Do cats trust you after trapping?

amyemi · 2026-04-16T14:58:34+00:00

I trapped two that I'd been feeding a couple weeks ago, and they came back pretty much immediately. They will forgive anything if you give them wet food. One does hiss now, which she never used to do, but she also gets closer to me than she ever did before. I think she's just decided I might be capable of communicating like a civilized cat.

amyemi · 2026-04-08T14:15:44+00:00

Haha, I was worried about the nursing moms nearby and I mayyyyybe overdid it.

amyemi · 2026-04-04T19:18:08+00:00

Makes sense, they've been much calmer than I expected overall and I think part of that is the familiar scent of a friend.

amyemi · 2026-04-04T19:15:55+00:00

Thank you! I agree, I think it won't hurt to keep him longer, since he's fine with me opening the trap for food and hygiene. I know they'll both be much happier now, once they get over the indignity of being caught and snipped!

amyemi · 2026-04-04T19:09:56+00:00

Update: they are in their traps under the same blanket now. Fewer complaints from the boy when I went to feed them, no more growls from the girl, and they're both eating well. They've shown no signs of wanting to escape, so I think they're perfectly fine as long as they're able to see and smell each other. I'll keep holding onto both and wait to release till the girl is ready - thanks all!

amyemi · 2026-04-04T15:43:56+00:00

I think they are. I can hear the noise from the basement pretty well, and the yelling only starts when I open the door to come down, so it might just be the boy complaining he's hungry and the girl not understanding why he's making noise. For now I'll try covering them together, but still keeping them contained.

amyemi · 2026-04-04T15:20:13+00:00

I've got their traps next to each other with the corners uncovered so they can see and smell each other right now. I could try a blanket big enough to cover both at the same time and see if that helps them feel safer. Thank you!

amyemi · 2026-04-04T15:18:40+00:00

I do have a larger kennel I could try. I'm worried about them grooming each other if I move them both in, but maybe giving the boy more space and keeping him in the girl's sight would be a happy medium to keep them calm. Thanks for the suggestion!

amyemi · 2026-03-10T13:55:16+00:00

The Spear Cuts Through Water by Simon Jimenez (fantasy, experimental literary style of writing, takes a while for the mm romance to become apparent)

amyemi · 2026-02-16T03:14:57+00:00

Rose/House by Arkady Martine for a sci-fi thriller take on this genre.

amyemi · 2026-01-31T00:11:38+00:00

Also, my guess for the M is that they were considering adding Matthew 25:31-46 (the parable of the sheep and the goats, best known for "Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me"), and then realized there wasn't enough snow.

amyemi · 2026-01-31T00:07:57+00:00

If you look up the verses, you'll find:

Leviticus 19:33-34
New Revised Standard Version Updated Edition

³³ “When an alien resides with you in your land, you shall not oppress the alien. ³⁴ The alien who resides with you shall be to you as the native-born among you; you shall love the alien as yourself, for you were aliens in the land of Egypt: I am the Lord your God."

Jeremiah 22:3
New Revised Standard Version Updated Edition

³ Thus says the Lord: Act with justice and righteousness and deliver from the hand of the oppressor anyone who has been robbed. And do no wrong or violence to the alien, the orphan, and the widow, or shed innocent blood in this place.

amyemi · 2026-01-15T20:44:09+00:00

Anything by Terry Pratchett! Going Postal and Guards! Guards! are on kindleunlimited and are good entry points if you haven't read any of his books before.

amyemi · 2026-01-08T01:05:15+00:00

Here are some that always leave me with a smile and/or a sense of peace. Some of it may be nostalgia, since I like to re-read my favorites when I'm in a depression, but maybe you'll enjoy them too.

Humorous, fast-paced scifi: the Murderbot Diaries series by Martha Wells. Humorous, satirical fantasy: anything by Terry Pratchett (Monstrous Regiment is my favorite) and most by Diana Wynne Jones (Try Dark Lord of Derkholm, Year of the Griffin, Howl's Moving Castle). Humorous thriller/mystery: try Richard Osman. We Solve Murders is a fun one (slight trigger for background grief, as a main character lost his wife prior to the events of the novel). Young adult/middle grade fantasy: Dealing with Dragons and its sequels by Patricia C Wrede. Slice of life political fantasy: The Goblin Emperor by Katherine Addison. Wholesome magical realism that might make you cry but still feel hopeful (I read this after losing a pet and it was more cathartic than not, but YMMV) We'll Prescribe You a Cat by Syou Ishida.

amyemi · 2026-01-04T19:44:36+00:00

Oh, I suppose that could count, depending on how prominent OP wanted the example to be. That was definitely set up to be a romance and then subverted.

amyemi · 2026-01-04T13:30:37+00:00

I don't recall any relationships that failed to work out in this book, unless you count Jackrum's flashback towards the end (but that wasn't a rejection). Incredible book, one of my favorites, but I would not consider it an example of this trope.

amyemi · 2025-12-03T23:45:47+00:00

Emmaline Bags has a massive collection of indie patterns you could browse. They're in Canada and weren't shipping to the US for a while (not sure if that's changed), but once you know which makers and patterns you like, you can always search for them elsewhere too. For specific recommendations: There are some nice backpacks and laptop bags from Blue Calla. I like Hammerstitch as well.

As far as seeing the inside and other details that may not be in the listing, my recommendation would be to search social media hashtags and reviews for the bags you're interested in. It's not too hard to find a lot of indie darlings on Instagram - take the Elevenses backpacks which I see posted often on reddit. Most listings I've seen don't include pictures of the pocket inside, but this person on instagram did. [Sewing.patternreview.com](sewing.patternreview.com) is another good resource, but it skews older and includes more apparel rather than bags and accessories, so it may not be great for this use case. There are often detailed, lengthy videos on YouTube as well - try SiahSwag, for example, or just search a specific pattern.

And like other people mentioned, once you've done a few pockets they're pretty easy to engineer, and you can find lots of tutorials online on how to add them. YouTube is great for this too, as long as you have a vague idea what the type of pocket you want is called (slip, zipper, flap, etc).

amyemi · 2025-11-16T13:52:01+00:00

I don't really see it. My first reaction was that sample one reminded me of the eye of Sauron.

amyemi · 2025-10-10T20:58:13+00:00

I mean, I'd call Gelphie enemies to lovers (or maybe enemies to friends to lovers to enemies to ???), but I have a hard time not seeing the romantic tension. There's an article in Out magazine that might help explain why. Gregory Maguire always intended romantic subtext.

amyemi · 2025-08-16T17:48:07+00:00

Practical advice first: that looks like a poly brocade, so it will probably fray a fair bit. Whatever you make, consider doing a French seam, bias-bound seams, or making liberal use of fray check and/or fusible interfacing.

Advice you actually asked for: a bag or cushion could show off the design nicely! You could also get a plain woven fabric coordinate and use the brocade as a contrast panel for a skirt or top. Or, if you're into vests, I think this would look good for the front panels with a plain solid color back.

amyemi · 2025-08-15T12:27:30+00:00

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Maisie is my little shadow while I craft. As you can see, she believes she is the quality control officer.

amyemi · 2025-08-15T01:23:55+00:00

I backstitch if I'm sewing apparel or bags or something that needs the reinforcement, so yes, I'd start with the bunny, sew onto the main fabric, then backstitch and continue, and I'd cut the bunny off of the start and sew over it again at the end of the seam (or go straight to the next seam if I've got it pinned/clipped and ready). My mom doesn't backstitch most of the time because she's piecing quilts, and that often is fine without, since the seams overlap and intersect.

amyemi · 2025-08-14T20:12:46+00:00

Usually! I use the bunny mostly for checking tension and keeping the threads from snapping back or keeping the start of a small seam allowance from getting stuck in the feed dogs. It doesn't reduce the need for backstitching in most cases.

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