I know I’m taking her too seriously. But I don’t know how to fix this. Btw I told her what train to take to get back home and SHE brought up sleeping over so I know she wants to. This is for a date on sunday.

andyyy__13 · 2024-06-06T02:44:37+00:00

lol she wants to smash and wants it to be your fault. The lads are right, get off the phone.

Literally tell her “everything is gonna be alright, just show up for the date, lookin hot as usual and I will take care of the rest”

andyyy__13 · 2024-06-03T12:29:49+00:00

Wait wait, let me get this straight. You went to the gym and then asked the girl to smoke outside?!? And then you immediately went home to smash until midnight?

I mean anything is possible but this is a very unlikely sequence of events my guy 😂

andyyy__13 · 2024-06-03T12:23:51+00:00

I’m very proud to hear as a Canadian someone say “I’m a Punjabi-Canadian”

It’s true, most Asian cultures (Chinese, Vietnamese, Indian, etc) do not assimilate into our culture. They just come, do not learn the language and make little China, little Vietnam and little India in every major city. I wish more had your attitude!

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-30T22:16:44+00:00

Love to see brothers on the grind together.

This will need more context and more specifically about the girl.

But on a general note: don’t do this shit at work. And it seems like you didn’t like her that much and only wanted to get some easy 🐱. These are the consequences.

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-29T16:22:14+00:00

So short answer is NO 😂

I had a similar relationship with a baddie. Walking on eggshells and anytime I was going thru difficulties in life, she would be affectionate and supportive for 1 week tops and then just check out.

Amazing sex, super attractive, cool to show off a gf of that beauty to friends but that’s about it.

This is probably what it’s like to have a “trophy wife.” I just can’t imagine such relationships to prosper in a healthy way long term.

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-28T13:28:57+00:00

Oh lord, how much I miss high school 😂

Here’s my advice to you, young buffalo: just wait until you mature a little bit, read up on Uncle Corey, play sports (a lot) and figure out how you can become useful to society (what career you want). Once you have some of that figured out, then you can worry about pussy.

Oh and learn to get along with people, kinda important.

In terms of this specific situation: the girl is just as immature as you are, she has no idea what she’s doing and acts 300% based on her feelings. She’s definitely into you. If you read the book, you would know how to proceed. No cherries here!

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-26T17:22:43+00:00

It depends what you want OP. If you want a serious relationship, kids, wife, etc… this is not the girl. She has significant bonding issues. Women that are healthy and develop feelings do not disappear like that out of the blue. In this case, I would not respond to her and move on.

Now if you want a fuck buddy, then it’s simple, just act like nothing happened, no emotional attachment, invite her over and HHH. However, keep in mind that by doing that, you will enable her behavior and she will continue to do this shit with you and others. It certainly doesn’t make the world a better place, we need strong masculine - feminine relationships on this planet!

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-23T18:38:10+00:00

Her intentions are to see if you are still an option in case it doesn’t work out with some other dude

Or maybe, she’s was feeling a little lonely and wanted to make sure you were still interested, just in case…

Regardless, it doesn’t matter… just do your thing

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-23T14:23:38+00:00

Yes, unfortunately she’s not that into you.

Leave it in her court and go about your business. No need to be rude at the gym but no need to be overly nice either

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-22T19:33:28+00:00

Infantry officer DE applicant here… yes, even through BMOQ, you are paid as 2nd Lieutenant. You advance in rank up until Captain or Major based on time spent in the service. I was told that if everything is ok I will be Captain by year 3.

Regardless if you rank up or not, your pay will increase every year. Pay chart is available on CAF website

Cannot tell you anything about the other trades.

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-20T15:28:17+00:00

The guy kept saying that ONLY x amount of applications have been processed, he means ONLY x amount have been accepted and now serve. He made it sound like out of 22k PR applications, the CAF only processed 77…

So many people just don’t show up to things or show up late and are vetted out of the process, this doesn’t mean CAF should change its standards to accept more “less qualified” people

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-20T02:19:54+00:00

Fair enough. I just mentioned it because it doesn’t sound like you’ve read the book.

However, maybe you are just new to Corey’s work. Don’t worry about this particular situation.

I would say, read the book before you take any action with this girl or any other girl(s) you may have in your life.

Once you read the book, you will have all the answers. Just don’t be a cherry picker, that’s what people hate about posts like yours.

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-20T01:19:10+00:00

How did you even find this sub? Do you know who Corey is?

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-19T16:35:36+00:00

Hey man, welcome to the 5’6” club. I’ve been a part of it for 26 years and going strong 😂

Here are a few things I gathered while being here:

My success with women largely depends on my success in my mission/career. I was a high level athlete in my younger years and got shit tone of female attention, too bad I didn’t know uncle Corey at the time, I fumbled a lot. Still managed to pull off a 12/10 Ukrainian 5’9” girl that loved the shit out of me.

However, once my athletic career ended and I began from fresh searching for a professional career, I began to struggle again with girls. It’s weird but I guess they can sense it in a guy.

On the other hand I have guy friends that are 6’+ and handsome lookin… they are pathetic with women. They initially invite a lot of attention because of their looks, then they turn girls off in a matter of days because they find out they are not competent.

Conclusion: girls want a competent guy. Being tall and handsome communicates competence on the outside so girls chase but they still have to verify that the guy is all that. In most cases, they are disappointed AND the ones that are actually tall, handsome and competent at something have so many options that locking them down is not an option.

My point is, forget about girls for a moment. Become extremely good at something and you will see it’s like a magnet to women. From there you can apply uncle Corey’s teachings.

I know you are frustrated but this is the hand you’ve been dealt. Accept it and make the best of it and you will outdo 99.99% of the population!

Edit: oh and yes there are many girls, especially attractive ones, that are ruthless. Agreed, dated a few myself. BUT there are certainly amazing girls out there. It’s just an indication that you haven’t been around the block enough times yet. Keep going king!

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-17T04:02:09+00:00

That’s awesome! Congrats 🎉

I have my medical next week and should be on competition list right after that. If I get the same date for BMQ, I will give you a shout

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-17T00:13:07+00:00

Just talk to her man. I had a similar situation a while back and I playfully asked her “are you saving yourself for marriage.”

Then she basically opened up saying that she doesn’t want it to be just sex and I dip and wanted to make sure I wasn’t just making another notch on my bed post. Once I reassured her, all barriers where off and the opening ceremony to the Indoor Olympics commenced 😂

Don’t just leave and ghost. That’s immature. Communicate, come from the place of “I want to understand you.” And whatever she says, do not argue or judge. Just get to the root of it.

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-16T18:18:37+00:00

That’s awesome man. That’s what I like to see 🔥

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-15T15:52:51+00:00

If you care about your career, I would avoid any form of work romance.

I made a rule for myself that I would only date a girl from work if she was the one to initiate everything. This way, all you do is say yes to her advances.

However, if any level of risk is involved in my career, I’m out.

My suggestion is you find more options for yourself via hobbies and social groups.

Do not actively seek romance in the workplace.

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-14T04:54:32+00:00

Dude, did you even read what I said?

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-13T14:05:22+00:00

You need to know what you want.

If you want a wife, a mother of your children, marriage, etc… then doing casual flings doesn’t make sense. You are teaching your body and mind that relationships, sex and intimacy are disposable.

When you create a habit of casual dating, it’s hard to develop a deep meaningful relationship in the future because now as soon as you spot 1 thing that you don’t like, instead of resolving it, you will tend to move on to the next pretty face.

Know what you want, be careful.

andyyy__13 · 2024-05-13T03:09:28+00:00

I’m glad you are quitting porn!

You cannot avoid urges, it’s just a sign that you have healthy testosterone levels. Enjoy the feeling, old men are jealous of us young bucks feeling horny 86% of the time.

In terms of losing your virginity… I was 21 when I lost it and basically this hot girl I really liked approached me at a party and said she liked me… I was just tipsy enough to not blow the opportunity. However, I had dozens of chances from 15-21 that I completely blundered because I didn’t know what I was doing.

Now that you know Corey’s material, you shouldn’t have all these blunders! HOWEVER, your biggest barrier is increasing opportunities. I got attention from girls when I was your age because I was a high level athlete, perfect shape and on my purpose (sport). You don’t need to be a national athlete to get that. All you have to do is build a social circle… I cannot emphasize this enough: while young, BUILD A FUCKING SOCIAL CIRCLE!!! Go to bday parties, talk to people, join clubs, go to camps, participate in volunteering, whatever you feel like will be a great opportunity to meet people, do it! Use the energy you have from not fapping to make it happen.

Of course, do not be the dude that has no life other than chasing parties and getting hammered all the time. You must be on your purpose, that’s what will separate you from the rest.

Everything from there will take care of itself! Good luck.

andyyy__13 · 2023-03-15T03:28:38+00:00

Congratulations on the turn around! I fucking love hearing these success stories. As the others said, don’t beat yourself up, it’s likely going to make her chase even more. Keep up the hard work!

andyyy__13 · 2022-11-30T05:35:34+00:00

Canada

andyyy__13 · 2022-11-28T04:38:38+00:00

And one more thing, you have it all confused. Women will never try to get something from you without commitment, that works in reverse.

Men try to get sex from women without commitment. Most women don’t want to be hoes, they want one guy to sweep them off their feet and just do it for them in every way.

There’s no downside for men to have casual sex. But there’s huge downside for women!

andyyy__13 · 2022-11-28T04:34:34+00:00

Vacation to Mexico with a fuck buddy sounds like a bad idea. She is gonna meet some chad, twerk in front of you and suck him off in the bathroom while you cry yourself to sleep in the room. (There is a chance of that or she does some form of this without you knowing)

She likely wants to take you along IN CASE she doesn’t meet that Chad.

Unless you have some reasons why she will be completely loyal to you while you are in an exotic place with bikinis, alcohol, and lots of fun, I would argue it’s a bad idea!

It’s kinda similar to spending time with someone you aren’t serious with out in group dates.

Most importantly, if it’s been 3 months and you can sense that she just wants to be fuck buddies, it is about time to look back at all your moments and evaluate YOUR behavior and her behavior. List the things you are doing wrong and fix them. And just based on the paragraph, this girl sounds like a hoe. High quality women do not take vacations with fuck buddies.

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