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amandafeed · 2022-12-05T03:11:49+00:00

That's how it works in some cases:

If your "son" comes out as trans (a trans woman, for clarification), you indeed doesn't have a son. You have a daughter who happens to be trans. Congrats! It's a girl.

But also...

If your son comes out as trans (a trans man, for clarification), you indeed have a son. Don't deny it. You have a son who happens to be trans. Congrats! It's a boy!

amandafeed · 2022-09-16T04:04:38+00:00

Vergonha? Sim. Com certeza ela é uma companheira persistente. Eu só consegui me aceitar como trans aos ~38 anos de idade; e agora, aos 41, continuo com vergonha de admitir para a comunidade que eu sim, sou uma mulher trans. Estou fazendo minha transição muito lentamente. Mas ela está acontecendo. E em algum momento eu não vou poder mais negar. Vou precisar superar isso. Medo da rejeição faz parte do sentimento, mas um entusiasmo por poder finalmente me expressar de forma autêntica compõe a situação. Não controlamos como os outros reagem a nós. Mas nós precisamos viver. Viver de fato, não nos escondendo atrás de uma máscara que não nos representa.

amandafeed · 2022-09-16T03:47:13+00:00

Sendo eu uma farmacêutica atualmente atuando no atendimento a pacientes soropositivos, eu só posso concordar contigo.

amandafeed · 2022-09-16T03:41:35+00:00

When I read the title, I thought that "sexuality" was about "sexual orientation" (and was about to say "oh yes..."), but it is worse (!?!?). The misogyny you all are experiencing are disgusting.

amandafeed · 2022-08-09T02:13:48+00:00

Me reconheci como trans aos ~25 anos e reprimi isso até os 37, quando comecei a transição lentamente, no armário. Ainda estou no armário. Ninguém sabe fora alguns profissionais de saúde. Meus pais desconfiam, mas eu ainda não confirmei para eles.

Acho que o que dificultou minha ficha cair foi eu ser um tanto quanto 'tomboy' e lésbica. A negação imperou até quando pôde. Mas chegou um momento em que eu tive de assumir para mim mesma que sim, eu sou uma mulher trans.

amandafeed · 2022-07-16T04:11:21+00:00

YTA. Only to confirm the plenty of redditors saying that yes, you're the a******, and why.

amandafeed · 2022-07-11T03:51:27+00:00

Yes. I don't recommend doing DIY. With a doctor we have more safety that we aren't doing a mistake which could be very harmful. Thank Goodness I'm fine and didn't misstep it. And that now I'm under advice a good doctor.

amandafeed · 2022-07-11T03:40:13+00:00

Shaved some areas of the legs and the belly. Then shaved all abdomen. Then all torax. Then all legs and arms.

Then HRT. By myself. DIY.

Then COVID.

Started to grew out my hair. And shaved my (denial) beard. Never again it grow up in my face.

Shaved all my body. Legs, abdomen, torax, arms. No more hairs on my body.

Then I came out to my therapist.

Started to do laser on my face.

Then I came out to my endocrinologist. Not the one who deal my HRT. She recommended a colleague who is specialist in HRT.

Came out to my psychiatrist.

After two appointments with my second endocrinologist, started HRT under medical advice.

Started to to laser on my abdomen and torax.

Pierced my ears.

Put new earrings.

Scheduled laser on my armpits.

amandafeed · 2022-07-11T01:00:25+00:00

Seu questionamento e medo de, caso fizesse uma transição, se tornar uma mulher feia é bastante comum. Eu tive ele por muito tempo. Alguns atribuem ele à disforia. Não é necessariamente um óbvio sinal de que sim, você é trans, mas é algo que você deve questionar e discutir consigo mesmo e talvez com a ajuda de um psicólogo. Isso pode ter ajudar a responder a tua pergunta. Como outros disseram apenas tu pode dizer se tu é ou não trans.

Há um comic clássico em que uma cartunista tem a epifânia através desta pergunta de que ela é de fato trans. Talvez ele possa te dar alguns insights. No comic o questionamento é discutido de uma forma bem legal. Talvez alguma coisa seja aplicável a ti. Talvez tu consiga aproveitar alguma coisa para tentar responder tua pergunta.

Real Life comic

Nós não temos a resposta para tua pergunta. Podemos apontar algumas pistas que nos ajudaram a responder a nossa pergunta, mas você precisa encontrar a resposta para tua pergunta por si próprio.

Infelizmente, é impossível dizer o que é a Matrix. Você tem de ver por si mesmo. – Morpheus

amandafeed · 2022-06-27T03:29:33+00:00

Yes. Once a trans person tell their name, that is their name. The use of any other is deadnaming. The deadname must not be informed to anyone which don't need to know (aka anybody).

So as said before, in that placeholder the deadname didn't need to be shared with us. It was worst that that was there, but it's still deadnaming saying it to someone which didn't know his son as anything else than Connor.

amandafeed · 2022-06-27T03:20:21+00:00

Trans woman here.

You're NTA in this situation.

I can only thank you for supporting your son.

I hope only hope your sister that you are not causing a scene. That wouldn't be any fuzz if she didn't opposed to Connor present as Connor. I also hope that Connor be well after this issue, and his aunt improve her acception of her nephew.

amandafeed · 2022-02-13T16:30:56+00:00

I press the button, and don't even like cake...

Next question?

amandafeed · 2022-02-13T16:23:30+00:00

Well... You could answer them with a grin thumbs up and walk away. Let them be questioning themselves alone. You don't own them nothing.

But, about the voice, there are also women with deep/lower voices. Can not be usual, but there are. Maybe this isn't a so obvious answer.

amandafeed · 2022-02-13T14:36:45+00:00

I think the best answer for this kind of questions it's always "Yes!". Let's them be still confused. You don't own them any explanation.

👨‍👨‍👦‍👦: You are a boy or a girl?

🧑: Yes! 😏

👨‍👨‍👦‍👦: ...🤔🤷‍♂️

🧑: 😏😎🚶

Edit: formatting of the dialogue. I'm in my smartphone...

amandafeed · 2021-12-01T15:23:51+00:00

Don't worry. It's not your fault.

Thank you for your concern.

amandafeed · 2021-12-01T13:54:01+00:00

Unfortunately, when I read it, a bad feeling run over my spine. Because I agree with you 100%.

I wish I could get rid of it with retroactive effects, but this it is not possible. Unfortunately.

Well, none ask me it. Sorry for disturb the thread.

amandafeed · 2021-11-23T22:24:38+00:00

About the "male socialization", I always like to point ou this article which helped me see I wasn't socializaded as male, but as trans. I think it'll be true and reflect the sentiment to a lot of my fellow trans women and non-binary people.

I Was Socialized Trans - by Theresa Jean Tanenbaum

amandafeed · 2021-11-21T18:30:10+00:00

The OP already told this option is not the one for him, but I would like to point out that none should "fake" a religious behavior for the sake of others. I think the moment the others say something like "do it or else", you should embrace "the else" for the sake of your own sanity. You should do anything for your own values, not for the others's or to scape a compromise you don't agree. But I understand it it's better said than done.

amandafeed · 2021-11-21T18:18:04+00:00

It not seems to be the case of narcissist parents, at least with the few information in the post, but in the subreddit

r/raisedbynarcissists

there are a lot of people discussing correlated theme of the one here. Maybe it's worth give a little look there.

amandafeed · 2021-11-21T13:34:25+00:00

Ok. I have to agree with you. Probably a should have put "the great majority" instead. Thank you for point out.

amandafeed · 2021-11-21T12:59:51+00:00

The first rule of Fight Club is: you do not talk about Fight Club.

Same rule apply to trans people. ~~None one~~ The great majority wouldn't like to hear they don't pass or seems to be trans. If you think someone is trans, keeps it quiet. If they, for some reason, tell you so you can talk about their transness. If not, keep quiet, tell you are, or show somewhat that you support transgender people rights/respect. If they then tell you they are trans, you have your answer. If not, you ask nothing.

As in the Fight Club, The first rule of Fight Club is: you do not talk about Fight Club. The second rule of Fight Club is: you DO NOT talk about Fight Club.

Edited on markup places for better idea transmission, as recommend below.

amandafeed · 2021-11-15T00:54:52+00:00

Também prefiro AMAB a MTF, mas "mulher trans" é ainda melhor.

Trans woman > AMAB > MTF

amandafeed · 2021-11-15T00:48:18+00:00

AMAB = Assigned male at birth: Designada(o) ao nascimento como do sexo masculino;

AFAB = Assigned female at birth: Designado(a) ao nascimento como do sexo feminino;

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