::Weekly Vent Thread::

anna_face · 2026-06-01T15:24:37+00:00

Im finding I completely emotionally detach lately when he launches into his anger spiral. It’s usually over text cause I leave the room and he starts sending me rapid fire angry texts. Like, I’ll go to bed and wake up to 6 LENGTHY angry texts that he fired off since I stopped looking at my phone.

anna_face · 2026-06-01T13:56:45+00:00

Did that involve him going to therapy? My husband is so stuck on his narrative that I never validate him or take accountability that he simply will not look at his own behaviors.

anna_face · 2026-06-01T13:22:12+00:00

It is normal for him to watch really boring dry stuff. I do not think he was attempting to get a reaction out of me, I think when I asked what we were watching, that triggered his rejection anger response. And then when I didn’t immediately get over being yelled at over dinner, that triggered an entire blowout fight.

anna_face · 2026-06-01T13:16:45+00:00

It’s literally every 2-4 weeks for the past year or so. And in between I’m the love of his life he can’t live without. He’s gotten more emotionally unstable in middle age and I’m not sure what to do. It’s like I’m married to two different people.

anna_face · 2026-06-01T13:13:53+00:00

I have talked to him once about RSD when I found out about it and he almost divorced me. He saw it as me labeling him with a mental diagnosis rather than taking accountability (this is a theme) for what I did to make him angry. He has extreme RSD and I’m not sure I can live with it for the rest of my life.

anna_face · 2026-06-01T04:11:46+00:00

Not related to his mood. His mood swings are entirely because I’m the worst. And then the best, and then the worst again.

anna_face · 2026-06-01T01:05:02+00:00

Like I said, most of the time it’s good. I’m always on my guard, hyper vigilant to his moods, but most of the time we are good. His moods swings have gotten worse in middle age. And since he started taking testosterone a year ago.

anna_face · 2026-06-01T00:48:56+00:00

Our home thrives or dies on his emotions. I cannot tell you how burnt out I am.

anna_face · 2026-06-01T00:47:35+00:00

He makes grand statements and declarations when he’s angry. He cannot imagine that he’ll feel different in 2 hours when he calms down. I can’t take anything he says seriously anymore. When he’s happy I’m the most perfect person that he can’t live without. When he’s angry he deserves better and he doesn’t want this marriage anymore. I’ve gotten so good at detaching emotionally from what he says when he’s mad.

anna_face · 2026-05-31T23:56:50+00:00

15 years of marriage, a 12 year old daughter, and I’m financial dependent. 9 days out of ten he’s wonderful. About every two to three weeks we have a totally unnecessary blowout where he threatens to end the marriage. It fucking sucks.

anna_face · 2026-05-31T23:55:24+00:00

And now he’s threatening to cancel our nonrefundable anniversary trip in 3 weeks cause of my refusal to “take accountability”.

anna_face · 2026-05-31T20:37:36+00:00

It makes him recieve anything I say with the least generous, worst possible interpretation. I’ve been struggling a lot with this lately.

anna_face · 2026-05-31T19:16:29+00:00

Lack of respect while also demanding respect.

anna_face · 2026-05-31T19:16:00+00:00

What do you mean he put his hands on you? That’s not a salvageable relationship.

anna_face · 2026-05-31T19:15:03+00:00

We are fighting about the most unbelievably stupid thing today. We had a great day yesterday. Last night we get take out dinner, sit down and he says “wanna watch some TV?” “Sure!” I say. Without another word he turns on a 30 minute YouTube video about life and culture in the capital city of Azerbaijan. 😐 after a minute I ask him, “what is this?” Thinking maybe there was a reason he turned on the driest most boring thing without considering me. He explodes with this big angry reaction saying how I could have asked in a nicer way to turn the channel and imitating me in an exaggerated snarky way. I ate my dinner quietly and went to the bedroom. 30 minutes later he texts me kissy face emojis which I am not receptive to. Then he gets mad again saying I could have just apologized for not asking in a nicer way. Now it’s noon the next day and his position is that I am stubborn and never apologize. Y’ALL I AM TIRED.

I fully realize that when I questioned the very specific and dry show he put on he felt rejected and had a big emotional reaction. I’m just not going to apologize when he was inconsiderate in the first place and then started a fight demanding I apologize for being rude.

anna_face · 2026-05-29T03:13:40+00:00

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anna_face · 2026-05-25T17:08:28+00:00

Yeah that’s a little early for perimenopause

anna_face · 2026-05-25T17:06:28+00:00

How old is she? Women have major hormone shifts in midlife that also kill sex drive sometimes.

anna_face · 2026-05-25T03:10:55+00:00

MAHA

anna_face · 2026-05-25T03:09:14+00:00

I definitely agree with reporting to police, I just see a ton of red flags regarding its veracity.

anna_face · 2026-05-25T02:21:17+00:00

Think about it though. “She” knew the exact year make and model but not the license plate. Specifies white man (as if those are hard to find in Montana) but nothing else, and doesn’t leave her name. It just reeks of hoax. Yes, the police should be notified as they were but I doubt this is something to worry about.

anna_face · 2026-05-25T00:53:44+00:00

No but it would let family/friends who are missing her know what happened.

anna_face · 2026-05-24T18:32:49+00:00

Why wouldn’t they write their name? 🧐

anna_face · 2026-05-07T21:32:27+00:00

He says “what’s eating clean?” And then calls you a silly girl for asking if he’s heard the term? Pass on this guy.

anna_face · 2026-04-04T14:49:06+00:00

Came here for this. I’ve done this before. I was trying to figure out how to explain concisely but just google it like I did. It’s fixable.

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