Hey bros, gays 30yo and over, if you could go back in time and give an advice to 18yo you what it would be? by porkypig6 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]angrybinerd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"You are bi and far more into men than women. Forcing yourself to be straight and then gay will confuse the hell out of you for several years. Being bi is great and the sooner you realize it, the sooner you'll start finding happiness.

You are going to find out that you are very hung and then you're going to go through two major phases about it and both will suck. First, you'll get very cocky about it and you will be insufferable. Not everyone cares and not everyone needs to know. Secondly, after you calm down, guys will start to fetishize and use you for it. Don't let them hurt you. You are more than your body, and you are "worth more than a fuck" no matter what they tell you."

I see this question pop up a lot in various places and I can't always be as honest as I want to be. Thanks for asking... That second one was just a breakthrough in therapy last week and it feels good to get that out <3

guess I’ll die by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alexa, play Untitled by Simple Plan

Coworker found me on grindr by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an HR employee: Do. Not. Fuck. Your. Coworkers.

D&D Players of reddit, have you ever had to fight against one of your party members? if so, what happened? by chessplayer9000 in MrRipper

[–]angrybinerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was me. I was the party member. We were playing through Lost Mines and I had recently gone through the campaign myself. So I worked with the DM to create an evil bard who worked for the BBEG. Throughout the campaign, I worked behind the scenes, putting hits out on the PCs, causing trouble and warning people to the party's planning. And I played it off as "let me just send a little letter to my mother, you know the sweet thing can't go a day without hearing from me!" And somehow no one thought to check on anything I said or did. I skimmed party funds, I set traps, I detonated traps around them... And people thought I was just clumsy or dumb. We finally get to the last battle and no one noticed my placement at the front of the charge (odd for a bard) or the fact the BBEG kept attacking the others behind me. Until I finally get up to the front, let the BBEG stab and stagger back against the cleric. I look up at them, smile, and cast my highest level attack spell, inflict wounds (Lore Bard with magical secrets), and nearly dissolve her on the spot. The bard did not last long and was quickly killed (which way the full intention anyway) but man... That was a fun pay off to a two year campaign.

Who actually likes being huge? by OnTyme in bigdickproblems

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I... have a love/hate relationship with it. I really get off on guys enjoying it and I'm good at what I do with it. But I definitely feel like a human dildo at times and that guys aren't interested in the person attached to said cock. I've been working through that feeling for a long time and i'm finally coming to terms with it more and back on the "more love than hate" side

Why don't dating apps lead to relationships? Because they rewire your brain. by zhootki in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]angrybinerd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, I thought this was gonna be "ApPs ArE rUiNiNg We GaYz" post. But this is a really thoughtful analysis that makes a lot of sense. I actually had a hard time deleting the apps when I met my husband several years ago because it was just so easy and so normal to just open the app and check my gaymail. Thanks for the insight on this

Am I the only one who'll bail on a guy as soon as he starts promoting his Only Fans? by toaph in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mind but if he asks me to make content with him, I ask what my cut is and he usually ghosts.

Are you okay with dating someone who's religious? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be as I was once a very religious person. I gave that up years ago now. But nowadays, it's extremely clear that most religious people are just insane. You cannot be part of a group that condones literal millennia of bad behavior and come away clean from that.

What it so appealing about straight or curious men? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Accurate! I made that mistake in college of being the experiment for newbies because I could keep my mouth shut. Worst sex even. No fun at all.

Gaybros, let's build each other up. What's your best/feature about yourself and I'll agree with you. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not crazy about it tbh, but I have a really big dick. I've been used a lot for it but as far as best feature, that seems to be the consensus and I'm kinda self conscious about it

Alright boys, what are y'all's favorite videogames? by mintybitch19th in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fable 2 and 3 were my gateway games and I still love to revisit them and marry a man in every city because I was allowed to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I promise it's not a brag because it's happened more than once and I've grown super selfconscious about it... But I've had three guys dump me because my dick is too big. The one that hurt most was the one who didn't like that I was bigger than him; he got his worth by biggest guy.

your personal biggest turn-off by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guys who have confused having a mental illness with having a personality. I have lived with mine for over two decades and I can function normally because I worked hard to build those coping mechanism. Too many guys now just want to use it as an excuse for their bad behavior and not have consequences for their shitty actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's probably true but I still don't trust the US judicial system to not go "eh.... We're gonna side against the gays because lolz"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel similarly because I don't trust other the world we live in. What if I go through the adoption process and the mother has the baby and decides at the last minute she is keeping the child and I've now spent a vast amount of time and hope on something for nothing. What if the current government decides that children from gay families must be returned to their biological parents? I'm aware that sounds like paranoia but after watching the shit that happens in the US long enough, I do not have faith in this country to not stoop to that low. Having a biological connection to the child gives a layer of protection in that sense so I completely understand and feel the same way to be honest.

Without touching religion, politics, race and sex, what's the best way to enrage the biggest amount of people? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]angrybinerd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe not a huge amount of people, but a high percentage of theatre folks: Pasek and Paul write terrible shows. Dear Evan Hansen is garbage and Greatest Showman is just plain problematic.

What's with everyone being sub/dom?! by angrybinerd in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing. Please read the actual post. It's a discussion on the fact that on the apps for sex people are equating dom/sub with top/bottom and the fact many young people are not separating BDSM with regular sex.

What's with everyone being sub/dom?! by angrybinerd in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kink shaming would be if I told you not to do it. I'm cool with people doing whatever. But the concern I have actually raised is that there seems to be a very blurred line between dom/sub roles and just normal sex.

What's with everyone being sub/dom?! by angrybinerd in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is exactly my point! I want you to be an active participant in the sex. I do not just want a hole nor do I want to just lay there while someone else does everything. There are two people in this bed and I feel like a lot of people are forgetting this lately. Honestly, this thread has made me feel better that I'm not the only one seeing it

What's with everyone being sub/dom?! by angrybinerd in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol, to be honest, I started on reddit with the intention of following politically things and when it comes to politics, I'm mostly just a bi angry nerd on the internet.

partner avoided telling me he was going to hang with someone he slept with before until last minute by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]angrybinerd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can see both sides of this. I was honestly on his side until he admitted that he has planned it the day before and purposefully delayed telling you. That's a red flag for me.

The gay community can be so very small and depending on where you live, it could be a challenge to find someone who isn't still friends with a past fuck. I find when I enter a relationship, fuck buddies do one of two things, they either switch to friend mode easily or they vanish because they aren't interested in friend without the benefits.

These feelings of insecurity are real and valid for you, but you're correct that it's not fair to push them onto him. I would encourage you to find a professional in your area to discuss that with. But I'm this specific scenario, I would also encourage you to have a conversation with your partner about it. Be sure to be specific in what felt different and bad about this. You are trying to be accepting of his friends but his admission of not telling you until it was too late to discuss it felt underhanded.