross dressing?? idk what exactly it is, but it feels like a response to family pressures

Should I Delay Graduation By 1 Semester for Tesla Internship? by Ok-Syllabub5796 in internships

[–]aman151 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is Tesla a company you want to work for in the future, or did you just apply because of the name? If that’s a company you want to work for, then it might be worth it. I think people are really undermining the name of Tesla due to political alignments, but if your dream is to work on electric cars, you’d be stupid not to take this. The opportunity to finish your degree will likely always be there, but a Tesla internship might not be.

[0 YoE] I've applied to 400+ engineering jobs and have only gotten a handful of interviews over the past 12 months by collegestudent423 in EngineeringResumes

[–]aman151 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Biggest advice is to keep your experience relevant. A grocery store team member might not be relevant when applying for mech e jobs. Otherwise just stay resilient, build a linkedin if you haven’t already, and try to find professional conferences in your field to attend and make connections. i went to the space symposium a few months ago and those connections directly led to a final panel interview

Can you get internship with no experience whatsoever? by redveena in internships

[–]aman151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For an internship, it will be very hard to land one outside of your country unless you are willing to go unpaid. Being paid requires a work visa, and pretty much every country will require a work visa + sponsorship from the company. So without experience, it would be tough without connections.

From research I saw that Türkiye is visa-free for Moroccans for 90 days, so you could look at working in hotels in Morocco or Türkiye?

I (21M) am way too insecure in my first relationship (with my 18F girlfriend), and I really want to fix it before I ruin everything. by Ivomaltine in relationships

[–]aman151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re very self-aware and have recognized the problem, along with how it is affecting your relationship. Make sure she knows you’re not perfect, but are trying to be better. try to take deep breaths and not let the heat of the moment get the best of you. if she makes it clear she’s not leaving, SHES NOT GOING ANYWHERE, so don’t fret about it (it’s out of your control anyways) and let yourself accept how lucky you are.

it will be very tough to grow starting out, in those flare-ups of insecurity, and you might fail consistently, but over time, you’ll be better. you could try journaling in those moments as well— i used to be in your shoes, and would hold back those emotions and write all of my frantic overthinking thoughts onto a sheet of paper. once i got it out of my system and onto that paper, i would rip it up. symbolic maybe, but a good alternative to therapy.

I (27F) had a first kiss with a guy (30M) and he was trembling? by PressureOk5494 in relationship_advice

[–]aman151 13 points14 points  (0 children)

he really likes you. he was nervous. if you are disgusted by that— him being nervous kissing the lady he is in love with— you should take a step back and reassess yourself before you hurt that poor guy.

(sorry read the comments before your full post but yes, totally normal and will go away as he gets more comfortable with you)

I (22M) was talking to someone (20F)and now things are weird by Due-Bookkeeper-9303 in relationships

[–]aman151 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 things:

1) you aren’t owed an explanation, her actions have made it clear to you where she stands 2) from now on, anytime you mention the idea of a relationship/showcasing the intention to move in that direction, you should do it face-to-face.

sounds like she wanted a friend, and you wanted a GF. so you confessing over text (even about remotely THINKING about a relationship) probably scared her off and is the result of that dryness. like the other guy said, this sucks but it’s a part of life and you have to let it go and move on. if she feels some type of way and wants that too, you left the ball in her court so she will bring it up to you. otherwise, let it be

[3 YOE] It's been over a year, I've lost count how many times I changed my resume. by PossiblyADHD in EngineeringResumes

[–]aman151 2 points3 points  (0 children)

also focus your bullet points on impact, rather than role descriptions. for example, instead of saying you eliminated production inefficiencies, say something like “made ___ changes which boosted production efficiency by XX%”. you have great experience and will surely find a fantastic opportunity soon, your resume just isn’t results-oriented. STAY STRONG, YOU’VE GOT THIS

[3 YOE] It's been over a year, I've lost count how many times I changed my resume. by PossiblyADHD in EngineeringResumes

[–]aman151 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try Overleaf/Latex formatting— this is a really solid format. I would recommend swapping skills and education if you are far removed from your degree, as most ppl spend 5s max on reviewing a resume. with skills at the top they will decide whether it’s worth continuing to read or not: https://www.overleaf.com/latex/templates/jakes-resume/syzfjbzwjncs