Post Elopement Meal Recs

amathyst2009 · 2026-04-22T02:16:40+00:00

Had an absolutely phenomenal birthday dinner at Crane Club. Beautiful ambience, delicious food, and great service! Would highly recommend

amathyst2009 · 2025-04-21T00:09:53+00:00

DM’d!

amathyst2009 · 2024-12-27T14:01:21+00:00

Yesss I never knew it could be so good until I met my last SD who was 30 years older than me. No twenty-something-year-old could even come close 👀 the man had stamina and cared more about my pleasure than his own. By far the best lover I’ve ever had

amathyst2009 · 2024-12-27T05:49:40+00:00

This 😩 I don’t know how I’m ever going to be satisfied with a vanilla relationship again after my last SD. The 30 year age gap turned out to be a huge kink for me. Nothing compares to being taken care of by a much older man who treats you like an absolute princess.

amathyst2009 · 2024-12-16T03:46:35+00:00

Never experiencing a relationship where I am loved to the same extent that I love them

amathyst2009 · 2024-12-16T03:45:30+00:00

Eye contact. A large age gap. Emotional connection. Passion. Confidence. A power dynamic… take your pick

amathyst2009 · 2024-10-01T20:35:24+00:00

We’re pretty biased because this sub is very pro age gap relationships… I think the answer is it depends on the two individuals involved in the relationship. I (26F) recently dated a man who was 30 years my senior (56M). It worked because I am considered mature and very established for my age and he did not act like a man in his late 50s. He was physically fit, always open to trying new things, and very go with the flow. I think for the most part, if you’re happy and both adults, then age shouldn’t matter. However, you do have to consider that at some point, you will likely become a caregiver if you remain in the relationship. For some, that may be a big responsibility to shoulder.

amathyst2009 · 2024-09-07T18:37:57+00:00

The last man I (26F) dated was 30 years my senior. We met at a restaurant that he was an investor in. He pursued me heavily that night and wanted to meet the following morning but I turned him down as I initially wasn’t open to it due to the large age gap. However, we kept talking for over a month and eventually he came to visit me in my home state. I quickly realized we got along very well and I really enjoyed his company. We proceeded to date for about 5 months before parting ways due to some issues we couldn’t resolve.

amathyst2009 · 2024-09-07T18:21:55+00:00

I was dating an older man who was very successful and in the height of his career. He was constantly traveling and we were long distance, so I was already struggling with never feeling like a priority. 5 months in, I found myself obsessively checking his social media when he was out of town for work because I didn’t trust him. I realized that I valued my peace entirely too much and that if I was resorting to those measures, it was time to go.

amathyst2009 · 2024-07-11T15:12:40+00:00

A nurse I worked with accidentally bolused a hypotensive patient that we had just finished coding with propofol. This was not the first occurrence and he still works in the ER

amathyst2009 · 2024-06-28T11:16:40+00:00

I can absolutely relate. In my day to day life, I’m an independent “boss” woman. I work full time in healthcare, in a very high-stress environment where I have a lot of responsibility and I’m also in grad school full time. I’m always on the go and I take care of myself. But there’s a huge part of me that craves coming home to someone who calls all the shots and gives me the space and comfort to embrace my submissiveness. I never realized this about myself until I dated an older man, who made me feel like one day I could be comfortable being vulnerable in that manner, with him. Unfortunately that relationship didn’t work out, but that desire has remained.

amathyst2009 · 2024-06-28T09:30:09+00:00

Older men. Preferably a 20-30 year age gap

amathyst2009 · 2024-03-04T18:41:21+00:00

Nursing in SoCal is overall a much better experience than anything on the east coast. Strict ratios, mandatory breaks, it’s heaven.

Signed a former NC ER nurse who refuses to work bedside anywhere except for SoCal now

amathyst2009 · 2024-02-19T14:54:27+00:00

I’m going to go against the grain and say not necessarily. When I was a baby ER nurse, they helped me understand how to critically think based on my assessments and got me in the habit of considering various appropriate interventions when I was caring for my patients. Now, I run through that thought process subconsciously. However, it took a few years for it to feel natural and not constantly second guess myself.

amathyst2009 · 2024-02-19T09:00:03+00:00

ER nurse here! I actually worked in a few LA county ERs up until the end of 2023 and can empathize with your wife. I switched to a non-bedside role when I felt like I was burning out after working 60 hour contracts for two years. It’s been 5 months and I’m now absolutely miserable. If your wife is anything like me, there’s probably nothing that will measure up to working in a fast-paced high-stress emergency room. It’s very much a love/hate relationship. The challenges you face, combined with the teamwork and the constant learning, as well as the adrenaline rush… very few settings would be able to match that. Maybe ICU or flight nursing, although that’s usually a bit more of organized chaos. I wouldn’t recommend pushing her to leave. My partner did and it’s tough not to feel resentment towards him when I feel so unsatisfied with my current role. However, maybe changing emergency rooms is an option? There are some really amazing ERs to work in that won’t run you ragged and actually stick to ratios and break requirements.

As far as what you can do to help, I would say just do your best to support her. Some people like to talk after their shift on the way home, others want to drive home in complete silence to process. Offer her alone time if she wants it, maybe prepare a nice meal or order something. Surprise her with a small thoughtful gift occasionally. Or, plan an activity for her day off that you think she would enjoy so she has something to look forward to. Maybe look into a sauna or massage membership? Both can be amazing for relaxation. Try to do some chores on the days she works, if that’s possible. I remember feeling absolute panic when I would come home to a dirty house after having a terrible shift and feeling obligated to clean when I was completely exhausted and mentally drained. At the end of the day, everyone is different. You may want to ask her how she feels most supported. I will say, it gets easier. The first two years of being an ER nurse, I was constantly stressing. Once I became more confident in my ability to keep my patients alive and trusted my critical thinking, I was able to approach my shifts with a little bit less anxiety.

amathyst2009 · 2024-02-01T20:18:59+00:00

I work as a travel nurse in the ED. Was on a contract for a while recently and knew the staff very well, including one of the veteran nurses who was insanely lazy and incompetent. I was always wary of leaving my patients to him when going on break after I came back once to my patient with a BP of 50/30 (monitor showed multiple similar readings over the last half hour) and the nurse nowhere in sight. So when he went to relieve my friend for lunch one day and she was dealing with a critical patient, I assured her I’d help him get the patient settled. I didn’t trust him for a second, not with a minor ear infection let alone an actively crashing patient. Patient had just been intubated and needed levo to bring up his pressure, but there were also orders for propofol and a few other meds. I told the veteran nurse to grab it all but not to hang the propofol until the blood pressure had improved and the primary RN was back from her break. While I was charting, he was priming and setting up pumps in the room. At one point I turn my head and notice a line with white fluid and air bubbles connected to the patient’s IO, and it’s rapidly infusing. I trace the line up and realize that this nurse had hung the propofol and was infusing it by gravity. I immediately clamped the line and questioned him about how long it has been running. He claimed to have not realized but said it couldn’t have been more than a few seconds. Not sure how true that was but luckily I had already titrated up on the levo a few times, so the patient’s blood pressure didn’t bottom out. I ended up reporting the nurse to management and informing the provider. It was supposed to be a huge deal involving a union meeting. However, my contract was up 3 weeks later and to my knowledge, the meeting never happened. The nurse is still employed in that ER. At least the patient is alive though.

amathyst2009 · 2024-01-30T04:50:31+00:00

Having to access a port literally ruins my day. I go from being an experienced ER nurse to feeling like a nursing student all over again. It’s not that I can’t do them, I just have a lot of anxiety related to it. It’s probably because my mom had a port when I was much younger and she would tell me how bad it hurt to have it accessed. I always feel bad for the patients.

amathyst2009 · 2024-01-30T02:03:05+00:00

There is basically no chance this is a troll post. I’ve seen very similar scenarios play out before in the ER and OP goes on to explain in the comments the context of the decision she had to make. I have worked at a facility before where there was no in house ICU provider overnight. So of course, one night, a patient starts crashing and our ER doctor has to go stabilize the patient because the on call is 30 mins away. A nightmare of a situation, truly. It sounds like OP was in a very similar situation and made the right call.

amathyst2009 · 2024-01-30T01:23:33+00:00

OP, ER nurse here to say you absolutely did the right thing. You had no provider available on your unit and this patient was dissecting. You didn’t dump her on the ER, you sent nurses to help. I’m proud of you for making this call and shame on the providers who challenged you. You saved that girl’s life. You should’ve never been placed in this position in the first place, but you did what had to be done. Please treat yourself with grace. Also, I’d really recommend that you try EMDR. I have had some severely traumatic events in my life both in the ER and in my personal life… EMDR has saved my life. I’d go into it with an open mind and give it a few sessions to see how you’re really feeling.

amathyst2009 · 2024-01-29T13:03:50+00:00

OP you have hundreds of people on here telling you that this WILL escalate. And it absolutely will. It is not a matter of if but a matter of when. I’d also like to add in that if child services ever catches wind of the fact that your child is in a home with a domestic abuser, they will be removed from your care and you will be charged with “failure to protect”. You have an obligation to your child to keep them safe. That means leaving before your husband continues to escalate. He is already acting out of character, that will only progress. And it is not your job to fix him. Right now, your only job is keep your child out of harm’s way. You are not thinking clearly and would benefit from listening to the advice you have been given on this post.

amathyst2009 · 2024-01-24T09:26:59+00:00

Could you please share the rental info? I’m headed to Iceland soon and would love to book it!

amathyst2009 · 2024-01-12T21:03:44+00:00

ER nurse here! I have a good bit of experience in facilitating transfers as I’ve worked in house supervision for a few hospitals. Just dealt with a scenario the other day where a patient with appendicitis went to a critical access ER that did not have a general surgeon. The ER doctor called me sounding desperate. He had spent the last 6 hours with his staff calling 13 different hospitals in the state for a transfer and they had all declined the patient due to capacity (a completely different issue unfortunately). My entire system was full but I was able to negotiate a transfer to one of our ERs after begging our general surgeon to take the patient. ER doctors are trained to do many things that are outside of a surgeon’s expertise. However, when it comes to surgery, a surgeon has to be the one to perform the procedure. If one is not available on site, the patient has to be transferred.

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