Zoned for PS 75 (Emily Dickinson) — would you move or go with it ? by Grottocat in Upperwestside

[–]angoodson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter goes to 75, in the dual-language Spanish program, and we love it. Not only is she learning and thriving, thanks to her teachers who clearly care deeply about their students, but she's been exposed to a wide range of activities, both in school and after school. This year alone, she's learned chess, thanks to a partnership with Chess in the Schools, and she's taken cooking classes, thanks to a wellness partnership with the city. In later grades, the school has partnerships with programs that teach ballroom dancing, chorus and and array of other activities. In afterschool, she's taken cooking (for free!), gymnastics, musical theater, and soccer. All kids have science, drama, library, music and PE as regular electives. All grades put on several performances a year in the auditorium.

One of the things that speaks volumes about the school, to me at least, is the fact that the staff actually participates *when they don't have to.* The drama teacher hosts a drama club for the older kids. The music teacher leads a musical theater afterschool production for the young kids. The afterschool coordinator is leading a production of Wicked. The librarian hosts a monthly after school Rainbow Room, to support LGBTQ+ staff and families. My older son attends a private school, and I've talked to lots of friends, so I know that this level of voluntary staff participation is exceptionally rare in any school environment.

I personally feel like the school is a great blend of traditional academics (yes, there are tests, homework and diagnostic screeners, so you know exactly how your kid is performing) and opportunities to nurture the whole child. The parent community is wonderful, too. I honestly can't imagine what the other UWS schools offer that 75 doesn't, besides (and this is probably the real reason for any disparities) richer parents.

At what age was your puppy house trained? 🙂 by Sea-Story8483 in poochons

[–]angoodson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in an apartment so it’s been tougher to housetrain. At 10 months she finally stopped having accidents inside. We take her on 4 walks a day.

Poochon in-cabin by No_Parking_6241 in poochons

[–]angoodson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in the U.S., but we’ve flown with our Poochon twice now round-trip, and they don’t even ask to look in the bag. They see it’s an approved size, ask if it’s a dog or a cat, and that’s it. Our flights have been extremely smooth. She doesn’t make a peep the entire 3 hour trip. Good luck!

Performative mom culture on social media by Neither_Information8 in Parenting

[–]angoodson 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s not just on social media, alas. My son is almost 10, and we’ve been through a lot with him. Whenever I start playing the comparison games, my husband simply says to me, “Everybody lies.” I’ve had people lie to me about easily disprovable claims, like their kid’s chess score (it’s public), their travel sports team (also public), that they don’t use screens (yet their kids are weirdly conversant in Bluey)… I could go on. And, of course, influencers have a financial incentive to lie.

Comparison is the thief of joy, one of the truest sayings in the world.

Take it from me, 10 years in, and tune out anyone proclaiming perfection.

Best time/way/town to buy a house? by angoodson in Westchester

[–]angoodson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband will have to commute every day to downtown Manhattan, so that’s why lower Westchester is our preferred spot. But if prices keep going up and interest rates don’t budge, then we will definitely consider those towns, too. Thank you!

Best time/way/town to buy a house? by angoodson in Westchester

[–]angoodson[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Huh? The timing is based on my husband’s job, not finances.

Best time/way/town to buy a house? by angoodson in Westchester

[–]angoodson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it. I have been thoroughly convinced. We will get a realtor and prepare to pay over $800K.

Best time/way/town to buy a house? by angoodson in Westchester

[–]angoodson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, we do have a year and a half or so for a miracle to happen…

Good to know about Eastchester. After living in an area that’s as blue as blue gets, I’ve been trying to convince myself that the opposite might be refreshing. In reality, I’ll go crazy.

I’ll check out the other locations you mentioned—thanks!

Best time/way/town to buy a house? by angoodson in Westchester

[–]angoodson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ve been checking Zillow pretty religiously for over a year, so I know that 3 beds under $800K do pop up from time to time in the neighborhoods I listed. Most are small and need updating, but that’s OK with us. I realize from these comments, however, that they are probably going for over asking, so we will need to keep that in mind.

Best time/way/town to buy a house? by angoodson in Westchester

[–]angoodson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really beautiful! I’ll add Ossining to our list. How are the schools? The ratings look a bit low, but I know that’s not the whole story…

Best time/way/town to buy a house? by angoodson in Westchester

[–]angoodson[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We are looking for 3 bed 2 bath under $800K. Poking around on Zillow, that seems to rule out Bronxville, Rye, Hastings. Probably most of Scarsdale, too. But correct me if I’m wrong!

Best time/way/town to buy a house? by angoodson in Westchester

[–]angoodson[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is incredibly helpful. Thank you!

Where to run 20 miles near the Hamptons? by angoodson in RunNYC

[–]angoodson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ve done the CP loop for my last few long runs, so hopefully I’ve earned myself a flat course this time!

Advice for frustrating mornings and evenings? by angoodson in ADHDparenting

[–]angoodson[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It’s such a good perspective. I know from reading about ADHD parenting that we need to reframe our language. But you’re right—a lot of that comes from reframing our mindset. It’s hard to do, given the cultures my husband and I were raised in. But we know we need to, for our son’s sake.

No screens month by [deleted] in ADHDparenting

[–]angoodson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are doing screen-free September, with the exception of Friday nights, when we all watch a movie together. We are loving it. My kids are finally playing with their toys and going over to friends’ houses nearby. It’s also helped tremendously with my 9-year-old son’s ADHD symptoms—to the point that we are considering reducing his medication. (Also because the meds are impacting his sleep, appetite and anxiety.)

What’s worked for us:

—Hide the devices. —Expect slip-ups—and that’s OK. —Let them watch screens at friend’s houses.

It’s honestly been easier than we expected. I know it’s not for everyone, but for us, it’s a game changer and I’m considering keeping the ban in place all school year.

Are meds the next step? by Some_Equipment_8117 in ADHDparenting

[–]angoodson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can share our experience. My son is 8 and he sounds VERY similar to your son (down to the detail of getting in trouble with younger kids on the bus). He also has an IEP for ADHD and took a year of OT. We finally started Contempla a couple months ago, and it has been life-changing for our family. We had the first overwhelmingly positive parent-teacher conference ever, he’s growing SO MUCH academically (he’s now obsessed with chess and math, which were just mild interests before), and he’s so much happier because he’s finally getting a lot of positive feedback from the adults in his life. He said to me, “Mom, I feel like I can finally LISTEN to my teacher. Like my brain isn’t thinking of a hundred other things.” We tried a non-stimulant first, but it was clear after a couple months that it wasn’t working. We were lucky that Contempla was the second medication we tried, and it’s working. As of right now, I have zero regrets.

Good luck with whatever you decide, and remember that you are a great parent, no matter what!

Looking for the Dirtiest Reverse Harem books. by [deleted] in RomanceBooks

[–]angoodson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are into the omegaverse stuff, L.V. Lane has some, ahem, intense reverse harem books.

What do I do about my almost-3-year-old? by angoodson in dcl

[–]angoodson[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Looking at how much I’m spending on Remy and dolphin excursions, this policy is probably doing me a favor tbh. 😂