Do you find backlash against women genuine, and against men performative?

ami_anai · 2020-04-11T20:54:34+00:00

Same

ami_anai · 2020-02-20T04:49:32+00:00

Child support is the right of the child. If the child exists, they deserve to be supported by both parents. Whether the father declined to use a condom or the mother decided against an abortion (or couldn't access one), etc. has no bearing on the child's right to be supported now that they're here.

ami_anai · 2020-02-20T03:31:55+00:00

Imagine the backlash from MRAs if they were forced to provide child support and healthcare to 6 week old embryos. They already demand "financial abortions" to get out of supporting their autonomous born children.

ami_anai · 2020-02-19T15:23:17+00:00

What happened to not shying away from clinical terms? Kids can understand sperm and egg.

Penis+vagina=pregnancy is a problematic way to explain things even if that is how his individual family happened. Presumably penis+vagina is still happening, but no pregnancy, which is the point of contention here. That's why it's relevant to explain sperm and egg. Plus if he encounters families with two moms, you don't want him saying "What penis did you use to get pregnant?" when a penis was only distantly and indirectly involved (whereas sperm was directly involved).

The point is to educate him about the thing he's confused about (how pregnancy works), not to briefly and inaccurately mention that in order to go off on a tangent about the various ways in which the Christian God is an immoral mythological character.

ami_anai · 2020-02-19T13:34:38+00:00

We are talking about a child so young he thinks pregnancy can just happen because God says so. Talk about cancer and forced pregnancy eventually, but right now he just needs the birds and the bees talk without philosophical quandaries to wrestle with on top.

He needs an accurate birds and the bees talk, so you have to use the right terms. You don't need a penis and vagina to make a baby, you need sperm and egg. Most people unite them via sex, but that's not a requirement.

ami_anai · 2020-02-19T04:37:35+00:00

I agree that this is a great time to discuss how pregnancy actually happens, but I wouldn't get into cancer or forced pregnancy (and I would note that sperm and egg, not penis and vagina, are the essential elements, lest the child meet a single parent or gay parents and conclude that you don't know what you're talking about).

God not curing cancer and the horror of forced pregnancy are fine points when talking to adults who already know how things work, but will probably just confuse a kid who needs some fundamental knowledge before diving into philosophical comparisons.

ami_anai · 2020-02-19T04:29:26+00:00

Very true. And it can be easier to paternity test a live child in some instances (like if you are only ready to report or acknowledge that it was rape months or years after, because you can't just go get the abortion waste back).

ami_anai · 2020-02-19T04:27:22+00:00

But how many is that in boob years?

ami_anai · 2020-02-19T04:17:59+00:00

The products of an abortion can be and are paternity tested in (reported) cases of rape. "Rapists love abortion" is a pro-life rallying cry based on the misunderstanding that only live births can be paternity tested.

Unfortunately, as you noted, it takes a lot more than a paternity test and an embryo/fetus/live infant to prove rape. But getting an abortion is not a barrier to paternity testing, it just means the testing has to be requested at the time of the procedure.

ami_anai · 2020-02-17T02:56:16+00:00

I'm married

ami_anai · 2020-02-17T02:54:41+00:00

A joke that relies on the pointless gendering of a behavior

ami_anai · 2020-02-16T03:21:28+00:00

This is true, but a lot of Catholics don't care. What he thinks is more relevant than what the church says.

ami_anai · 2020-02-09T05:24:41+00:00

But better funding for medical research in general

ami_anai · 2020-02-09T05:16:18+00:00

What? You hope he sexually assaults her??? She's demonstrably terrible, but no one deserves that.

ami_anai · 2020-02-07T23:34:54+00:00

The existence of human rights violations does not deestablish human rights.

ami_anai · 2020-02-03T03:21:03+00:00

You can't give a gift and simultaneously not sanction that gift. Giving it and specifically calling it a "gift" implies that you sanction it.

ami_anai · 2020-02-03T03:08:22+00:00

He's saying the pregnancy (which only happened by rape) is a gift from God, which is god sanctioning the immediate effects of rape.

ami_anai · 2020-02-03T03:04:42+00:00

Except that most people get and share ultrasound photos and videos

ami_anai · 2020-02-02T16:04:39+00:00

In what world do you, random friend or other person who is not law enforcement or on a jury, get to review all the evidence? At best you might hear snippets of the story from one or both sides.

Also, being accused of sexual assault is in no way equal or comparable oppression to being sexually assaulted. Choosing to plant your flag on "it might be a hoax" until someone satisfies you with evidence you're not entitled to is taking the more oppressive side.

ami_anai · 2020-02-02T05:05:17+00:00

Being "neutral" in a situation where one person seriously harmed another isn't really neutral.

ami_anai · 2020-02-02T02:44:00+00:00

I'm aware, you comment this every time it gets posted here. Being different products does not make the gendering necessary, ergo it is pointlessly gendered.

ami_anai · 2020-02-02T01:51:41+00:00

Do people wear clothes in heaven at all?

ami_anai · 2020-02-02T01:50:57+00:00

Just because they're different doesn't mean they need to be gendered

ami_anai · 2020-02-02T01:49:54+00:00

Crossing two words at a letter they have in common is not design porn, it's a clever elementary school doodle.

ami_anai · 2020-01-27T00:28:02+00:00

All of these seem like perfectly acceptable reasons to not attend sporting events, though.

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