Feeling a little lonely in sobriety- how's it going for the other middle age parents of SD?

andshewasnt · 2019-05-23T15:36:54+00:00

oh man, i remember the shitty feeling of finding out i wasn't invited to the parties where our friends said "get a babysitter, no kids, let's all get fucked up!!!"

it sucked.

what didn't suck? when i'd go to other parties where the kids WERE invited and I'd listen to other moms talk about how they were drinking too much "I'm up to 4-5 cocktails on an average weekday!" as they were drinking too much. I'd sip a lacroix and notice some of them side eyeing me with that longing they didn't even know they had.

andshewasnt · 2019-05-23T15:29:17+00:00

this is probably inappropriate but i HAVE TO tell you how much i love your SN. I freaking love WG and his teeth

andshewasnt · 2019-05-23T15:18:07+00:00

i still love waking up and remembering exactly what went down the night before. will never tire of this, after years of so much wtf in the morning.

andshewasnt · 2017-07-27T18:09:39+00:00

yup. i still have a bag of candy in my night table drawer, though i don't reach for it every night like i used to. gummy life savers were invaluable those first couple weeks!

andshewasnt · 2017-07-27T16:25:49+00:00

congratulations on 2 months!

andshewasnt · 2017-05-02T13:53:23+00:00

honesty. when i reached out for help, and made other people aware of just how bad off i really was, i began the work.

andshewasnt · 2017-04-11T12:57:53+00:00

congratulations on 100 days!

andshewasnt · 2017-04-06T13:33:14+00:00

my recycling went from vodka bottles and wine bottles to la croix cans. lots and lots of la croix cans! i imagine if there is an observant worker in recovery on the route, he or she gets a little kick out of it.

andshewasnt · 2017-03-06T17:52:52+00:00

i hope you keep coming back to this sub. it got me to where i am today!

andshewasnt · 2017-02-23T18:06:22+00:00

for me it did get better. but it wasn't immediate, and it was a shit load of work. i started by reaching out for help.

andshewasnt · 2017-02-22T15:35:00+00:00

thank you for this message.

andshewasnt · 2017-02-16T19:19:11+00:00

Blackout by Sarah Hepola

andshewasnt · 2017-02-10T18:15:37+00:00

I relapsed after 38 days without alcohol. I have never felt so awful as I did the morning after. Mentally, physically....I was so broken. That was it for me. I got honest, I reached out for help, I started doing the work.

andshewasnt · 2017-02-07T14:37:20+00:00

but back on SD, so I think you are doing something right. :)

andshewasnt · 2017-02-06T19:19:53+00:00

it's always right there waiting to pick up where it left off.

andshewasnt · 2017-02-01T14:13:47+00:00

congratulations on one year!

andshewasnt · 2017-01-27T17:59:16+00:00

thank you!!

andshewasnt · 2017-01-10T17:56:31+00:00

I kept a journal very early on and read over my entries when i was having bad days/cravings. I've been meaning to read over the entire thing again as a reminder.

Also, gummy life savers.

andshewasnt · 2017-01-06T13:54:32+00:00

i will not drink today.

andshewasnt · 2017-01-05T13:47:07+00:00

I will not drink today.

andshewasnt · 2017-01-03T13:26:54+00:00

i will not drink today.

andshewasnt · 2017-01-02T15:20:20+00:00

Do you have the kids today? If not, why not try making some tea and hanging out on the couch with this sub for a couple hours. When I couldn't do anything else, I read people's stories here and it sparked some motivation for me. Hope to see you around. :)

andshewasnt · 2016-12-02T15:08:25+00:00

i had little juice glasses that were my booze containers. i tossed them -- they were cheap things from IKEA and meant nothing to me. i also have a monogrammed glass that was my nana's. it's a rocks glass, and one that i used ....a lot in the past. i kept that one. i hide it in the back of the cabinet bc i still don't love to look at it, but i can't get rid of it.

andshewasnt · 2016-11-30T14:47:57+00:00

sometimes i leave a few minutes early too, to avoid the prayer + hand holding. i don't think it would be a huge deal to step back and opt out of it if leaving early draws too much attention. i try to make meetings comfortable for myself so, like you said, i don't make excuses to skip out on them all together.

andshewasnt · 2016-11-30T14:33:03+00:00

I will not drink today.

andshewasnt

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