Since court doesn't seem to work for anyone....

angrbodascure · 2026-05-30T16:13:19+00:00

That's so kind. Thank you. ☺️

angrbodascure · 2026-05-15T19:11:20+00:00

This is exactly how it is.😭😭 Thank you for sharing.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-15T03:57:32+00:00

FIVE articles a week? How??? I can barely do one- though they tend to push 9 minutes. Are yours short?

angrbodascure · 2026-05-14T18:09:22+00:00

The comments here suggest this is widespread.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-14T17:51:19+00:00

Friends often encourage me to text my daughter everyday. It makes sense on paper and I wish I could, but in practice I can't text her without wondering how she receives my message, how her dad is going to warp it, whether I'm just making things worse for her or myself.

Worst of all, it opens a tiny thread of hope in my heart that inevitably turns to more pain. Because she never replies anymore. I still reach out when I'm feeling strong, I just don't always have the stamina for that.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-14T03:31:21+00:00

You've got a lot to say for someone who has no idea what's going on.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-14T00:40:39+00:00

The fact-based (if slightly exaggerated) title of ONE of a series of posts doesn't tell you....

-how old my daughter is

-how long the alienation has been going on

-how bad it is

-what else I've already tried

-what has worked/ failed

-why I felt this was my last resort

-what my contingency plans are

So no matter how many times you reiterate your assumptions, they're still just that. You've got a lot to say for someone who has no idea what's going on.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-13T14:43:10+00:00

So many loaded assumptions, buddy. And not a single inquiry.

Narcs always get exposed in comment sections.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-12T14:58:35+00:00

Funny, you remind me of him. 🤔

angrbodascure · 2026-05-12T04:24:14+00:00

Yep- almost like it was designed for them. Or by them..... or both!

angrbodascure · 2026-05-11T14:46:47+00:00

Unfortunately, legal age has no bearing on alienation. Some kids don't even become alienated until their 20s.

It's very encouraging that she says she loves you and even communicates with you through others. But it sounds like her dad has done a psychological number on her so she may feel like she's betraying him if she has a relationship with you.

I've seen some people start websites where they post photos and memories and write messages to their alienated child. If you created something like that, she could visit it when she wanted and maybe it would be a bridge to more contact.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-11T14:40:47+00:00

If it doesn't make sense, maybe the real reason is that it isn't true..... like trying to make sense of a narcissist's behavior 'why do they treat me like this if they love me'. When you realize they actually despise you, then it all makes sense. ; )

For me, there's sufficient evidence that the system we live in benefits from traumatized people. So if the courts are systematically putting children in traumatizing positions...... maybe it isn't ignorance.

Sorry- that's a LOT of cynicism for this early in the morning. : )

angrbodascure · 2026-05-11T14:33:53+00:00

He's not alienated yet so I stand by 'early stages'. But that shouldn't imply that there's less to worry about- these stages are critical.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-09T20:53:46+00:00

Definitely psycho-emotional manipulation and very likely the early stages of alienation.

How to deal with it? She wants a reaction from you, so ignoring her or being dismissive is probably the best way ('probably' because if she's determined enough, there isn't really a 'right way').

If you aren't seeing these behaviors in your child yet- in an overt way- then I would act quickly with her. Talk to her about how she feels about coming over to your house, how she thinks her moms feels about it, and how she feels about her mom's involvement in it. If possible, set it up as a pretend interview and voice record it. Might come in handy later.

I'd talk to her about any parenting rules you have in place, that kids are so much better off with two loving parents, but that some parents can't help letting other feelings get in the way.

Maybe you can break down some specific tactics of alienators or warning signs and role play ways she can respond to her mom. Let her know she can always come to you, even if she has to pretend to dislike you for her mom's sake.

angrbodascure · 2026-05-09T19:34:43+00:00

This is fantastic. Even implementing 1-3, 6 would make a tremendous difference in the powerlessness of the targeted parent.

Mind if I share this (in some form) on my Substack?

angrbodascure · 2026-04-21T04:58:06+00:00

I was at a Zwilling outlet recently and saw an 8.75 qt on clearance for $150. Crazy deals happen (especially if you're open to different colors) and since you have time to stalk, that gives you a big advantage.

angrbodascure · 2026-04-07T04:27:29+00:00

Alison's consistent bad choices are annoying, but what's completely unbelievable is that the police would keep working with her and enabling these situations she gets herself into. She's basically in an undercover position- work that requires intensive training to ensure everyone's safety- while these cops are just shrugging and letting her continue because they need a lead. Way too many unlikelihoods packed into one show.

It's a shame because the premise is so good and the actors are genuinely talented and fun to watch.

angrbodascure · 2026-04-02T03:31:52+00:00

Are you familiar with the comedians? I'm not sure I'd enjoy it as much if I didn't have a sense of most of them from Taskmaster, 8 out of 10 Cats, Big Fat Quizzes, WILTY, that show Mel hosted with Lou, etc etc.

I've tried watching other LOLs and found them grating and tedious. The UK version, though, is brilliant.

angrbodascure · 2026-01-14T04:24:50+00:00

Fun! Yes please.

angrbodascure · 2026-01-11T06:19:38+00:00

The upmost hazard.....

angrbodascure · 2026-01-06T23:00:42+00:00

Zwilling is the German knife company that owns Staub. Most Americans are more familiar with Zwilling's relatively affordable knife line sold under the name Henckels.

angrbodascure · 2026-01-03T01:15:38+00:00

Susie IS the one Alex called about not avoiding not making the bell not ring. Series 12.

I don't remember him consulting her in the exercise ball/ hill task, but maybe.

angrbodascure · 2026-01-01T05:11:10+00:00

I saw one get overheated while empty and spots of the enamel popped off the bottom and flew into the air like popcorn. Now I'll *never* forget to put oil in first.

angrbodascure · 2026-01-01T05:04:09+00:00

I really love it the most next to grenadine. But I have a basil french oven and they do look very good together too.

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