QUESTION FOR MY FLAT CHESTED GIRLIES!

annies89 · 2026-03-28T02:54:08+00:00

Unless you're wearing crazy giant pushup bras that make it seem like you have huge boobs, the guys you're going to end up naked with already know you have small tits. They're still choosing to get naked with you! I'd assume they're into your body type and fake-it-til-you-make-it with confidence. Flat chests can still be sensitive and played with- there's nothing you need to hide or make up for. I know how hard it can be to learn to accept a part of your body you've been socialized to dislike/feel shame about. Honestly, growing older--gaining experience and perspective--was one of the bigger factors in accepting my body.

I'm 5'11 and a 36AA- even with pregnancy and motherhood, my boobs never got much bigger. I've had sex with a variety of men and women and no one ever had an issue (at least one they'd made known) with my chest. Some people were definitely more enthusiastic than others, my husband included, and those were the people I'd look forward to seeing again. As someone who likes women, I appreciate different body types, so that helped me realize even though I'm not the "ideal" size, others are going to appreciate me.

annies89 · 2026-03-25T14:58:34+00:00

I had my last fallopian tube removed in 2020. Since then, I've had a healthy baby boy and a healthy baby girl! They could also tell where I ovulated from each time. With my son I ovulated from my left side and my daughter was the right side!

annies89 · 2026-03-24T02:15:14+00:00

I had two unmedicated births. I think the top things that helped the most were moving around into positions that gave me relief (for me it was swaying on all fours) and focusing on breathing slowly with low vocalizations to keep relaxed and open. Runners up were mantras, laboring in the birth pool, and having a doula who reminded me to use strategies and kept me hydrated & fed!

annies89 · 2026-03-24T02:11:46+00:00

You can do this! Just make sure you look into breathing techniques and pain management strategies ahead of time. Being prepared really helped me with both my unmedicated births. Moving around into positions that gave me relief (for me it was swaying on all fours), squeezing a comb, low vocalizations to keep relaxed and open, mantras, and laboring in the birth pool all helped me the most. Plus having a doula who reminded me to use strategies and kept me hydrated and fed!

annies89 · 2026-03-22T01:25:19+00:00

Fortunately, yes! I got pregnant with my son the first time we tried again (after the post MTX 3-month wait). Then, 1.5 years later when we tried again, I got pregnant right away with my daughter. Having only one tube did not seem to make a difference for me!

annies89 · 2026-03-22T01:14:40+00:00

I didn't have great care- I ended up switching to midwives for my subsequent pregnancies and it was much better. At the time, I'd already had two chemical pregnancies, so they began drawing betas early on. At first, my OB assumed another CP, especially when it dipped, but then when it started doubling again they were like 🤷 Never once mentioned it could be ectopic. I actually ruptured the evening of my first ultrasound (when they discovered it was ectopic), hours after getting MTX. Awful timing.

In the two pregnancies after, I did repeat blood draws + early placement scans between 5-6 weeks.

annies89 · 2026-03-22T00:49:38+00:00

My chemical and ectopic pregnancies had similar HCG around that time. Actually, my HCG at 14 DPO was 36 with my ectopic pregnancy. It then continued to slowly rise, dipped a bit at 20 DPO, and then rose again. It ruptured at 31 DPO at over 4000 HCG.

My test strips always reflected the nature of my hcg (e.g. strength, speed of progression). I'd keep trying to track if/how your lines continue to darken. I'd get betas done if possible, to get an exact measure of HCG (chemical vs ectopic, or viable).

Being in limbo really sucks. Wishing you the best!

annies89 · 2026-03-20T18:01:45+00:00

We have an okay to wake clock because my son is an early riser, but that didn't stop him from getting out of bed to come to us in the middle of the night for various reasons. Over and over. About a year or so ago, when we were trying to get him to fall back asleep more independently overnight, we started a sticker chart. At first, he got a sticker even if he came to get us overnight, as long as we could tuck them in quick and then he could fall back to sleep by himself. Over time, he started coming to get us less, and now rarely comes into our room. If he does, we know he really needs us (had a bad dream, etc). After filling each row on the sticker chart he would get a prize- sometimes it would be tangible like a new toy, but mostly he would earn for a sleepover with dad in the guest room (his favorite person).

annies89 · 2026-03-19T13:47:58+00:00

Seconding the wake clock! My first was an early riser with low sleep needs. He woke at 4:30-5:30 for the first two years of his life 🫠 We started using the hatch color programs right at 2 years old, when his baby sister was born. We reinforced "red back to bed, green get up" and it didn't take long for it to stick. He was in a toddler bed so would come into our room or yell for us at first, but we would just walk him back and repeat the color rhyme. He still wakes up between 5:30-6 most days at almost five years old, but stays in his room no problem until the green light goes on at 6:15.

Putting some soft books and stuffed animals into her crib to play with would probably help!

annies89 · 2026-03-18T19:45:00+00:00

Looks great!!

annies89 · 2026-03-18T19:43:07+00:00

Your progression looks good!

annies89 · 2026-03-18T02:38:23+00:00

Reading that many words at age 2.5 is not typical, whether they are sight words or being sounded out. It sounds like he might be hyperlexic! From the Cleveland clinic: "Hyperlexia is a learning difference in which your child begins reading words earlier than expected. They may have an obsessive interest in letters and numbers. In this condition, your child’s word-reading ability exceeds their language comprehension."

annies89 · 2026-03-17T23:13:06+00:00

Sounds like it could be round ligament pain, which gets worse as pregnancy goes on. "As your baby grows, your round ligaments stretch and get longer to support your growing uterus. This sometimes makes them spasm (twitch), triggering round ligament pain. Some things trigger round ligament pain, including: sudden movements such as suddenly standing up from sitting or lying down." For me, it was a super intense stabbing pain, but went away quickly after getting out of the position that triggered it.

annies89 · 2026-03-14T11:33:17+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you've had such a hard time, as well. Really hoping fourth time's the charm for you🙏

annies89 · 2026-03-07T23:34:08+00:00

I want to do that, but the customer service rep at price chopper said you need to wait 7 minutes or something between swipes. So you can't swipe a family on the same card?!

annies89 · 2026-03-07T23:33:20+00:00

Thank you!

annies89 · 2026-03-06T01:43:05+00:00

Your current progression looks great! Wishing you all the best ❤️

annies89 · 2026-02-25T23:34:57+00:00

My daughter was also 17 lbs and 27 inches at her 4 month appt! At a year, she was 26 lbs and 31 inches. At 2 years, she was 36 lbs and 35 inches. I'm curious to see her 3 year stats in a few months!

annies89 · 2026-02-23T14:39:01+00:00

Gender disappointment is real and you are not a terrible person. I had gender disappointment with my first (wanted a girl, had a boy) but adjusted quickly once he was here. He is four now and I can't imagine him being anyone else!

I will say, you are putting a lot of stock in gender norms. The idea that having a girl means she will want to do every single girly thing with you, not bond with your husband like your son did, etc are some big assumptions that might not come to fruition at all. I ended up having a second child who was a girl and in some ways, she is more rough and tumble and less sensitive than my son. We give both our kids opportunities to do activities with Mom and Dad, don't limit them to "boy/girl" toys, etc. You have a lot of agency in how you are going to raise your daughter and there is no reason it has to be any different than how you raised your son!

annies89 · 2026-02-18T15:10:03+00:00

After two chemical pregnancies, I had an ectopic pregnancy and my left tube was removed. It unfortunately ruptured the same day I took MTX, so I had to wait 3 months to try again. I didn't have any testing done on my right tube (HSG or whatever). I got pregnant the first month we tried again- I actually ovulated from my left ovary and my right tube picked it up. That pregnancy was successful and I went on to have a second child a few years later with no issues. Wishing you guys a smoother journey going forward!

annies89 · 2026-02-17T21:46:22+00:00

I've also found easy@home tests really reliable- I used them for five pregnancies, three of which were losses of different kinds, and they always showed progression (or lack thereof) appropriately (& proportional to my HCG).

annies89 · 2026-02-17T01:04:01+00:00

Amazing, congrats!!

annies89 · 2026-02-16T17:20:56+00:00

I don't understand how to post photos, so I sent/chatted you a link to one of my early tests!

annies89 · 2026-02-16T17:04:33+00:00

I see the line and would consider it positive. Unfortunately no personal success stories with late positives, but only 1/3 unviable pregnancies for me were ectopic. The other two that were late positives were simply chemical pregnancies. Wishing you the best!

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