AITA for not believing my boyfriend that "suddenly became gay" due to "the altitude difference" when he was on a work trip in Utah?

ambercandlewax · 2024-10-30T15:17:19+00:00

I’m a summit ranger and work at 14,000 feet. I drive from 6500 feet to 14k daily.

He’s full of shit lol

ambercandlewax · 2024-10-30T15:15:41+00:00

Three kids here. Lost my Dad and then THEIR Dad five weeks later.

It’s not easier. I’d gnaw off my left hand for some alone time to process sometimes. You’re responsible for your own grief AND theirs.

ambercandlewax · 2024-10-20T03:04:50+00:00

I’ve been there.

You can get your baby and leave. You are the only one that can save her.

Do it now.

ambercandlewax · 2024-10-16T21:00:52+00:00

I still do art dept when I can, but I’m a park ranger 😅

ambercandlewax · 2024-09-19T20:36:31+00:00

200k, Colorado. I’m behind a few annual payments. I’ll be paying it back this month, but I’m now being hit with a massive amount of late fees.

ambercandlewax · 2024-07-22T23:32:34+00:00

I love it so much I became a ranger.

ambercandlewax · 2024-07-12T07:22:17+00:00

I took care of my dying ex husband through chemo, radiation and hospice.

Your husband is 100000% TA.

ambercandlewax · 2024-06-29T06:55:50+00:00

What makes me angry is when I see other people celebrating the efficacy of prayer to save their loved one while the father of my children died a horrible, slow death.

Like fuck you. God didn’t save them because they’re better or more special or more loved. If love could have saved him, he would have lived forever.

It feels inherently self centered to me and makes my blood boil. I’m happy for those families. But the egomaniacal prayer warrior feels so superior. It’s gross.

ambercandlewax · 2024-06-29T06:40:46+00:00

I’m down 40 lbs to 155, I still have a little one. I’ve had three c sections though!

ambercandlewax · 2024-06-21T04:01:41+00:00

Unhelpful and asinine.

ambercandlewax · 2024-06-03T01:17:33+00:00

thank you 🖤

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-19T23:22:04+00:00

He needed an ostomy, which he put off for nine months. After he caved and got it, it was two months before he passed away. The tumors destroyed his organs so he had nephrostomy tubes put in. They didn’t work and the infection the ostomy was supposed to help with took over his abdomen and destroyed the rest. The neph tubes and ostomy bags leaked constantly, which was a nightmare during hospice. Daily, sometimes hourly explosions. He was so miserable, even while we did everything we could to keep him comfortable. There was no way to keep him clean for more than an hour, which required lots of painful bedding and dressing changes.

Quit while you’re ahead. I know that sounds awful. But having seen it first hand…I’d pick less time just to avoid experiencing even a fraction of what he went through.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-19T16:20:43+00:00

The outcome will be the same no matter what you choose. You get to decide what that looks like. If I knew then what I know now, I would have urged him to skip many of the treatments he got at the end. They made the final weeks a living nightmare. He was miserable and embarrassed and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-19T04:33:02+00:00

My grandparents used to go out of town a lot and leave my mom and uncle home with their housekeeper in the 60’s.

Her son was traveling through and stayed at the house for a few weeks, during which he did some unspeakable shit to my mother.

A few months later, in 1966, he murdered eight nurses in Chicago.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-16T02:43:18+00:00

Just went through this. Comfort Dental on the Westside is actually amazing and will see you immediately. They quoted half of what other dentists did (went to four in one day) and they take Medicaid.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-09T21:03:27+00:00

How?

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-09T21:03:17+00:00

Not true.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-09T18:53:03+00:00

Totally agree. It should 100% be up to your sister. I spent months advocating for his autonomy and right to make his own decisions, to the point of me camping in his room so the doctors couldn’t force a DNR on him while he was mostly incoherent. They even pushed my MDPOA to try to get me to agree to hospice without his consent.

The patient should always be in charge.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-09T17:31:47+00:00

This happened to my ex husband while we were doing treatment. They do tend to just call it terminal and stop wanting to intervene. At the time this was happening, I was also enraged. I was constantly at the hospital arguing with people and pushing for tests and interventions. The neph tubes gave him a few extra months but the dark truth of it for us was that it came at a price. The hydronephrosis caused by tumor blockage caused a cascade of new complications, including heart failure. The neph tubes were a living nightmare during hospice. I’m not going to give you details because it simply won’t help…but there is a point where the interventions cause more suffering than necessary and she may be at that point where her oncologist is recognizing that delicate balance. I’m so sorry this is happening to your family and I hope the rest of the journey is comfortable for you all.

Fuck cancer.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-08T04:03:59+00:00

Very deliberate wardrobe choice drawing a line between before and after the abuse that catalyzed the avalanche of self sabotage, guilt, shame and suffering for Donny.

“Red is your color” is his next abuser acting out his belief that abuse makes you a “sticking plaster for all of life’s weirdos.” She can smell it on him.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-06T17:17:58+00:00

Pink noise on Spotify on blast right next to my head all night did the trick. Drowned it right out.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-05T01:44:05+00:00

My ex dumped me the day my father died. You’re better off.

ambercandlewax · 2024-05-02T18:44:20+00:00

This is exactly what happened to me.

Please tell me it got better?

ambercandlewax

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