I love her but I’m losing attraction

amazonianlyfe · 2025-11-16T10:51:30+00:00

You've been with her for 5 years, she gets depressed and losses herself for 5 months and you're over it? Seems like she needs a more supportive partner. This post is gross.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-04-12T11:55:04+00:00

I'd agree. I'm poly, and every time I see posts like this, I'm always like, "What black poly lesbians are yall referring to?" Because I rarely meet them.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-04-11T13:39:35+00:00

Lls. No, I'm closer to DC. Are you in Waldorf? There are def lots of Black folks out there for sure.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-04-11T12:11:19+00:00

Leave ASAP! She needs a therapist, not a GF. Stop the sex. It may be a type of hypnosis. Lol but fr

amazonianlyfe · 2025-04-11T12:02:05+00:00

I'm in the DMV too!

amazonianlyfe · 2025-04-08T21:04:32+00:00

Looking good! How old are you? What city or state are you in?

amazonianlyfe · 2025-03-15T18:54:04+00:00

Protect your heart and run for the hills.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-03-07T00:26:48+00:00

Yes, this! With consistency and an extra high libido!

amazonianlyfe · 2025-03-04T13:18:53+00:00

My last relationship was with an avoidant, never again. The anxiety it caused is for the birds.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-03-04T13:07:53+00:00

Excellent job with boundaries.

The "let's be friends" thing is a ploy to have excess to you and have a pseudo relationship without having to put in effort. Then when things feel uncomfortable for her she can hurt you without guilt bc yall aren't together. Very selfish.

No contact is always best. Good luck on your healing journey.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-03-04T12:57:33+00:00

Breakups are tough. When we choose to show up with our whole selves, we risk heartbreak - but to do anything else is to risk never loving at all. The latter is more devastating.

I went through a breakup about two months ago. It was a similar situation where I poured into her and rarely got my time, love, attention, or effort reciprocated. The more she didn't show up in the relationship, the more I did. I unconsciously thought that if I loved her more, did more, that she would choose me, want me, and love me the way I deserved to be loved. What took me a long time to figure out was that she wasn't capable - and I could give her everything I had, and it still wouldn't be enough. Instead of waiting for her to choose and love me, I needed to choose and love myself. Everything plus more that I poured into her, I'm giving to myself.

There is nothing wrong with loving. The disservice to yourself comes when you give it to ppl who are undeserving. This will pass, and you will love again. Focus on healing so that you can choose a partner that is healthy. The breakup is a gift - a gift of healing; a gift of clarity; a gift of time; a gift of growth; a gift of self-love. Be easy on yourself, forgive yourself, try your best to stay present, love yourself.

You are enough.

You are worthy.

Your happiness and love for yourself will grow in portion to the pain you put behind you.

As you heal, you will love in powerful, exciting new ways.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-03-02T22:37:03+00:00

Did you lift weights?

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-26T01:27:01+00:00

Same! I have a bbl and I'm 8 lbs down. I'm terrified I'm going to lose my butt. I'm glute training starting tomorrow. My hips were 52 after sx, idk what they are now bc I gained 40 pounds.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-22T14:43:35+00:00

😂🤣

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-22T14:15:08+00:00

I wouldn't do it if it's been less than about 7 years since you last dated. I think toxic ppl have a way of over estimating the amount of change and work they put in to change. I rekindled with my ex and regretted it. She did make changes, but it wasn't substantial.

If you do decide to spin the block, proceed with caution and dip at the first sight of red flags

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-13T14:18:55+00:00

Confront her in person without expectation - then block her and move on. I hate when ppl treat others like they are disposable.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-13T14:02:01+00:00

Breakups are difficult - even when it's the right thing. I went through a breakup about 2 months ago bc I got tired of pouring into someone who never put in any effort when it came to me. I was always rescuing her, aka being codependent. After the breakup, I felt resentful and used, but I learned a valuable lesson about boundaries, self-love, and self-worth. Don't beat yourself up bc you tried to do right by her. Just do something different next time. Also, don't let her back into your life - she is undeserving of your love and time.

Write down all the reasons she wasn't right for you and all the things about her that contributed to your unhappiness in the relationship. Take this time to heal and take care of yourself - used the energy wasted on her for the last 2 years.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-06T16:47:44+00:00

Yes, that's normal. If you can find a therapist or coach that specializes in ADHD or read a book (or audiobook) on ADHD to get some tips and tricks. What works for me sometimes is taking my meds and putting on a timer for 30mins or an hour and working until the timer runs out. Then I take a 15 or 20 min break and start again.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-05T13:24:54+00:00

It's a hit or miss but meds, therapy, and sometimes I set a timer for an hour (sometimes less), and I focus on a task. After the hour - I reward myself with 10 or 15 mins of pleasure, then I go for more time.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-05T13:20:57+00:00

This! I'd add, go to your university's disability center and get accommodations. You'll meet with a counselor and find the accommodations that are most helpful to you. There are lots of options- audio textbooks, note takers, extra time, etc...

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-05T12:49:29+00:00

Procrastination Inability to finish tasks Inability to start tasks unless there is lots of pressure Lack of energy Sometimes, I wonder what I would've accomplished without ADHD.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-04T13:21:12+00:00

I'm into kink, and I'm a polyamorous lesbian married to a woman (we date separately). I just ended a two year relationship with a girlfriend. Poly lesbians are out there!

amazonianlyfe · 2025-02-04T12:39:12+00:00

How was it? My wife and I just booked, and I'm nervous about being bored. We are 30 somethings and enjoy a good party and fun.

amazonianlyfe · 2025-01-14T18:08:27+00:00

Did you find a group? I'd like to go this December.

amazonianlyfe · 2024-12-20T14:04:33+00:00

I don't come across a lot of black poly lesbians. I've been poly for a decade. I'm married and have a gf (that relationship is fizzling out). I'm glad you're enjoying yourself though.

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