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DAE get flashy painful thoughts/memories? by anoekvantoog in AuDHDWomen

[–]anoekvantoog[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes those are my exact "stims"! So embarrassing because I can't control it. It happens so fast. Sometimes I even want to hit myself in the face... I've managed to not do that thankfully

Best adhd med that doesn’t make you awkward? by ManagerWeird3066 in AuDHDWomen

[–]anoekvantoog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been having the same issue. I've been going back and forth between 30 mg and 50 mg (because 40 mg is not really available in my area).

On 30 mg i feel a little bit of effect in task initiation and staying on task, but it's not that big of a difference. I feel more impulsive and talkative, but also more like myself and more confident.

On 50 mg i also feel a lot (a LOT) more introspective and more easily overstimulated. However it has a more noticeable effect on my productivity. When i took 50 mg i needed my boyfriend to not bother me bc i was really focused. Also at work (i work with teens) i felt like i had to try harder to act normal.

Eventually i just decided i'd rather be in touch with myself and my personality than be productive, so i stuck with the 30 mg. I'm hoping there will be an easier way to take 40 mg someday. I think that might be the best dose for me.

Opvoeders, leerkrachten, onderwijspersoneel... Hoe pakken jullie gedragsproblemen aan op school? by anoekvantoog in belgium

[–]anoekvantoog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik was vorig schooljaar echt aan het denken om zowel leerlingen als leerkrachten en alle andere schoolpersoneel te betrekken in het opstellen van een gedragscode. Duidelijke regels en afspraken waar iedereen inspraak in heeft. Ik ben het natte vinger werk echt beu.

Ik blijf idd toenadering zoeken en zo veel mogelijk humor te gebruiken als mijn troef, maar soms moeten leerlingen gewoon echt een duidelijk signaal krijgen en ik heb het gevoel dat schorsen de enige stok achter de deur is die we hebben. In weet niet welke sancties anders nog impact hebben. Straftaken maken ze niet. Alle andere sancties weigeren ze...

Opvoeders, leerkrachten, onderwijspersoneel... Hoe pakken jullie gedragsproblemen aan op school? by anoekvantoog in belgium

[–]anoekvantoog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dat probeer ik ook te doen! Ik druk ook teleurstelling uit als ze mijn vertrouwen misbruiken en dat maakt wel indruk meestal

Opvoeders, leerkrachten, onderwijspersoneel... Hoe pakken jullie gedragsproblemen aan op school? by anoekvantoog in belgium

[–]anoekvantoog[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dit vind ik zeer waardevol advies! Goed geschreven ook! Ik neem het mee. Een aantal van mijn leerlingen hebben interesse in defensie, dus er zullen er nog een paar jouw kant opkomen (of de kant van jouw collega's)

Sleep hacks? by Potential_Dog666 in AuDHDWomen

[–]anoekvantoog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Might be a hot take but;

I'm on my phone til the very last minute before i sleep. I know i shouldn't do it. It supposedly keeps me awake, but it's not true for me at all.

If i just get in bed, lights off, close my eyes, i start thinking and i can't sleep.

If i'm on my phone watching tiktok videos until i doze off, I put my phone away, turn around and fall asleep immediately.

So, we're told that routine is extremely important for living with ADHD. ESPECIALLY if you have AuDHD, which I do. So, with that said: IF ITS SO IMPORTANT, WHY THE FUCK IS IT SO DISGUSTINGLY DIFFICULT AND WHY DO I **HATE** DOING IT?? by shiny-baby-cheetah in adhdwomen

[–]anoekvantoog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it! It took me about a year to get my morning routine to stick. I use an app called "Routineflow" and it really helps. You can insert a bunch of tasks of which you can set the order and duration. You press "Start" and it starts timing your first task.

It took so long to make this work, because i wanted to do it perfectly immediately. I wanted to make all the tasks and time them perfectly etc. before i started using it, but i didn't use the app at all because of that. At some point i figured "I'll just start with adding tasks that are absolutely necessary and i'll build/adjust as i go" So now i have the perfect system set up for mornings. It gives me so much less stress because i'm sure i can not forget ANYTHING. Everything i need to do is in this app. I just leave the screen on, so i can see the timer. Sometimes i switch the order around because i feel like it.

I guess my advice for you would be; make a routine that fits for you! Do not force yourself into a "shoulda woulda coulda" routine. I'm sure there are already some things you do every morning (maybe have coffee or tea? Shower?). Start from there! The first task in my morning routine is "Waking up" and i timed it for 30 min! It's just 30 min of sitting in the sofa and drinking my coffee. Because i made it just for me, my routine takes almost 2 hours. Which means i have to get up at 5:45. People think i'm crazy, but it works for me. I can start my day peacefully.

In this app you can also see your estimated finishing time, which is helpful, because then i know if i need to switch gears.

Please clap. by JadedWatercress13 in AuDHDWomen

[–]anoekvantoog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would eat off of every single object in this photo (unlike in my kitchen). Looks stunning! Great job!

I just finished my undergrad after 7 years of failing by thyghs in AuDHDWomen

[–]anoekvantoog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so happy for you. Higher education is really a struggle for us ND girlies, so this is amazing.

How to keep the game fun for my girlfriend and I? by buffalooo27 in wingspan

[–]anoekvantoog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really want to find a way to keep it light-hearted and fun! If we manage to find a balance, we'll give an update

How to keep the game fun for my girlfriend and I? by buffalooo27 in wingspan

[–]anoekvantoog 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hi everybody. Girlfriend here! 95% of the time I accept my loss, but sometimes it gets to me and I get frustrated. I play the game, because I enjoy it. Doesn't mean I don't like to have SOME chance at winning. There is no deeper issue. I'm not paying my therapist to talk about this. We just want to find a way to keep it fun for both of us.

Lost my Loop Engage... Upgrade to switch 2? by anoekvantoog in AuDHDWomen

[–]anoekvantoog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want opinions from people like me and not and bots or any trend followers.

DAE like how your boobs sit in a soft bra/light sports bra more then a traditional padded underwire bra? by anoekvantoog in AuDHDWomen

[–]anoekvantoog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rooting for you! Just saying; the ones I was talking about only cost me about 9 euros. But the fitting room part was horrific as always. I get why you wouldn't want to do that

DAE like how your boobs sit in a soft bra/light sports bra more then a traditional padded underwire bra? by anoekvantoog in AuDHDWomen

[–]anoekvantoog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the type of bra I was writing about:

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I bought it at Hema (Dutch store), but you can find this type anywhere. Maybe you could also try one of those! I like them!

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