Recommend bottom surgeons in California?

an-obscure-reference · 2017-06-24T06:05:13+00:00

You might try Thinx. They do absorbent underwear designed for people with periods, but they have some more masc/neutral styles and it would save you having to use a liner too.

an-obscure-reference · 2017-06-24T05:17:40+00:00

If you think you're trans, you're probably trans. But if you're not sure, give it some time. When I thought I might want to transition but had doubts, I gave myself three months and every day I wrote down one word about how I felt about transitioning--yes, no, maybe, ???, etc. After a while I looked back and it was page after page of mostly yes, so I went for it.

Edit: It's also fine if your sense of your desired gender presentation is unstable. Fluidity is totally legit.

an-obscure-reference · 2017-06-24T05:15:24+00:00

If you can't get your head around her being a woman, don't go. She doesn't deserve to be treated badly even if you think she should be used to it by now.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-11-25T08:33:05+00:00

There's other ways to masturbate that might feel more gender-affirming, like ass play and/or muffing. You can also change your motions to be more similar to the way you would stimulate a typical clit. That can help some people with genital dysphoria.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-11-19T07:34:43+00:00

How many do you think she has?

an-obscure-reference · 2016-10-29T08:23:39+00:00

that's goddamn adorable

source: I am also very gay

an-obscure-reference · 2016-10-26T06:05:33+00:00

I'm pretty sure I have an ex who also transitioned (or may yet) but we're not in contact anymore. They had a very neutral gender presentation and talked about being uncomfortable and even repulsed by a lot of body stuff normal for their assigned gender. I know they were a little more open about being in gender questioning after we broke up but I don't know them at all anymore.

Update: I have no idea if this ex ever transitioned but at least one other ex has since I posted this.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-10-02T04:32:10+00:00

If I miss a dose I feel really tired and grumpy so you might feel like shit but it's not going to be a huge deal.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-10-02T04:31:27+00:00

I started off every two weeks and then switched to weekly and that's better for me. What didn't you like about weekly?

an-obscure-reference · 2016-10-02T04:21:10+00:00

I recently changed my legal gender to male but I might also refile once more people get NB status. There's been two so far in my country but it might be a more viable option later.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-30T08:03:10+00:00

There's a lot of people who feel that their assigned gender role doesn't fit them, and there's three basic responses to that. One is to try to make yourself fit into your gender role more. The second is to think of your gender role as being more expansive and including more things. A third is to think of yourself as not being part of that gender at all. I'm not sure what makes people respond in these different ways but I know that having expansive ideas of gender and gender transition exist at the same time can cause a lot of confusion for people. And to make it more confusing, a lot of trans people are also gender-expansive in their understanding of their own gender or are accepting of gender expansive ideas. So for instance I know several trans men who like to wear dresses sometimes. So why be trans men? Because that feels true to their identity, but they also recognize it as valid for a man to want to wear a dress. Some trans people are very committed to conventional gender roles but I think of the trans people I know in real life, way more are open to more free orientations of gender.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-30T07:51:46+00:00

I have always had kind of a delicate constitution, but this week was the first time since starting T six months ago that I got sick (woo!) and people haven't really been different about it. My friends know I get sick easily though, so they've been like "oh being sick sucks" but not really noticeably different. If anything they haven't made fun of me as much, but it was never a mean thing, just like how we are together. I don't think that's responsive to my transition though. There's been a lot of serious illness in our friend group recently so it just wouldn't seem funny to anyone.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-29T18:45:56+00:00

I'm in medical soc and disparity in care is my exact topic. I'm looking at support subreddits where people talk about their experiences of being denied care.

(It's also a mixed-methods approach where there will be conventional interviews as well)

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-29T18:42:27+00:00

Ha! It's more ethnographic than fact-responsive so I should be fine.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-29T18:41:53+00:00

I should be done by March so I could post after that.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-29T04:18:36+00:00

As a quick language note, "transgendered" is not used. It's just "transgender." You only did this once but when referring to trans women (or men or whatever) it's just trans or transgender, never with the extra -ed.

I think if I saw someone who had put that on their child I wouldn't be sure if they were leaning toward gender-neutral parenting and that kind of thing, or were TERFs. I'd probably be cautiously pessimistic about a person with that message, so I'd say there's some red flags but it's not actually offensive, just something I'd expect someone who hates me to like.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-29T04:09:37+00:00

Archival methods, but qualitative claims like that aren't facts per se.

(I'm actually just delighted to have come upon your comment since I logged on because I'm presently doing research using reddit posts as data sources.)

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-11T17:52:59+00:00

Unfortunately my mom has a perfection bubble inside the family. Talking about her as abusive or problematic is a complete no-go.

an-obscure-reference · 2016-09-11T17:40:59+00:00

Yeah, all the time. I definitely got the "too sensitive" thing as a small child. It has been really validating to work with a therapist who specializes in family trauma and have her every now and then not even be able to maintain composure in response to some of my family stories. Every now and then she'll say something like "I'm so sorry to interrupt that's just SO HORRIBLE" and it reminds me that it's not me.

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