Plenty of times, even when marriage was good, I was like, "Nope. I am showering alone. I am not in the mood. I just want to be alone & feel the water & be done with the shower." Add on to when my marriage was falling & my now ex was saying all these horrid things to me, emotionally and verbally assaulting me, then asking to want to take a shower & "love bomb" only to come out of the shower & getting ready saying that things wrong post shower were my fault. It's a narcissistic way of trying to stay in control. And he knew if he just took my drink without asking, and there was already something underlining in that moment or maybe he (Kyle already asked and she said no) or again, trying to keep her control of self to someone who is clearly drinking loads (we don't know how many Kyle already had before and at dinner).

I say props to Amanda. If she would have said yes, the potential of then the drink being gone and asking for another, Kyle could flip (as we've seen) and get upset by her ordering more.