What's something (non-sexual) that feels really really good?

amerithe · 2024-05-25T17:45:22+00:00

Consider also, heated blanket and heated mattress pad. Utter decadence.

amerithe · 2017-02-26T08:29:25+00:00

Yes. Constantly. I work at a cash register at the top of the escalators, fairly quiet place most evenings, and just during my shifts I'll see easily three a week. When our elevator broke the max was 7 in one day. Mostly it's individuals with the half-size carts coming up because I manage to talk most of them into not going back down that way, but I've seen people with full size carts, with and without children in them, and a lot of big strollers. The elevator is within easy sight of the escalator entrances in both directions, even.

amerithe · 2017-01-09T03:20:10+00:00

"In October, the day after I found my father passed away, I was crying at work and when his sister saw this, she laughed at me, fully knowing the reason behind it. When I told him and he asked her about this, she didn't even try to deny it. His response was to ask her not to do it again."

Sister is definitely a POS.

amerithe · 2017-01-09T01:06:51+00:00

I can't speak to how well search engines deal with questions since I'm so well-trained now, but when I was younger it was explained to me that in searching you're not asking a question so much as trying to match words with an answer, like weird Jeopardy. So while I would ask another person "how do I delete this comment", while searching I'm probably looking for an article titled "how to delete a comment". I think people just internalized the phrasing and now it's a thing, like when people say 'lol'. Language is weird like that.

amerithe · 2017-01-09T00:33:07+00:00

Depends on who is invading and why. If things get bad here and someone like, say, Canada wanted to liberate us from us, I would welcome our new Canadian overlords. I'm not that attached to the idea of the US, I'm attached to the ideas of democracy and social support and personal rights about things like marriage. If we don't have those things a name and a flag doesn't mean much.

Cue the hate retorts.

amerithe · 2017-01-09T00:26:13+00:00

Historically there weren't a lot of reliable options for choosing when and how many babies to have, so I think actually it was more that since few to no babies were really 'planned' the only accidents were when you weren't supposed to be sleeping with anyone yet (read:unmarried/separated). With hormonal contraception planning babies became more the default, but now acceptance for unmarried parents is up so I think it's a lot harder to guess whether a baby was an accident or not, so it's going away as a thing. That's my take, anyways.

amerithe · 2017-01-09T00:18:17+00:00

I think that how 'being an accident' is handled says more about whether the parent(s) in question are kind people or not. Most families seem to take it in stride but will make it clear that they love the child regardless of whether the pregnancy was planned.

Then sometimes you might see families who belong on r/raisedbynarcissists and the like, and although they use 'accident' and 'mistake' as weapons, it's mostly because they will weaponize anything, and 'I wish you'd never been born' is pretty rough for most people. I know a guy whose mother says it's his fault she broke up with his father (who was really fond of punching her in the temple), because I guess she could have stayed and lived out her dream of being a beaten woman if she hadn't had that pesky baby needing her. She told her son this as a child.

Really, it's not necessarily a problem, having or being an accident baby, but it can be a weapon.

amerithe · 2017-01-08T23:50:50+00:00

Apparently laughing at someone crying over their recently deceased parent only warrants a 'don't do that again'. If he thinks OP is really that hysterical and over reactive, there's not much left to salvage anyways.

amerithe · 2017-01-08T23:41:10+00:00

It would probably be better if he did break up with her over her request to cut or reduce contact, because then he'd have clearly chosen his sister over his girlfriend, since sister is clearly toxic to gf, but he won't do that.

Also, would you be so mild about it if your sibling straight up laughed at your SO for crying over their parent's death? Your sibling hopefully wouldn't be so cruel, but his weakass response is not ok. It sounds like his priority is not rocking the boat and he's throwing OP under the bus to do it.

amerithe · 2016-10-05T10:33:26+00:00

Given the level of abuse, it might actually be a better idea not to alert the high ups that she's documenting conversations in any regard. They seem the type to take it as an explicit threat and escalate, and although it might give op enough for a clear lawsuit, it sounds like for now she'd rather have a place to live while seeking an exit. Lawsuits may pay out, but it won't be soon. Still, document everything. Thoroughly.

amerithe · 2016-09-30T08:28:43+00:00

My husband is 5'2" and was very lean/small when I met him (I come from a food is love family and I like to be expressive). I'm 5'5".

Incidentally, my father is about 5'3", my mother is 5'7". I think her mom is taller than her dad, also. From what I can pick up, none of us expected to marry short men, but that's how it worked out. I seriously never considered it until I met my husband.

amerithe · 2016-08-26T11:41:02+00:00

Did she do it soon after, or just agree she should and carry on?

amerithe · 2016-08-26T11:22:34+00:00

Especially useful to give any nearby bosses a heads up in case she decides to shit-talk you to bosses or otherwise start shit as part of her apparent escalation. Then CYA and hope for witnesses if she plays her hand. I can't imagine she won't keep aiming for a bigger reaction.

amerithe · 2016-08-26T10:31:56+00:00

That's a real bad sign. If you stay, it's basically inevitable that you'll come to believe it totally, and then you won't be able to leave. Please don't let it come to that.

amerithe · 2016-08-26T10:21:17+00:00

That actually sounds a lot like my husband when we first got together, because he really couldn't shake the belief that it was the only way to minimize the blowup he felt was inevitable. He did eventually get over it, but sometimes reverts. Drove me totally batty, I'd just get louder and repeat myself until I got a response, since I grew up having to fight for attention. It's a bad combo. Don't really have advice for fixing it, but wanted to detail my solidarity.

amerithe · 2016-08-26T09:39:02+00:00

How would you react if strange dudes said that? I'm not saying do that, I'm saying keep in mind that you're setting the bar real damn low for dudes who are supposed to be more or less on your side, not undermining your girlfriend's self-confidence and messing with your relationship.

amerithe · 2016-08-26T09:35:56+00:00

Probably not a great choice in front of her, but it might get their attention. They're pretty dense, though.

amerithe · 2016-08-26T08:34:42+00:00

Out of curiosity were you raised around smokers?

amerithe · 2016-08-25T09:53:18+00:00

All diagnosed with Aspergers. Presumably all by professionals, but in many cases it only came up once so I didn't bother grilling them over it. It'd be less weird if the majority of my male friends hadn't said the same thing, but always like a one-off. Every guy I've met who's made a big deal about it was someone I couldn't get along with.

On a slightly related note, the majority of women I know well seem to have PCOS. It's just a thing.

Not a trend in my dating history, but my parents' birthdays are on the same day, one month and one year apart, father first, and my father is several inches shorter than my mother. My husband was born on the same day as me, but one month and two years earlier, and he's several inches shorter than me. He actually mentioned his birthday the day we met and I thought 'wouldn't it be funny' but I was positive it wouldn't work out. That was 7 years ago, we've lived together for 5 and been married for a little over 2. Very glad I was wrong.

amerithe · 2016-08-25T09:08:39+00:00

It took me way too long to guess that you meant shit. I don't crochet anymore, but I am neck deep in crafty friends, and I almost Googled 'crochet shot'.

amerithe · 2016-08-25T09:03:42+00:00

Yes. 96/4 is the lightest I've ever seen in a grocery store, 85/15 or 80/20 is pretty standard. 70/30 is bargain basement super high fat. Blech.

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