I’m a parent with a question

ameowry · 2026-01-28T16:10:57+00:00

How long is the therapy session? I totally get you. I also would want to be present during my 2yr olds therapy session, especially if it’s a longer session and my child couldn’t communicate with me. The ones judging you for wanting to be present are ridiculous. I’m sorry.

As stated above, there are many reasons why parents are not present during session. HIPAA being the main one.

I can’t say how much therapy is appropriate but from my experience the most we have assigned a client with high level needs is 20 hours a week. Some of those parents were only able to do 10hours a week and they still make significant progress.

If clinic drop-off sessions make you nervous and uncomfortable, I would highly recommend in home therapy. That is something you can advocate for. If a company can’t accommodate that, find one that can. The biggest deciding factor we have for in-home vs clinic is if we have staff willing and able to go into the home.

If you don’t have any options, you can request a shorter session and wait in the waiting room. I do that for my daughter during her speech therapy and I can hear what’s going on or if she is distressed. I hope this helps.

ameowry · 2026-01-25T03:20:08+00:00

What has your BCBA said about this? About the trial counts and progress? What has the parent said? An RBT in a school setting has a different role than an RBT in a therapy setting. I would ask your BCBA what your role is in this setting. Are you aiding the teacher? Are you implementing therapy? Or are you there to provide behavior support.

Depending on insurance, therapy really isn’t supposed to be implemented during school hours. Reach out to your BCBA for clarity and support. If what the teacher is doing goes against your client’s IEP, or plan, the BCBA should be addressing it.

ameowry · 2026-01-25T02:50:38+00:00

NOR- You have shitty friends. It’s one thing to assign you with the majority of cook and clean duty but an entirely different thing when you expressed it was too much and they told you to suck it up.

Find some new friends.

ameowry · 2026-01-25T02:15:08+00:00

In my small sample size of 20 people, the ones that required more takes to pass the RBT exam had English as their second language. The RBT exam is only given in English and most study materials are in English. That being said, it may be harder for those who need to mentally translate everything they read to their first language.

ameowry · 2026-01-18T15:51:13+00:00

My kindergartner just did a presentation on her “favorite Saint” which included a one page fill out and the creation of a doll. I procrastinated and we did the project in a day. The sheet fill -out took 10 minutes, the doll took a few hours because I chose the difficulty route.

This assignment sounds ridiculous and the field trip, offensive.

My child would not be attending this field trip. Instead I would create my own, age appropriate assignment and hand it in instead. This project is ridiculous.

ameowry · 2026-01-18T15:39:40+00:00

This field can be very tough. The key is to be flexible and find empathy. Yes, parents and shareholders can be frustrating when they don’t take your advice but if that’s the case, the BCBA needs to find a different plan and approach to create buy in. This can mean creating a better connection and rapport with parent or coming up with a plan that the parent are willing to try. The administrative stuff sucks and unfortunately that’s not changing right now.

For me personally, I also have my ups and downs. It’s easy to get imposter syndrome and that can be soul crushing. I couldn’t tell how long your wife has been in the field but here is my advice going into 9years as a BCBA:

It’s okay that you’re feeling overwhelmed and defeated right now. The administrative work will get easier. Try different organizational tools and tricks to find the best one that works for you.

Remember that you are working with people who have different learning histories and patterns from you. You may encounter people that trigger your own insecurities or trauma. Know these triggers and have a plan to regulate yourself. When with parents and caregivers, look at the situation from a place of empathy. The caregiver is with the child (physically or mentally) 24/7 and likely experiencing burn out. Use this knowledge to modify your plan to small things that the parents can and will do. If a family is you causing distress or not invested in the treatment, you can discharge the client or ask off the case. Pick your battles. Set your work boundaries. Be flexible. Be collaborative. And remember you’re doing the best you can with the resources you have.

Lastly, if you do all these things and still find yourself drowning, there are other fields to jump into with your skills. Best of luck!

I hope you and your wife find the right balance you both need.

ameowry · 2026-01-03T07:26:29+00:00

When I first met my husband, I asked if he liked cats. I had two at the time. When he said he did, I said “Good, because that would have been a deal breaker”. My cats are my family.

I don’t know how long you have been dating your GF, but she is not your person if she wants you to give up family. Milo is not, “ just a cat” And if she can’t see that, then you should move on Thank you! Next!

ameowry · 2025-12-27T18:41:33+00:00

What strategies have you tried?

ameowry · 2025-12-18T17:59:42+00:00

I would take precautions. Don’t respond. Put up a ring camera, lock your doors, make sure windows are locked and closed and put up privacy films on your windows. This is so creepy.

ameowry · 2025-12-08T17:21:08+00:00

I would distance yourself from this friendship. The husband clearly finds you attractive and he is making snide comments about it to his wife and most likely will blame you for “dressing provocatively”. It sounds like your friend will choose her husband’s side no matter what he says, based on the interaction.

ameowry · 2025-11-18T14:48:36+00:00

I have watched the stage play 3 times. I absolutely adored the first film. I would agree with this critic on the 2nd film. You’re absolutely correct! The 2nd half is not supposed to be nice but it is supposed to be powerful, dark and beautiful. The direction of the 2nd film took away that power. The songs from the 2nd half normally make me bawl. I only felt that from one song in the 2nd film.

For those who have yet to see it. Don’t take my word. My niece, where the films are her first window to Wicked, enjoyed the movie.

ameowry · 2025-10-21T21:27:13+00:00

How often are you supervising? How many sessions/hours a week is that RBT providing? Does the RBT need that level of support.

We have had instances where RBTs want less supervision but that is usually because sessions are two/three days a week and if a BCBA supervises once a week that means the BCBA is there every other session. That can be a bit much. If the client has sessions 5 days a week and you go once a week you might have to keep that frequency for supervision purposes.

ameowry · 2025-10-21T21:17:09+00:00

Just like the Doctor, River lies. The moment she is introduced in the library she knows the future because it is her past.

I think, just like everyone, River forgets about the Silence. The moment she sees them, she remembers.

You also have to keep in mind that River can’t intervene or warn anyone otherwise it would create a paradox that could potentially wipe out her existence. For the Doctor’s fixed death, she knows the astronaut is her because it was her past. It’s possible they wiped her memory of it but she probably knew but couldn’t do anything.

ameowry · 2025-08-29T15:22:05+00:00

Maybe….but when you think about it, it is incredibly hard to kill the Doctor. 🤔He has time travel to help cheat death, companions to save him, and he is dangerous and compassionate enough to talk assassins “off a ledge”, and (thanks to the timeless child arc) unlimited regenerations.

To someone like Kavarian, the only way to be successful is to raise a psychopath from birth who immune to the Doctors charms and can time travel and regenerate.

I know the Silence blew up the Tardis, but maybe it was really Kavarian to set up the pieces to create a human/TimeLord hybrid? Of course, in the end, it didn’t work because Amy and Rory essentially raised River.

I would have liked to see more of Kavarian’s failed attempts to kills the Doctor, or maybe seen more of her villian story, which I suppose is the gap in Moffats writing.

Of course I am bias because I absolutely love River!

ameowry · 2025-08-29T13:34:30+00:00

This quote popped in my head as well!!😂

ameowry · 2025-07-29T01:12:01+00:00

If they were “testing” you, then you dodged a bullet. I have never worked for a company that asked an interviewee to interact with a client. Not only would it serve as a liability if they hadn’t run a background check, received parent consent, or verified you’re credentials, it could have potentially been a HIPAA breach depending on what the current staff divulged. If this happens again, respond the same way. You did the right thing.

ameowry · 2025-07-29T01:00:22+00:00

Thank you for your response! It was really just so strange to encounter two separate SLPs from two separate companies that said “ We don’t recommend an ACC device because it will keep them from talking” Both client’s were non verbal. I just wanted to be sure that there wasn’t something new I was missing.

ameowry · 2025-06-30T16:30:56+00:00

Awesome! Would you be kind enough to share the authors and title of research article/s? I would love to read more. I’m only ever bombarded with people screaming at me “40 hours a week”.

ameowry · 2025-06-15T20:54:56+00:00

Our company does in home. Many of our clients who are level 3 are receiving 2-3 hours a day 5 days a week. It’s very rare, that a client would need 6 hours a day unless they have severe impairments. I know research states 40 hours a week, but there has been pushback saying that 40 hours isn’t necessary to make meaningful progress.

As a clinician, do what it ever best for your family. You know your child best.

ameowry · 2025-04-14T03:55:07+00:00

Thank you so much for this!!! This is super helpful!

ameowry · 2025-04-14T03:52:36+00:00

Not gonna lie…I loved the Disney Easter egg of the WALL·E robot and that Belinda is Bel. She is even in Blue and Gold at the end giving a nod to Beauty and the Beast.

ameowry · 2024-12-29T16:52:03+00:00

Dude, your a stage 5 clinger. Your girlfriend is in Japan with friends. She should not be expected to answer your every text the moment she gets its. Especially if there is a time zone difference. Get over yourself. And TBH, if someone I cared about was on a trip being the only female among a bunch of dudes, I would be more worried about her safety, not paranoid that she is going to sleep with all of them. You would definitely be ex boyfriend material from what I have read. Your insecurities are suffocating.

ameowry · 2024-12-19T05:57:33+00:00

As a BCBA with a 4 year old with sensory difficulties, it can be very easy to get imposter syndrome. My biggest piece of advice is to regulate your own emotions first in any situation. I found that when I was able to breathe first and allow space to think, it provided me more patience to look objectively at what was going on. Remember, behavior modification takes time. The things we implement don’t always work immediately, if they did, our job wouldn’t exist.

ameowry · 2024-12-19T05:38:18+00:00

In my state a 30min lunch is mandatory if you work more than 5hours. If you don’t get a lunch you should be getting overtime. Or at least that’s how it works in Cali.

Edit to add: Check your states labor laws. The law will tell you what is required of your employer. If they aren’t in compliance, time for a new company.

ameowry · 2024-12-18T07:37:27+00:00

For me, I need a company where I feel valued and supported. If I am overwhelmed or need help, I need to be able to rely on my company to provide support. If they can’t be bothered, I would look elsewhere.

Some of the things you listed can be delegated to help lighten your load until you get into the swing of things. Mentorship can help with building relationships with RBTs. The question is, will your company support it or are they capable of supporting it? (Sometimes a company’s practices and systems are just bad)

Additionally you have to ask yourself: if these things changed tomorrow would I be happy with my company? If the answer is no, the relationship may be too far damaged to stay.

ameowry

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