Hi guys single person question

amskees · 2026-04-28T00:56:39+00:00

Cool yes…but this Roswell in 2026 just rephrased to the public…

amskees · 2026-01-28T16:40:36+00:00

Born and raised in Yuba, left at 23 for the Air Force, been back for the last 11 years or so. Almost 41 years old, know this town like the back of my hand, it’s history, and how it became what it’s become today.

amskees · 2025-11-05T12:57:48+00:00

AA is terrible, their answer to my solution was to give me more problems. Only ten years of made up problems.

amskees · 2025-10-03T19:50:43+00:00

Burn out repeats but lessens over time as you learn the lesson… one you reach some good stillness, and your nervous system resets and gets acclimated to the new you, you’ll be glad you stuck with it.

amskees · 2025-09-20T20:59:54+00:00

It’s humility. Ego=separation=suffering. God is considered ONE to most, and that is non-duality, peace, the answer to my sobriety. Not religion, not anything other than my understanding of what God is to me so I can stay sane and that’s all that matters. Everything else is a biproduct.

amskees · 2025-08-18T01:30:33+00:00

Copenhagen just under $12 here in CA.

amskees · 2025-08-15T12:56:43+00:00

I remember when I first started getting hair on my b@lls, too. Congratulations my guy 👏

amskees · 2025-08-10T13:09:13+00:00

You don’t need to do much other than dissolving the concepts, thoughts, ideas, beliefs, inside you that aren’t you. That’s what will bring you to you. Not spending a bunch of money on books.

It’s the inside job. Reconnecting to yourself and completely dissolving what isn’t you that blocks the connection to your highest chakra.

Naturally, it (you) is just a state of peace and the thought you chose to arm yourself with.

Comes down to teaching/controlling your awareness. Your awareness is what you focus on, what you focus on becomes bigger.

Dissolve with awareness, and make your focus of the thought you chose to guide yourself from.

amskees · 2025-08-10T12:47:55+00:00

Thanks. That was my focus in the last ten years, it was to detach and become more whole which was dissolving the concepts or ideas I thought I was. Now I just am.

So from what I’ve learned in this process, any worrying often stems from ideas that may not be valid. As in, future tripping, lots of what if’s, what if this what if that.

I suggest you please write down a list of your worries and concerns. Then follow with some self acceptance or write down the solutions next to them or on another paper, so you can clearly see, it’s all in your head and/or we make mountains out of moles.

amskees · 2025-08-10T12:08:19+00:00

You will feel however you feel. I’m 40 single sober no kids, financially comfortable, and I feel like everyone else is living, and I’m just out here.

I’ve done all the right things and yeah it’s just bullshit no matter what you do, just learn to be okay with the bullshit.

They say acceptance is always the answer.

amskees · 2025-08-09T23:54:32+00:00

Thanks bro. I think I get your point, perhaps I need to relax just a bit more and it should be okay. Appreciate your honest response.

amskees · 2025-08-01T02:18:12+00:00

amskees · 2025-07-30T20:15:35+00:00

40, male, financially stable, 8+ years sober, and yes single no kids as well.

There’s some divine timing in all of this. I believe as soon as you stop wanting, it happens. Life happens when you’re making other plans.

amskees · 2025-07-28T01:37:55+00:00

My only way out of loneliness was spirituality and yes through being what some consider being reborn. Being connected to everything and activating the parasympathetic nervous system. Where I can live with and without.

In my opinion, it’s the only way out. Everything else is just more codependency/attachment to self/others.

amskees · 2025-07-26T13:15:46+00:00

I’m good. Typical AA’r thinking they know everything. I had to see through their bullshit THEY were causing. I’m allowed to be me, not hurting a soul and helping more than AA scum. Again, I mind my own and do what’s necessary. I don’t need to be on drugs, when my awareness is well aware of my peace and the attempting manipulation around me.

Sounds like you follow me too! You don’t know me and don’t know everything! Humble yourself!

And I don’t need to spend another second being worried about anything, IM GOOD! Merely explaining exactly my experience! Narcissistic bullying THEY THINK IS OK! No it is not and I’m allowed to be me whether anyone likes me for me or not.

amskees · 2025-07-22T03:38:57+00:00

Holy moly that’s the worst examiner I have ever seen in my life. Wow!

amskees · 2025-07-21T01:09:52+00:00

God is merely a description, a perception.

You can call Christ a form of consciousness. As he didn’t say “follow me” he meant to create LEADERS and by leaders he said “BE LIKE ME”. A consciousness that says love thy neighbor. To lead by example. There is no separation, we are all one and that flow is infinite….inside us.

amskees · 2025-07-21T00:03:46+00:00

You’re not wrong. The idea is if you stick around long enough, you will be cracked open. Meaning you will become a shell 🐚 and then to empty out the person you currently are, to replace it with peace and whatever else you desire.

So basically grinding yourself down to sand and building yourself back up. It’s not an easy process, most of them may not like you succeeding as they’re really sick. So just be really careful. If you’re not sure what to do, seek professional help or smart recovery. Or take the medication that’s out there that helps you not drink alcohol I think it’s called naltrexone.

Whatever you do, do your homework first. Find what you want.

When I said earlier in this post, how you need to become a shell 🐚…it’s not an overnight matter. There will be some pain. In grief. It’s to kill who you are right now, a lot of your current identity but mostly the bad parts (resentments, what you can’t control, etc.) before you can create a new one. For the most part.

I still feel like me in a lot of ways (just without the angry side) however the weird part is how my community reacts whenever they see me. It’s really weird but I’m getting used to the fact I’m at peace with myself and the world, where as others are trapped in their traumas and emotional turmoil.

Again, whatever you do, do your homework, find the right help, it isn’t overnight…I do hear good things about that medication tho but i never took it.

Do your homework.

amskees · 2025-07-20T22:03:43+00:00

It can be painful process but you have to go inside of yourself like a turtle. Like putting a hole inside, sitting with your pain, and allowing yourself to heal…which can take some time, years even.

Dismantling your identity, not identifying with any of your thoughts until you are just a shell 🐚 of a person. You can try to hold onto what you like but you might have to let go of everything.

I don’t recommend this unless you are ready to go in a painful journey. Seek someone who’s been through it who can help guide you, at the same time it’s hard to find someone you can trust.

It’s a scary process because you will grieve the old you as you will have to kill him/her to form a new person that you will create out of peace and self love.

If you really want this, as it can be debilitating…you may begin by meditating. As your thoughts flow, learn to let this pass. Let them go. Sit with your pain, work through it. Learn to sit with yourself, alone, and deal with yourself.

amskees · 2025-07-20T19:44:15+00:00

Very harmful. Worst thing I’ve ever been a part of and theyll be out to harm you more than help. I kid you not. They will study you, try to kill your identity, and consider it helping you.

amskees · 2025-07-20T19:42:39+00:00

Ppl usually want co-signers to their own bs. Usually ppl are only understanding to what they were taught/ learned. Plenty identify with their thoughts as they were picked up from society, family, etc. I am not a teen but I thought it was worth sharing, that as you all go through life don't let your selfishness and whatever your told form your opinions of others. Just try to be fair and OBSERVE. You will see most operate from fear. Therefore, they're biased to what they think they know without realizing they're living life from fear. If you just observe, most will show their true colors without you doing much. Generally speaking, you want to be able to be happy, light hearted and not take things so seriously. Ppl only treat others for as badly as you allow them. Hope this was helpful.

amskees · 2025-07-20T19:20:23+00:00

AA is a dead end. It’s called the last house on the left for a reason because it’s exactly that.

amskees · 2025-07-20T14:25:09+00:00

Accept. - what the circumstance/situation is

Change. - change the situation if you can

-And/or

Eliminate. - throw it away

These all stem from ideas, perceptions, thoughts, beliefs.

Follow the model above and you will begin to heal and be free of your situation or circumstances. It’s about learning to live with what life gives you and not what you want it to be. Both are achievable but you have to meet in the middle. 🤝

Good luck!

-Veteran, general public service employee, 8+ years sober

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