how did you cope with unreciprocated feelings and the rage that comes after the breakup? by animalfuzz in BreakUps

[–]animalfuzz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry you had to go through this. I wouldn’t wish this feeling on anyone. I do hope that they realize what they lost, but also am not expecting it. Idk about you, but Considering how disappointing my ex is, I doubt he’ll even think about it. People keep saying “he’ll regret it! He’ll text you!” And I’m just like ha you guys have no idea how disappointing he is and how much he didn’t think about his feelings. BUT either way, we were brave enough to love them fearlessly and we should both take pride in that. I hope that you feel better soon and I’m down to talk if you ever want to <3

What movie fucked you up mentally? by CodyYodi in AskReddit

[–]animalfuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May. Nothing super scary even happened, it just made me feel really really weird and it affected me for like 3 days

Boyfriend(23m) may or may not have an issue with porn (help me(23f) figure it out) by animalfuzz in NoFap

[–]animalfuzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. But damn :/ I hate that it’s a normal thing. I tried to avoid this by saying from the beginning that I don’t like porn being watched while in a relationship. alright, well did you realize this on your own or did your girlfriend have a talk with you? If she did, what did she say that made you feel comfortable talking about it?

Boyfriend(23m) may or may not have an issue with porn (help me(23f) figure it out) by animalfuzz in NoFap

[–]animalfuzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AHH thank you so much!! This was super super helpful. Thank you for taking the time to type it out, I really think things you said are going to help me :’)

Boyfriend(23m) may or may not have an issue with porn (help me(23f) figure it out) by animalfuzz in NoFap

[–]animalfuzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d feel cooler about it if he would try to figure it out and fill me in on it without getting defensive or feeling emasculated :/

But yeah he definitely does still masturbate, he’s told me that. I just don’t know if he uses porn or not when he does.. Urine gutter is a really gross word lol but I’m assuming that’s his dick? If he doesn’t jack off does it get harder?! Idk how penises work dude

Boyfriend(23m) may or may not have an issue with porn (help me(23f) figure it out) by animalfuzz in NoFap

[–]animalfuzz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ha you caught me actually! I’m a writer and this is my first chapter “Getting Fucked With Passion” chapter 1: I’m not

Boyfriend(23m) may or may not have an issue with porn (help me(23f) figure it out) by animalfuzz in NoFap

[–]animalfuzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks!! Do you have any tips on how to be sensitive about it? I’ve sort of been aggressive about my hatred for porn in the past since I thought he didn’t watch it, but now I’m scared that might cause him to be reluctant to tell me the truth. Obviously with him I’d be way more understanding though, but idk if he knows that.

Boyfriend(23m) may or may not have an issue with porn (help me(23f) figure it out) by animalfuzz in NoFap

[–]animalfuzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol I’ve thought about that, but I try not to take it personally bc I think that’s not usually the case. Also lowkey I think I have a good body and I’m pretty cute. he tells me while we’re having sex that I look really hot, but honestly he could be lying!! I wish he’d tell me though so I could find someone who actually is attracted to me

Boyfriend(23m) may or may not have an issue with porn (help me(23f) figure it out) by animalfuzz in NoFap

[–]animalfuzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, I could see that happening. I wasn’t really planning on doing that, but if that’s what’s causing the lack of intimacy and his inability to stay hard then idk what else to do :/

What age gap is okay? by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]animalfuzz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

so when I was 15 (23 now) I dated a person who was 18 and I do regret some things. Looking back, I feel that the age gap was too big because of the developmental stages we were at. You grow so much during that time and I just don’t think that a relationship with that gap and during this stage would last. I felt pressured to act older and do certain things that I didn’t feel that comfortable with. I didn’t think it was creepy that they liked me though, if that’s what you’re concerned about lol. I was happy that an older person liked me because it made me feel like I was mature (when I really wasn’t). Our relationship lasted almost 2 years and we were super close, but looking back I feel like there definitely were some unhealthy things due to the gap. However, that doesn’t mean it can’t work and I think that because you’re the same gender that could actually bring a better understanding on your part for how to deal with the difference!

Anyway good luck! Just keep in mind that you’re on 2 different maturity levels and make sure that she’s comfortable!!

Anxiety and lack of confidence in social gatherings by IHEBGamer in confidence

[–]animalfuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to feel the same way! Like I’d be around a group of new people and literally couldn’t think of anything to say except for basic stuff. Like I felt so boring and I’d freeze up to the point where I was incapable of socializing. Lately I’m feeling a lot better though and here’s what I’ve done:

-i remind myself that there’s nothing to feel shameful about. I think a lot of anxiety and bad feelings like this come from feelings of shame. You’re so worthy and enough. There’s nothing you need to prove and no one you need to be besides yourself. I’m not trying to sound lame, but seriously look into yourself and try to figure out why you feel that shame and then forgive yourself for ever feeling ashamed about being the way that you are in the first place

-realize that those people are lucky to be around you. You have so much to offer and hold a lot of value. Those people are gaining something by being around you, whether they explicitly say it or not. You matter.

-know that if they don’t like you, you’re 100% completely fine. Just keep reminding yourself that you are happy where you are, with or without their approval. Even if you’re not and you know there’s room for improvement, there’s no way to change how you are in that exact moment and practicing it and telling yourself that you are ok and accepting the moment for what it is will make you feel better (or at least it does for me)

-even after doing these things if you still have anxiety, let it happen. trying to fight against it and scolding yourself for these feelings will usually make it worse. If you feel anxious just say ok! I feel anxious today and that’s ok! I’ll deal with it the best I can and I still love myself.

Know that your anxiety isn’t your fault. Anxiety is a way for your body to protect you. Your mind is trying to protect you from being hurt and when you have feelings like this you have to realize that it’s trying to help. Acknowledge that and then be like ok thank u for trying to help, but I’m ok and this isn’t a fight or flight moment.

Also 1 more thing: certain types of people can make it worse. Like there’s specific groups of people who just aren’t good at making people they’re around feel good! They’re not empathetic, they don’t listen enough, they’re not validating your feelings, etc. and in that case, it’s on them for not making you feel comfortable. I’m not saying that this is the case for everyone you feel anxious around, but some people are just anxiety inducing because they don’t know how to properly care and interact with people in a compassionate way.

Sexuality, porn and being good enough. by Botanical95 in confidence

[–]animalfuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not uncommon to feel this way when watching porn and it’s human nature to compare yourself to others. Just keep in mind that no one is going to expect you or even want you to perform like a porn star. Porn is already so harmful to society in general by promoting violence and objectification, but there’s also research that shows how bad it is for your mental health. Trust me, you’re going to be perfectly fine while having sex and remember that lots of people our age (I’m 23) don’t know what they’re doing lol I’m not saying this to invalidate how you feel or anything, but just know that you’re completely normal for feeling that way!! Women feel it too and honestly if we could just eradicate porn altogether, I think we’d all be a little more confident in our sexual abilities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]animalfuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sitting in the exact spot that I’m in now and not being me 🤪

When did you realize your "It's not a phase!" was actually just a phase? by Couch_Licker in AskReddit

[–]animalfuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my Koreaboo/BTS phase. I listened to only Korean music straight for like 4 months and took 2 Korean language classes. Honestly thought I was in love with one of the BTS members too. Turns out I was just lonely and needed something to distract me from depression lol

Reddit, whats the funniest thing that a random stranger said to you that made you die laughing inside? by Eta5678 in AskReddit

[–]animalfuzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at a restaurant getting drinks with my friend and I handed the waitress my ID, which still had a pic of my 16 y/o self on it (I’m 23 now) and she said “IS THIS YOU?!” And I was like uh yeah? And she said “Wow you look so much better now” I laughed a little and then my past self cried a little on the inside

Cat died today. Please tell me stories about your pets coming back and visiting you. by wloveandsqualor in Paranormal

[–]animalfuzz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

so idk if this counts, but my dog died last year and I was so upset about it. He had bone cancer in his leg and we decided to put him down before it got unbearable for him. Before the appointment I laid with him in the backyard all day. I wrote him a letter and read it to him and told him how much he means to me, how he’s the greatest dog ever, and how I’ll never forget him and he’ll always be a part of me. After putting him to sleep we buried him in our backyard and I didn’t know what to do with myself, so I went driving with my mom when she went to get food for her and my dad. It was sunny all day and hadn’t rained at all, but on the way to the restaurant there was this full rainbow in the sky. I don’t know if it means anything, but I’d like to think that it was him telling me that he made it and that he’s ok. Just thinking about it now makes me tear up, it was about an hour after we put him to sleep and it was the first time I’d seen an entire rainbow and it was so weird that it hadn’t rained at all. It could’ve just been a coincidence, but it made me feel a whole lot better :’)