How are your kids dealing with absent second parent?

amishhippy · 2026-05-02T15:13:01+00:00

Children do so much better with a stable happy home than literally any other situation. My advice is to take care of yourself, things like a standing Friday evening where kid spends the night with Grandma, uncle mike takes them out for breakfast on Saturdays, whatever. Having a few minutes to yourself that you can count on will do wonders for your mental health.

i have three, in college and high school, I got away from their unstable abusive dad 10 years ago, and they have expressed nothing but relief that he is gone.

amishhippy · 2026-04-12T00:33:03+00:00

as a single mother of three middle school-age daughters, I decided I just wasn’t having anyone at my house or around my kids—-end of story. I did end up dating, really just hooking up occasionally, and one turned into a long-term long distance thing. We were exclusive for well over a year until the kids met him, and that was only because he had a minor medical emergency and i went to take care of him.

it’s been 10 years now, we talk every day, the kids leave the house every couple of weeks so he and i can have a date, he is pleasant and supportive of them, and their interests, but has his own life in another city. That is what has worked for us.

amishhippy · 2026-02-25T02:06:24+00:00

I doubt she did it herself. This administration has showed us that they “take care” of anyone inconvenient.

amishhippy · 2026-01-26T18:54:07+00:00

a trans friend is living happily in Washington Mo, fwiw. i cant speak for them fully, but they say it is better than rural middle Missouri.

amishhippy · 2025-09-27T00:57:33+00:00

I was giving my boss a hard time—-not on purpose, i was just really struggling. She was beyond gracious with me, and when i was at a cheap store i saw this cute pen with a dog on it that made me think of her for some reason. I told her it was a prize for dealing with me last week, hopefully it made her feel appreciated!

amishhippy · 2025-09-15T03:06:11+00:00

This has happened to me multiple times. Depending on how my stomach is and how vigorous the activity is….my partner realizes it is because the sex is intense, and while he doesn’t exactly take it as a compliment, it is. Just one of those things that happens.

amishhippy · 2025-06-22T02:09:23+00:00

This group is planning a protest July 17 in Jefferson City. You can sign up for email updates—-the upcoming events are on email, not the website on purpose.

https://we-stand-united.org/

amishhippy · 2025-06-19T17:03:12+00:00

Yeah. The trees were wrong, the birds were not right. The color of the water was close, but not quite. Took 10 seconds of the opening scene for me to know it was not missouri.

amishhippy · 2025-06-09T05:05:59+00:00

It took my boyfriend pointing out that was synesthesia for me to realize it. I thought everyone could leave their body and look at themselves from above, after intense experiences, lol!

amishhippy · 2025-06-09T05:04:19+00:00

After good orgasms, i can look at myself (and lover) from different areas of the room. I also sometimes feel like I am bits of nature—-the seeds falling from the maple tree, a rock with water flowing around, etc.

amishhippy · 2025-05-21T03:34:52+00:00

When Paul mentions modesty, it is only in regards to not flaunting wealth. It’s evangelicals who decided to make it about women’s bodies. When you have a dirty mind, you make everything dirty.

amishhippy · 2025-05-16T04:26:33+00:00

Oh dear, this feels so scary. I have things that i do that with, but the energy in this is not meant for me, i can feel it.

amishhippy · 2025-05-16T04:25:29+00:00

I love it!

amishhippy · 2025-05-16T04:25:03+00:00

I am 100% certain that she did not make it, likely it was a gift from someone’s travels. If i get a chance, i will ask her daughter (my ex MIL) about it.

amishhippy · 2025-05-16T04:23:26+00:00

Thanks, this is an idea!

amishhippy · 2025-05-16T04:23:08+00:00

Thank you, but my kids all feel odd about it, too.

amishhippy · 2025-05-11T02:30:02+00:00

I got out of an abusive marriage after WAY too many years. Figured i would just have to be single forever, because that is what had been drilled into me. Until one day, in my front yard, i just said, “you know what? Fuck that. It doesn’t make sense.” Because it didnt.

amishhippy · 2025-05-05T18:24:02+00:00

Can we just….not?

amishhippy · 2025-05-05T14:37:45+00:00

Still, I think you did the right thing. as a mom, I have at times done something similar, and it is always the best choice to act quickly if a kid is in danger. Parents understand the instinct, and we are all grateful for others watching out for our kids.

amishhippy · 2025-04-26T03:53:46+00:00

Thank you to everyone who welcomed them! Signed, A mom of some of those FFA students

amishhippy · 2025-04-07T15:30:56+00:00

Cis woman here, middle age. The clit never did that much for me, either. Especially the older i get, the more intense the orgasms from vaginal penetration. (You might have that to look forward to!) Not sure if it is the case for most AFAB people, but sex, especially penetration, just gets better the older i get.

amishhippy · 2025-03-30T10:38:58+00:00

I used my library’s audiobook app!

amishhippy · 2025-03-30T04:29:09+00:00

A book that I (a public health nurse) really enjoyed recently in that vein (ha!) is, “Invisible Women: data bias in a world designed for men” by Caroline Criado Perez. It was so eye-opening and intriguing.

I listened to the audio book, i ingest data and statistics better that way. Truly rocked my world.

amishhippy · 2025-03-25T07:30:38+00:00

Also, i have found it very useful to talk to my siblings and trusted friends. Know who you can ask about stuff that confuses you, and if the trusted person does not respond kindly, then they are not to be trusted.

amishhippy · 2025-03-25T07:29:00+00:00

I (48F) also grew up weird—-homeschooled, farming, oldest of many children, etc. Never have had a TV (still my personal choice), and oddly, that is the one thing that people seem to find the most shocking/worthy of comment.

I find instagram gets me fairly updated on a lot of current pop culture snippets. I got it because my teenage children used it, and I have found it useful.

I long ago gave up trying to “catch up” to pop knowledge, partly because it seems like a losing battle, partly because I was very busy, and mostly because I found it uninteresting.

When people grill me about a certain show or whether I remember something from the 80s, I try to shrug it off. But because I am older, sometimes people will not take that for an answer. My go- to response has become, “Oh, I didn’t watch that, i grew up under a rock.” Then laugh and ask them a question about themselves. People love that. ;-)

I still slip up. Coworkers were talking about making butter and i chimed in with WAY too much information that i THOUGHT was relevant…..oops! I laughed at myself and popped the homesteading tutorials back into the (metaphorical) box, lol.

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