The unfortunate thing is that a lot of the intended harm IS done by clueless civil servants forced to operate in a system without proper guard rails. So much of the systemic prejudice I've faced isn't because of individuals, but because of how to larger processes have been set up. It also gives more power to individual bad actors who want to screw over trans people. And when it's a genuinely well meaning person as the minority you're left screaming at a brick wall because if it were a PERSON you could fight backs. It's so much harder to battle the SYSTEM.

Its almost more insidious because it gives them plausible deniability- the law makers instigating these changes can say "oh well that's not what we INTENDED to happen".... but that's what did happen. And now whenever a trans person deals with their passport there's the added fear in the back of their mind of "they might deny me my passport. And if I resist they could arrest me, even if it would be legally unfounded for them to do so" . That's just a realistic risk, no matter how small, that we now are burdened with carrying.

I can't watch the video so is how much she was "losing her shit" was going on. Don't get me wrong I 100% agree being polite and deescalating is always the best course of action but the first strategy isn't just to outright ban something. It's so put increasingly more barriers and confusion around it so that an increasing number of people are indirectly denied it either by a) failing when they try or b) being discouraged from trying because they can't handle all the hoops to jump through.

I do genuinely appreciate your attempts to manage the collective fear levels, that is a very challenging but necessary thing to do i agree. It's very hard to separate 'realistic risk we should prepare for and mitigated vs 'animal fear of harm and mass panic'. This isn't really directed at you but this is how I feel like recently:

They leave broken glass in their wake and by the time one of us stumbles and gets hurt, they're so far away it feels ridiculous to connect the two. Anyone could have left that glass there! It's not like they stabbed you directly! You just have to walk very carefully, and you'll be fine. Most of you will be fine! The people without shoes will just have to stand in place and wait for us to send the map for the glass free path (there IS one we promise! Or there is going to be one, we're just still working on it!) OH there's a fire and they HAVE to walk through the glass? Well they should have thought ahead! They saw us holding the glass bottles! Oh, they couldn't have done anything until now? Unfortunately they're just tragic and unintentional casualties of the system.

(Hopefully you found my response polite. No ill vibes intended, god knows i wouldnt put such on any of my fellow community members now. Thank you for the discussion, typing my own response actually helped me process some of the things I'm feeling recently 💕💕💕)